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Monday Bitchfest

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  • dogperson11dogperson11 member
    I go back to work today. I'm dreading it. Has DH asked me at all how I'm doing? Nope. I'm feeling 0 support from him... If I brought it up he would be supportive, but It's unlike him not to have asked.
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    This morning when LO dad came over at 5 while I got ready for work he was a total ass. Kept repeating how he was so tired of getting up. After just a half hour when I was leaving he was super pissy she wasn't asleep yet.

    He chose to continue to "help" with her in the mornings since I work before daycare opens.

    I hate leaving LO when he has an attitude. She's not in harm but the negative vibes around her I hate.

    Asshole of the year award to you buddy.
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  • belle785belle785 member
    I went back to work two weeks ago and DS2 starts daycare today. I feel like I'm running to keep up with getting everything ready for both kids- I don't know how I'm ever going to continuously do this. I'm so tired already and coming down with a cold.

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  • cachoquecachoque member
    I'm also starting work today. LO slept well and yet I couldn't! Too much to think about b/w how I'm going to make this work and all of the issues I left behind at work that I now must confront. Today is going to be long & hard!
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  • lynds002lynds002 member
    We have a pet sugar glider who has decided to start barking three times a night for the past week, probably because he's lonely because his partner died a couple of weeks ago. It sounds like a small dog's bark. This either wakes up DS, me, or both. I do not need to be losing more sleep. Something needs to change but our house isn't big enough to put the glider somewhere where he won't be heard.
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  • SoSayWeAllSoSayWeAll member
    My grandma gave me another guilt trip about being a working mom. I would love to stay home a year or work a lot less but unfortunately that doesn't pay the bills when you're the main breadwinner. Also, the MOTN feedings/wakeups are lasting an hour and a half lately. :'(
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  • Luciana428Luciana428 member
    edited October 2014
    LO has decided that she wants to wake up 15-30 minutes after I put her down every night at least twice, push her bedtime back to 1130 and wake up at 6 every morning. You are kiiiilllllling me kid.

    Edit: So little sleep.
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  • Luciana428Luciana428 member
    Thanks, @Justine2502‌! Perspective is everything and I know I should be be grateful for my sleep, but infants are so freaking sneaky! Just when you are all, "I got this" they change sh!t up. I'm a FTM. Can ya tell?!
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  • Shiva14Shiva14 member
    DS slept all of 2 hours last night. And DH, I never bitch about you but the correct response when your alarm goes off and you say good morning and I tell you I only slept 2 hours is NOT to roll over and hit the snooze button. I'm sorry you're tired after your 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep - must be hard. I secretly applauded DS for getting really loud and squirmy at that moment.
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  • cdsenocdseno member
    After H finally came to bed last night he stole all the covers off me and then he laid on top of them so I couldn't get them back and I froze all night. Also, when my 2.5 year old wakes up he immediately starts talking and wiggling around and it doesn't stop until he goes back to bed at night. There are days that his constant chatter makes my brain hurt.
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  • jamjoyfuljamjoyful member
    I feel myself getting sick. I do not have time to not feel good right now. Also, the kids are completely overtired from the weekend resulting in crummy sleep for both of them.
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  • tamarar5tamarar5 member
    Love my DH, but seriously? I flipping HATE it when he wakes me up for sex. Geez, dude, couldn't you wait another hour or two until I woke up naturally?
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  • RedBean84RedBean84 member
    edited October 2014
    LO had her first cold this weekend and barely nursed for 2 days. I caught the cold from her yesterday and now I think I'm getting my period. Ugh!

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  • cardgal14cardgal14 member
    We had 2 glorious weeks of STTN. 5 days ago, we were back to waking up every 2-3 hours. Last night we tried to transition to the crib because I thought he might be getting too long for the RnP. It went pretty well until 3 am, when between 3-5:30 we had 4 unsuccessful attempts to lay him in the crib. Arms and legs in the air as soon as he hit the mattress. Then he slept 3 more hours when I gave up and put him back in the RnP. Uggghh. I took those 2 weeks for granted!
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    Oh, and our power went out Saturday afternoon for less than an hour. It killed our internet, so waiting on TWC to come out and fix it this afternoon. First world problems.
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    ginny5683 said:

    WTF to all of you women who let your husband sleep through the night while you do all the work.  We aren't BFing any longer, but even when we were I would make my husband go get the kid and bring him to me.  Now that we are FFing and my kid wakes up once around 3-4am, I make my husband feed him - in the living room - while I attempt to go back to sleep. Why?  Because I entertain/tend to the kid the other 90% of the time. 

    Also on top of making him get up for MOTN feedings - I wake him if he has stolen the covers or is snoring.  I also reject his advances if they in any way wake me, and odds are I will continue to reject him out of spite.  My husband knows better now. 

    I accept my bitch status.  It's a joint venture, don't put up with that shit.  Make the jerk get up. 

    Meh, I don't mind getting up for MOTN feedings. I wake up easier to LO anyways so by the time DH has heard her, I'm wide awake. I don't attempt to wake him up for it because I would just think of everything he is "doing wrong" and then proceed to stay awake for my insomnia hour afterwards.

    Also he works, I don't (for now) and I know he appreciates me more for doing the night feedings.
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    It's already lunch and I haven't gotten any work done this morning.

    Why must everything be so random on Monday mrornings?!
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  • alphaxi614alphaxi614 member
    We have a huge convention next week. All of a sudden all of my clients have realized this and need quotes and equipment RIGHT NOW.  Also the hotel is STILL booking meetings and my director is out of town start Saturday for almost 3 weeks.   Oh and I just came to the property a month ago so I don't know much about what's going on.  I am super slammed and by myself.  GAH
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  • JenrileysmomJenrileysmom member
    My husband works away M-F so it's just me and I have a hard time letting him get up in the MOTN on the weeked without getting up too. I'm a little bit of a control freak when it comes to my kids and he always manages to throw off the routine.
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  • chase16chase16 member
    hmctagg01 said:
    chase16 said:
    I know that I'm only 6.5 weeks PP. I know "9 months on, 9 months off." I know things are different down there because I pushed 8 pounds of baby out. But... I hate my body right now. I just want my clothes to fit right again. I want to wear my jeans again. I want sex to feel like it used to. I felt fat and gross for 90% of my pregnancy. I feel fat and gross now. I JUST WANT TO FEEL NORMAL!! but the boobs. I'll keep the bfing boobs.
    Allllllll of this!  I wasn't particularly in shape before getting pregnant, but it totally makes me appreciate those "fat days".  I'm so tired of pants without buttons, but I don't want to invest a bunch of money in new clothes since I'm hoping to not stay this size.  

    What's even worse, I'm finding working out really difficult.  DD screams in the stroller for walks, but get super sweaty in the Ergo.  Her naps are too irregular to do any kind of at home work out while she sleeps- but that's assuming I get her to nap on a surface other than my chest.  By the time H gets home from work, it's the witching/cluster feed hour.  Plus my boobs are so leaky, I would only be able to go right after a feed (pumping increases my supply ridiculously and would only make the problem worse).  This is probably a bunch of excuses, but they all feel like legit reasons to me!  Come on BFing magic!!! that whole 3-6 month thing better be true!!!
    Try ThredUP.com.. It's like an online consignment shop. I'm going to buy a couple of pairs of jeans in my current size, so I can stop wearing maternity jeans. That way you're not investing a ton of money in new clothes, but you can wear pants with buttons!
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  • debset396debset396 member
    This eat play sleep routine is crap. DD only falls asleep if she's sucking something, and she hates all the binkies! So she either has to nurse or have a bottle. I'm sick of feeling like I'm doing it all wrong.
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  • RachelB104RachelB104 member
    Period ; that is all
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  • smcsharry15smcsharry15 member
    Ugh!!!! So DH is the training officer for our local fire department, which means he has meetings twice a week from 7-9. That's all hunky dory, but for fuck's sake.... Tonight when he left, our toddler was having a COMPLETE meltdown, our newborn was screaming to be nursed, and I was trying to cook dinner. He came home just in time to take a shower before heading into the fire hall. Which means..... When he gets home at 9:30-10:00ish, I have to go down and bring in my horses and do roughly two hours of barn chores - since he cut it so close before leaving. Thanks much.
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  • sharkmama39sharkmama39 member
    Last week I worked three days and it was crazy hectic but that made the days go by so quick! Today was the beginning of my first full week back at work. It was everything you would expect out of a Monday and it's made me remember how much they suck. I won't go into detail but will say I love my job but some things that happened today made me really start thinking about some possible changes that will get me more time with LO.
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  • Shiva14Shiva14 member
    ginny5683 said:


    SoSayWeAll said:

    I don't ask MH to get up in the MOTN if DS is going to be fed(EBF) I guess I don't see the point of both of us getting up. I am going back to work in a week so if DS is waking up at other times that may change. DH is extremely helpful on the weekends and after work in the evenings.
    I got it... but then the women that do this need to have a conversation with their husband that he has no right to complain when he does have to get up (as mentioned earlier in this thread).


    I'm guessing this was meant for me. I in no way feel like my husband doesn't help out! I EBF and stay home, so I get up with LO during the night which we agreed on from the get go. He helps in so many other ways. I'm sure he felt the same way I did this morning when he got home from work and I handed him the baby and a bottle and went to take a 5 hour nap.

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  • abnelsen22abnelsen22 member
    edited October 2014
    ginny5683 said:


    Shiva14 said:


    SoSayWeAll said:

    I don't ask MH to get up in the MOTN if DS is going to be fed(EBF) I guess I don't see the point of both of us getting up. I am going back to work in a week so if DS is waking up at other times that may change. DH is extremely helpful on the weekends and after work in the evenings.
    I got it... but then the women that do this need to have a conversation with their husband that he has no right to complain when he does have to get up (as mentioned earlier in this thread).
    I'm guessing this was meant for me. I in no way feel like my husband doesn't help out! I EBF and stay home, so I get up with LO during the night which we agreed on from the get go. He helps in so many other ways. I'm sure he felt the same way I did this morning when he got home from work and I handed him the baby and a bottle and went to take a 5 hour nap.

    Not just you... but you might have been the trigger. haha  I just hate how so many moms are OK with their husbands not helping.  I have a cousin who has  4 and 1 year old daughters... the dad has NEVER changed a diaper - ever.  But yet she complains he doesn't help out.  I think it's just as much the moms fault if they don't put some of the responsibility on the dad. 

    I'm a hardass and I make my husband get up for the MOTN feeding - yes... I hear the baby crying and wake up my husband to get up to feed him.  Once he's up he's fine, but my husband doesn't hear the baby crying either (even though the RNP is next to our bed). Most times I lay in bed listening to what is going on in the living room, because I know that I could be doing it faster/better/etc.  but if I were to do it myself he's never going to learn.  And I'd be burnt out!  I'm not niave enough to think that it's going to always be 50/50 when it comes to raising our kids, but you better believe that he will have to do his share - which we discussed (and will continue to discuss) before getting pregnant. 

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    This exactly. We don't have MOTN feedings anymore, but I would wake him up if he didn't hear. He doesn't always do things the way I think is best, but he gets them done and he's a better parent because of it.
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