Annoying questions/statements

kirstey728 · October 2014

I get super annoyed by most things lately... Lmfao.

But there are a couple of ladies that I work with that are always stressing the fact that they "can't wait to be pregnant" or they are "so jealous I get to start a family" with DH (we work in the same place).

These ladies are 6&8 years older than I am and they are both single.... This makes me feel annoyed and bad at the same time.

When I am around them and they make those comments, I just brush it off and tell them that it's not their time to have kids because they haven't found the right guy, but I am not sure I can keep listening to this much longer... The nasty stew of guilt and annoyance is starting to take a toll on my relationship, too. Dh says that I read into it too much and I am silly for feeling bad.

I hate being put into a position like this since they're both good friends of mine, and they see me and Dh every day happy....

Am I silly for that? Lol

kirstey728 · October 2014

Feeling guilty for being pregnant around them..... Like I'm rubbing it in their face.

Actually I know it's silly, but I'm just wayyyyyyyyy too emotional. Haha

leoandethansmom · October 2014

Dear diary, the title of this thread does not match the post. Yes, you are being "silly".

Eora3 · October 2014

I don't get it. You feel guilty because your coworkers are not married and pregnant??? Like you have any impact on their life choices? And somehow this is such a big deal that you are letting it "take a toll on your relationship"?

WTF. "Silly" does not begin to cover it.

BrideLinds · October 2014

How dare you be pregnant around non - pregnant ladies that want to be pregnant one day.

leoandethansmom · October 2014

Oh and just in case cuz I could see a DD, the title of this thread is annoying questions/statements.

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cwbh928 · October 2014

I get being annoyed. However, I don't understand why you are letting it bother you so much to where it takes a toll on your relationship; seems a little crazy

Free country=free speech. So they can make comments all they want. Personally if I was in your shoes I wouldn't give 2 fcks about what they say or think and I most certainly would not fee guilty. Their issues/life /= your problem. Just enjoy what you have!

RayRay007 · October 2014

People are seemingly happy for you that you are married and pg and you are annoyed that they are commenting because they're older, single and childless?

Krisx2 · October 2014

They have emotions of jealousy over your pregnancy because they are older, single, and not pregnant. You are annoyed and feel guilty because you are pregnant and married and you are letting these emotions eat at you. Yes, one of these sentences describes a silly person.

**HINT...it's not the first sentence.

kirstey728 · October 2014

Well I know it's silly to feel like that but I am super annoyed at feeling all of these feelings at once.

My point is I am 20 years old. Married and happy. My friends are dropping subtle hints that they're jealous of me, making me feel empathetic of how they feel.... But on the flip side SUPER annoyed that they always bring it up.

The only topic of conversation anymore between my friends and I are about pregnancy......

Just plain annoying.

I feel silly for feeling guilty. I am entitled to start my life with DH whenever I see fit, so why do I feel like this?

It's a vicious cycle of emotions.

kirstey728 · October 2014

I'm sure some of you ladies have overreacted in a situation that should be about nothing.

Like ones that you can look back on and be like "what the heck was I thinking?!?!"

I know without a doubt that this will be one of those situations. Just wanting to get out how I feel, I suppose.

leoandethansmom · October 2014

kirstey728 said:
Well I know it's silly to feel like that but I am super annoyed at feeling all of these feelings at once.

My point is I am 20 years old. Married and happy. My friends are dropping subtle hints that they're jealous of me, making me feel empathetic of how they feel.... But on the flip side SUPER annoyed that they always bring it up.

The only topic of conversation anymore between my friends and I are about pregnancy......

Just plain annoying.

I feel silly for feeling guilty. I am entitled to start my life with DH whenever I see fit, so why do I feel like this?

It's a vicious cycle of emotions.

You could have stopped at I am 20 years old, that cleared it up for me.

leoandethansmom · October 2014

kirstey728 said:
I'm sure some of you ladies have overreacted in a situation that should be about nothing.

Like ones that you can look back on and be like "what the heck was I thinking?!?!"

I know without a doubt that this will be one of those situations. Just wanting to get out how I feel, I suppose.

Qfp

RaeChay · October 2014

Ah yes, I remember 20.

These women are trying to be nice to you. There was no way in hell I was ready for a baby at age 20. It is very possible that they feel the same way that I did at that age and are now getting to a point in their lives where the concept of babies seems desirable.

I really REALLY wouldn't read into it any further than that.

Meether · October 2014

I feel like you want them to be jealous of you. 28 is by no means older, and definitely not nearly too old to be worried about family planning. You're taking it totally out of context and over reacting. Just ignore their comments if they're so bad.

LaxMOM44 · October 2014

kirstey728 said:
Well I know it's silly to feel like that but I am super annoyed at feeling all of these feelings at once.

My point is I am 20 years old. Married and happy. My friends are dropping subtle hints that they're jealous of me, making me feel empathetic of how they feel.... But on the flip side SUPER annoyed that they always bring it up.

The only topic of conversation anymore between my friends and I are about pregnancy......

Just plain annoying.

I feel silly for feeling guilty. I am entitled to start my life with DH whenever I see fit, so why do I feel like this?

It's a vicious cycle of emotions.

Ooooooh I see what you did there, snuck in a humble brag.

"All my friends are soooooo jealous of my life, cause DH and I are awesome and having babies is awesome".

Ya they aren't jealous they are just dreaming of what having babies will be like, then they go out for happy hour after work see a cute guy take him home have fun one night only sex and sleep in til noon the next day.

racheldiaries · October 2014

They're making conversation and finding ways to relate. I doubt any are seriously that jealous of you.

I was married at 20 and would talk about kids frequently with fellow co-workers not because I wanted them at that point in time at all, but because it was something I could see in my future and it was a way for me to relate to them.

Noodlesandrice · October 2014

Aww, that's cute. They aren't jealous, OP. They are trying to be nice. I will break it down into an anecdote you can understand.

Sometimes when a friend gets a haircut, I say "hey! I like your haircut, who do you go to?" But I don't intend to go get my haircut by the same person, sometimes I don't even like it that much, other times I mean it but realize the same haircut wouldn't suit me at all. I'm merely making conversation and trying to be nice and make my friend feel good. I seriously doubt any of my friends sit around smug and think "yep, that bitch is SO jealous". But then again, my friends are more mature and less self obsessed/delusional.

amedbery · October 2014

Listen to your husband. They are being nice. These aren't old spinsters, they just waited a little later to settle down. I met my husband at 25 and married at 29. That's about the norm among most of my friends. Maybe you're so self-involved that you don't realize that your pregnancy is all you really talk about, leaving them little option but talk about it when they talk to you. Maybe they think you are too young and immature to start a family but want to be kind and are overcompensating. But for you to take it as some sort of affront is just weird.

BLH2014 · October 2014

kirstey728 said:

When I am around them and they make those comments, I just brush it off and tell them that it's not their time to have kids because they haven't found the right guy, but I am not sure I can keep listening to this much longer...

STUCK IN QUOTE BOX

I'm surprised no one has commented on this, but WHO THE HELL SAYS THIS?? I guess I shouldn't be surprised, everyone knows everything at age 20. This whole post is ridiculous.

kirstey728 · October 2014

I just try to be nice.... One of them is SUPER into their faith and has mentioned once that she thought god was punishing her for not being settled down at 28 years old.... The comment was made to lift her spirits like a god has a plan for you type statement....

I do have to admit I'm not a very faithful person, so it probably wasn't the right thing to say......

This post was meant as a vent because I feel ridiculous for feeling this way. Annoyed and bad at the same time.... Like seriously? Who does that.

But I suppose it doesn't matter because I'm only 20 so I am just automatically stupid....
But I appreciate that and the people in here who have just let me vent.....

leoandethansmom · October 2014

kirstey728 said:

I just try to be nice.... One of them is SUPER into their faith and has mentioned once that she thought god was punishing her for not being settled down at 28 years old.... The comment was made to lift her spirits like a god has a plan for you type statement.... I do have to admit I'm not a very faithful person, so it probably wasn't the right thing to say...... This post was meant as a vent because I feel ridiculous for feeling this way. Annoyed and bad at the same time.... Like seriously? Who does that. But I suppose it doesn't matter because I'm only 20 so I am just automatically stupid.... But I appreciate that and the people in here who have just let me vent.....

I feel annoyed that this thread is still going and I feel bad that I keep wasting my time reading it. Apparently feeling annoyed and bad at the same time is more common than you think.

kirstey728 · October 2014

To be honest, @pookie08, I feel like I know nothing.... But I've always kinda felt like that...

I wasn't trying to snap out. Some people here have just been really supportive and others basically are saying I'm dumb..... I know it's dumb... I know it's silly, but I care wayyy too muh about how my friends feel. It probably goes along with being so young.

Sweetsix06 · October 2014

At 20 years of age, I was in college, studying hard on weekdays, working, partying on the weekends and enjoying my freedom. The absolute last thing on my mind was wishing I was married and/or pregnant.

After reading all your posts, I'm still not sure why you think these girls are jealous of you. I seriously doubt that they are. No offense, but being 20, married and pregnant is not exactly my ideal life, nor does it sound so appealing that people would be jealous of you. If anything, I think they are trying to spark conversation and find a way to relate to you.

Please don't take yourself so seriously.

drpayne · October 2014

kirstey728 said:
I'm sure some of you ladies have overreacted in a situation that should be about nothing.

Like ones that you can look back on and be like "what the heck was I thinking?!?!"

I know without a doubt that this will be one of those situations. Just wanting to get out how I feel, I suppose.

Perhaps. But most people wouldn't start a random thread about it.

Pointless post of the day award.

Weird.

Noodlesandrice · October 2014

No one said you are stupid because you are 20. I do think your words make you sound very immature. That has nothing to do with age, you might still be immature 10, 20 years from now. Maybe you are one of those. Who knows, but it's not because you are 20.

Kmm1023 · October 2014

All of the sudden I feel very old at 34! Maybe you should feel bad my kid is getting an old woman for a mommy!

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Kmm1023 · October 2014

Slaps said:

Kmm1023 said:
All of the sudden I feel very old at 34! Maybe you should feel bad my kid is getting an old woman for a mommy!
I must be geriatric then!!

Let's start a club of old mommy's

Serunatu · October 2014

Today my work threw me a shower. All my friends said nice things like "aw I can't wait to have a baby!" Then they preceded to do the beer in a bottle chugging contest, sip mimosas, and take shots to pregame for the packer game. And then I waddled home with all my gifts by 7 pm thinking, "they so want my life"

CandEChicago · October 2014

cassbabyy said:
Wahhh i thought this thread was gonna be for us all to post annoying things people have told us.. -_-

CandEChicago · October 2014

@cassbabyy‌ - Thread 1 and 2 with this title have both been different than what the OP titled them. Perhaps you start a 3rd thread?

beaniousmaximus · October 2014

I don't think they're jealous...they're just being supportive. Their lives are FAR from over and they still have plenty of time to have kids.

I had my first son when I was 20 and I'll be 23 for this baby. A few of my friends have said, "You guys are so lucky! I can't wait to start a family!" I've NEVER gotten upset by them saying this. They could all be starting families if they really wanted to, but their priorities are different. They've went to college, haven't met the right person, are having fun partying, or just aren't ready for a family. Everyone is different. When I say to my best friend, "Wow, you've done so well graduating college! It's awesome that you got a job in your field of choice!!...etc etc." I'm not jealous of her, I'm happy for her accomplishments. It goes both ways.

Anyway, I would stop reading so much into it and see it for what it is...they're just being friendly and supportive. It's better than them lecturing you for starting a family young.

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