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piggyback off of annoying questions/statements

nextworldwondernextworldwonder member
in December 2014 Moms
To be in tune with something that actually matches the title, I would like to complain about how really annoyed I am with people telling me that I am "small" and they didn't even know I was pregnant. I'm an esthetician so I wear scrubs at work. Not maternity scrubs, just a shirt larger than I normally would. In addition to that I am tall and I have a long torso. Do these people think they're saying something new? Every single client I see says the same thing. And then it's the same story about how I am bigger now that with DD1 and she was born over 10 lbs. There are days I envy those of you complaining about people saying you're huge. It is far from judgemental and pity looks from people thinking you're malnourished or growing a small baby. Grrr!!!
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  • nextworldwondernextworldwonder member
    @leosmom25 I promise it is not humble. It's insanely annoying. People can be very judgmental. And their pity eyes... oh the pity eyes. Like I'm starving myself or something. Not at all the case. And to hear the same thing and have the same conversation every 45 minutes. Ugh
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  • drpaynedrpayne member
    edited October 2014
    I don't think people are going to feel sorry for you :) and I have a hard time believing you'd rather be huge.

    Also, get used to unwelcome comments. This is my third baby. In the last week I've heard "I hate to tell you this but youre having a boy," "just one baby in there?" and "you look like you could go any day." It still gets old but I still can't change it. I'm average size and I've only gained 15 lbs. People, in general, have no clue what the hell they're talking about.
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  • nextworldwondernextworldwonder member
    @leosmom25 I'm not saying that I actually am small. But without a specific maternity shirt, and being tall and therefore spread out vertically, people just assume. I'm measuring large, just like with DD1.

    I am sorry you broke a stair though. That would make me cranky too. Actually, I probably would still be crying over it. 
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  • nextworldwondernextworldwonder member
    @drpayne I'm not looking for sympathy. I just thought that with a title like "annoying questions/statements" it should actually be a vent space. People are rude. It's only a matter of time before the "are you sure there's only one in there" people turn into the "are you sure you're not still pregnant" people. Jerks. Some people are so much nicer when they just don't open their mouths
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  • NoodlesandriceNoodlesandrice member
    Not to sound like a bitch, but I think you look clearly pregnant in your avatar pic. Maybe it's because scrubs are loose? I actually am huge during this preg and bumping hard, yet if I wear loose clothing it's not as easily visible. I usually wear bump hugging clothes. I don't know, maybe you can have your scrubs tailored if it bothers you that much.
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  • nextworldwondernextworldwonder member
    The avatar is from a few weeks ago. But yeah, the scrubs are a little loose. I bought them so I could grow into them and still be able to wear the pp on lazy days. I'm still busting through them to a point though. I feel that I shouldn't have to change what is comfortable just to avoid the same conversation every 45 minutes. Why can't people just leave it at "How far along are you? Oh that's great!" Why does everything think they get to have an opinion on bump shape/size, large or small
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  • desireearieldesireeariel member
    Getting either comment sucks! I've gotten wow you don't even look pregnant which makes me feel like I'm just blob looking and wow you're huge which makes me feel like an abnormal sized whale. You cannot win when commenting on a womans size whether she is pregnant or not. People just need to freaking realize it is a comment best left to themselves.
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  • NoodlesandriceNoodlesandrice member
    Yeah, but people are rude and they think they get to comment about preg women and appearance. It's def rude and annoying but you can't often dictate their reactions. So your only options are to say something snarky back, tailor your scrubs, or say nothing but stew about it. :-/
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  • allfalldown14allfalldown14 member
    I usually get the "oh wow, you're tiny for being that far along" or "have you found out the sex of your baby yet?" but last week I got the "WHEN are you DUE?" question from a parent from work. Believe me the "you look so small" remarks are much nicer to hear. No complaints!
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  • Kmm1023Kmm1023 member
    It would make my day if someone said I was small! I would assume that they had serious sight problems! But yeah not a good thread for hormonal third tri ladies!
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  • Lexxilou1986Lexxilou1986 member
    I'm tall, long torso and also wear scrubs. I look very, very pregnant in regular clothes but scrubs hide a lot!! Many have looked at me in the last week or so and said, "wow I didn't even know you were pregnant". I try not to let anyone's comments get to me. At the end of the day, I love my giant pregnant belly and boobs. I've even embraced my expanding ass. If someone wants to comment one way or the other...to hell with them. My opinions the only one that matters :)
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  • NmcalhounNmcalhoun member
    I've concluded people in general annoy me while pregnant.  I was in walmart the other day and an associate was like " Oh we're getting a new baby! " as I walked by.  Like what? I"M getting a new baby, you are not.  Then a guy from work was like " So how much time do we have left? " what is this we crap? Then there's always the are you sure theres not two in there? or Oh wow you're due in December? I thought you were due any day now!  I guess some people just don't have a filter around pregnant women. 
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  • jlmynesjlmynes member
    edited October 2014
    I think it's just as annoying and rude for people to say you're not big or "wow you're still tiny" as it is for them to say things like "are you sure there's only 1 in there"! I also feel like I get the stink eye from people thinking I'm malnourishing my baby when I tell them I'm 8 months or when I'm at the gym working out. We were all different shapes and sizes before we got pregnant so obviously we're going to be different shapes and sizes carrying a child! (People don't like to be called anorexic any more than someone likes to be called fat!)
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  • stejjystejjy member
    My friends who haven't had babies or been around pregnant people are always like "woah you're heeeuge!". Then my friends who have keep saying I'm tiny. People have no idea.

    The kid is healthy in there, so idgaf how I look..
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  • DoctorWorm222DoctorWorm222 member
    Honestly, I get it. From experience -- its obnoxious to get the "how the yell you gonna make it to December?" comments from people, and its also obnoxious to get told "you're so tiny!" when you feel like a flippin' beached whale -- and sometimes in the same day! 
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  • RicKeyBabyRicKeyBaby member
    No! Say it ain't so :(
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  • ColeyCannoliColeyCannoli member

    jlmynes said:
    I think it's just as annoying and rude for people to say you're not big or "wow you're still tiny" as it is for them to say things like "are you sure there's only 1 in there"! I also feel like I get the stink eye from people thinking I'm malnourishing my baby when I tell them I'm 8 months or when I'm at the gym working out. We were all different shapes and sizes before we got pregnant so obviously we're going to be different shapes and sizes carrying a child! (People don't like to be called anorexic any more than someone likes to be called fat!)
    Eh... I understand but I have an instant side-eye for thin girls who have to jump in and say how it is just as hard to be small as it is to be big. In Western culture, it just isn't the same. All women get shit for their bodies and none of us ever seem to be told we have it right, but fat is still more stigmatized than thin. Yeah, jealous people will make mean comments or people will say "you are so tiny!" as a misguided compliment. But I have never heard someone say "omg, look at that skinny girl, should she even be allowed to have kids? CPS should take them away." Which really does happen.

    Still, it is no one's business what you look like and people should keep their stupid opinions to themselves. I have no idea why pregnancy opens the floodgates for these dumb comments.

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    DoctorWorm222 said:


    leosmom25 said:

    I am wearing my shower dress to work today. Everyone who has seen me so far at work has said
    "you look beautiful today." THIS is an acceptable thing to say to a pregnant woman.

    Exactly! That, or "may I bring you a snack?"    :)

    Or here's some free chocolate!
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  • rshamosrshamos member
    RicKeyBaby said:
    for serious tho?........... I'm just happy December is around the corner and then no more pregnancy comments! Just oh look a baby!....yes....let's get to that....for now....this is my spirit animal.
    I would have to be hairless to look like that. I have a linea negra, but it's black hair. And I'm blond!
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    Eora3 said:
    How about "You look radiant, healthy, and beautiful. May I clean your house, make you dinner, and fold all the laundry?" A girl can dream.
    Brag: This is totally my husband. The most he asks me to do is sort some loads of laundry for him to do and decide what we're having for dinner. Also drive him to work, but that's because it's on my way and he doesn't drive. I'm pretty sure he's a robot. If I didn't have him I would not have made it through this year.

    You guys, he didn't even bat an eye when I got upset that he "did the laundry wrong" (read: he knows nothing about girl clothes - I forgot to tell him not to put my new shirt in the dryer) and had a full hormonal breakdown. He just apologized, said he understood if I wanted to go out and buy some new clothes to replace them, and vowed to always read the label from now on.

    ROBOT. HE'S A ROBOT.

    He's the one that should be writing a book. "How I survived my crazy wife's pregnancy" or something.

    Don't get too excited though, he makes up for it in weird other habits, but he's been a really awesome husband to a pregnant lady. Even if he tries to steal my snoogle at night.
    You lost me at "tries to steal my snoogle". 
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  • ColeyCannoliColeyCannoli member
    I will admit that I cried looking at my puffy face this morning cause hormones and I feel too gross to go outside even though I have to. So my sympathies are just not working >_<
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  • sarals24sarals24 member
    Meh. I don't think this is the forum to complain about being super small during pregnancy, but a lady at work today told me that she couldn't believe I was 32 weeks along (nice!) but that if she were me she'd be super worried because she just read an article that talked about the correlation between low birth rate and academic problems later in life (not so nice!) 

    For the record, I am not tiny by any means, I'm just tall with a long torso and was wearing an extra blousey top today, so I didn't lok *as* pregnant as I normally do. And I weighed 10.5 at birth and my husband was 11.1 (YIKES HOW DID MY MIL DO THAT) so I'm reeeeeeally not going to worry about having a small baby. But thanks, lady!
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    How about 'I can't even imagine how hard it is to have to grow and carry a baby all day and night. Here, let me give you a pedicure, a massage and a mind blowing happy ending. 
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