Weekend shock **OPP MENTIONED**

Re: Weekend shock **OPP MENTIONED**

• BunnyBerry member

  October 2014

  I choose to believe that the woman somehow went through her entire life without ever being exposed to a warning that smoking is harmful to developing babies.

  
  

  Which is why I hereby give myself permission to "educate" any obviously pregnant woman I see smoking, and that makes me feel better about it right now.

  
  

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• emilycatlady member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  I found it a shock to see her there at all! I noticed her there inside and was like hmmm... She's KU and she's at a club? Blaring music, drunk people everywhere, what happens if she accidentally gets pushed over or knocked around by some ignoramus?
  Then I saw her in the smoking area and was like well, okey dokey then that's happening now. I just feel so ... Offended that someone would take their pregnancy for granted like that.
  
  I suppose as unfortunate as it sounds, for us babies are miracles to be cherished and never put in harms way, for others they just happen as easily as clicking your fingers. Even if she wasn't smoking though I feel like I would've had my judging face on because she was in a nightclub in a designated smoking area and she'd need to be uneducated and living under a rock to not know secondhand smoke (as well as first hand) is so so bad for a fetus. Urgh.

  Me (22) & Steve (23)

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• Shauntee member

  October 2014

  Ugh! That is disgusting. I don't think you're being overly sensitive at all. There is no reason that she should not know the risks behind it. Praying that baby is born without the side effects of her selfishness.

  Me-33 DH-36.

  Married 11/10 TTC 11/10

  06/11- diagnosed with PCOS 

  7/11- D&C and benched for a year 

  9/12-4/13-6 rounds of 50 mg Clomid- no sucess 

  6/13- new doc

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  5/14-7/14- took break waiting for new insurance 

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• LindseyM2012 member

  October 2014

  I don't think you're being overly sensitive. That is just straight up ignorant and shameful. I can understand why that might hit you more. Every time I see a pregnant woman or mom with child doing something stupid like this, I always think, "A woman THAT ignorant is allowed to have a child, but I CAN'T?????" 

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  Married September 2012. TTC since September 2013

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  Cycle 1 (Nov 2014): 2.5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI = BFN

  Cycle 2 (Dec 2014): 5 mg Letrozole/Ovidrel/TI - BFN
  

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• juneroses member

  October 2014

  I'm going to join in that this is not overly sensitive. @emilycatlady‌ put it well - for us each baby is a miracle, but you only have to watch the news to see how many people have kids who should have never had. Poor kid.

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• BandM14 member

  October 2014

  I don't think you are being overly sensitive AT ALL. Like @LindseyM2012, I automatically think about how unfair it is that people who do those kinds of things are able to have children while I'm having such a hard time. Unfortunately, at my work, I see people who are the same and even worse--  hard drugs and binge-drinking while pregnant, due to their addictions and mental illnesses. Some days it really, really gets to me. 

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  Nov-Dec 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #2 (1 follie, 76 mil. motile sperm) + Endometrin=BFN

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• SuzyHomemaker07 member

  October 2014

  She def would have gotten the side eye from me! I mean, I know everyone has a struggle we don't know about so I try not to judge....but.

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• emilycatlady member

  October 2014

  I think that IF has made me judgemental. I often look at other people around me (especially those closest to me) and think "shouldn't be doing that... Shouldn't have done this"
  But at the same time I feel like it'll make me a better mum eventually because I know what not to do :P
  
  I have friends that smoked while pregnant and at the time I didn't think there was an issue although the I obviously know better now. I find I smoke when I'm stressed and like I said I was the deso (and the visit from AF threw me off) and I have some anxiety issues about going out to night clubs but even then if i was pregnant I can guarentee I'd never touch a cigarette again.

  Me (22) & Steve (23)

  Furbabies: Samsung and Greystache

  Engaged since Feb 2014

  DX: PCOS Feb 2013

  Lap for suspected endo: August 2014 - nothing found

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• emilycatlady member

  October 2014

  I get the "I don't have kids so I can't judge" feelings hardcore @murrt‌ ... It's so difficult to watch people do moronic things with children and hold in the judgement.

  Me (22) & Steve (23)

  Furbabies: Samsung and Greystache

  Engaged since Feb 2014

  DX: PCOS Feb 2013

  Lap for suspected endo: August 2014 - nothing found

  Metformin 500mg - attempting to lose a few kgs

  
  

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• Ann612 member

  October 2014

  You are not being overly sensitive, that is straight up fucked up.  And really, really tacky.  

  
  

  I went out once with a group of girlfriends and one of them was about 7 months along (so clearly pregnant).  She had two drinks.  Cocktails.  She kept saying "my doctor says it's OK to have a drink in the 3rd trimester".  But this was not a small glass of wine at home, this was 2 strong cocktails in public.  I was embarrassed FOR her.  

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