Christmas Plans?

RicKeyBaby · October 2014

For those of us having our babies before the 25th, but still relatively close to it (I'm due the 17th). Are you planning on going to family Christmas function with a newborn ? Or are you opting out cuz of a newborn? I'm all for the latter, but my husband has a huge family who always gets together on Christmas Eve (family tradition). He pretty much assumes we're still going, but I told him I dont think I'll be up for it. FTM, I dunno what to expect. I know it's 6-8 weeks before baby gets any immunizations (besides antibodies from breast milk), and I told him I wouldn't want to risk baby being exposed to someone who's sick. Besides that, and adjusting to a newborn, is there any more cons I can tell him? Or am I overthinking this? STM's when did you first take your baby out to a group of people?

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ebl2 · October 2014

We don't live near family so we don't have this problem. I know with my first I would not have been up to seeing a bunch of people 1 week after giving birth (and that's if you don't go past your due date). Also, I take it from your reference to breast milk that you're going to breast feed. I'm sure you've been told that breastfeeding is hard. It took me 3 weeks to start getting comfortable with it and I'm told I was lucky it only took 3 weeks. I can tell you right now you're not going to want to go to the family party.

TravelingCouple · October 2014

My LO is due Dec 27th so Christmas will be low key at home. Even if he comes early, there's no way I'm going anywhere.

RicKeyBaby · October 2014

Okie dokie, I'm using the mobile app so I can't jump to or search previous threads. However, I'll check them out when I get to a computer later.

RicKeyBaby · October 2014

Yes, i've joined countless forums and fb groups about breast feeding. I realise it's gonna be an adjustment. I guess I could add that to the con list to show the hubby

Manateearmz · October 2014

You can search on mobile. I only bump from mobile and I search all the time. YWIA

RicKeyBaby · October 2014

Didn't realise that, guess I gotta play around with this app more, thanks!

BdblZ · October 2014

We have no definite plans - all family is local, and if i'm feeling up to it and baby and weather both cooperate, we would like to try and stop by our families on both Eve & Day. But DH & I realistically know how ridiculous the reality of that idea may sound once christmas is actually here. And we have also made family aware that anyone who wants to get all butt-hurt because we don't come out on Christmas (and yes, we have several relatives that probably would) can basically go F themselves.

cwbh928 · October 2014

Nope, regardless if I was due before or after Christmas. We already told everyone don't expect us. We would have to travel 2 hours or have everyone at our house and I am not having it! It is just too much and I really rather just lay low. My mom will be around since I am due around December 27th so it will just be the 4 of us!

MrsNash37212 · October 2014

I would plan on not going and then go if you feel up to it. Plan on wearing the baby in a Moby or similar wrap to ward off touching. Chances are, you'll still be passing huge blood clots and waddling around with a sore vag, so tell hubby that.

Meether · October 2014

We will go to smaller family dinners depending on how I feel. DH and DD can go have fun at the larger ones. We might even have people over for Christmas Eve!! People will understand if you can't go. My husband and his family forced me to go out 10 days PP and I just ended up staying in the room at those relatives' place....DH then got the point that if I am not up for something, don't force me!!

ColoradoBoat · October 2014

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12441303/xmas-question-anyone-not-participating-this-year#latest

Here's one thread--I started it awhile back. @MrsNash37212--thanks for the visual. Great excuse for not going anywhere but it sounds like I will feel awful!

I will see my MIL this weekend and hopefully discuss with her. I talked with DH and we will play it by ear. I'm hoping I feel up to getting out of the house (MIL is 45 minutes away) but will tell people not to plan on us this year for gifts or events. And I'm due early in the month, but with baby probably coming late, Xmas could be only a week or so after I get outta the hospital.

JulieC76 · October 2014

Definitely NOT going to any Christmas functions. I'm due on the 21st and our families live 2 hours away. My family usually doesn't get together for Christmas until mid January anyway, but DH's family has already told us they plan to have Christmas at the hospital with us. Really hoping that doesn't happen, but as long as I don't have to travel and they don't expect us to host them I'm okay with it. My neice was born on Christmas Eve 6 years ago and we had a mini Christmas celebration at the hospital so if it's like that I'd be okay with it.

beachy6 · October 2014

Your vagina will hurt. Like, hurt. More than you've ever have vag pain. Sitting was rough for a couple of weeks. If you're comfortable waddling around in front of DH's family with a sore vag, go for it! Otherwise, you'd probably feel most comfortable staying home and continuing recovery.

JCM285 · October 2014

I'm not going anywhere for Christmas. I'm due Dec. 9 so I will definitely be having this baby by Christmas but I am lucky enough to avoid most holiday plan disasters. DH and I are both only children and both sets of grandparents are on board for getting flu/TDAP shots so they will most likely come to us for Christmas and NYE (unless anyone is sick of course).

leoandethansmom · October 2014

Halsing said:

Slaps said:

There is a thread about this, if you search it should come up.

This. And probably more than one thread.

This one and a name thread today. The repeats are getting repeats.

OhBaby+2013 · October 2014

All you ladies that keep pointing to other threads should relax. Ppl can ask whatever questions they want, as many time as they want. In fact, I might just start asking repeat questions multiple times a day just for shits and giggles since it seems to make you all so agitated. OP, my baby shower was at my home 2 weeks after DS was born. I had a very complicated delivery and my recovery lasted 5 months so I was definitely not one who bounced back. I asked sick people to stay away and everyone else to practice good hygiene and I had hand sanitizer available. If it were me I would tell your DH that he is welcome to go on his own and if you feel up to it you will make it a game day decision. Once baby comes he will understand better that you get to make all of these decisions solo for a bit since you will be recovering. Everyone can tell you how hard it will be but you won't know until you are actually living it,

allfalldown14 · October 2014

OhBaby+2013 said:

All you ladies that keep pointing to other threads should relax. Ppl can ask whatever questions they want, as many time as they want. In fact, I might just start asking repeat questions multiple times a day just for shits and giggles since it seems to make you all so agitated. OP, my baby shower was at my home 2 weeks after DS was born. I had a very complicated delivery and my recovery lasted 5 months so I was definitely not one who bounced back. I asked sick people to stay away and everyone else to practice good hygiene and I had hand sanitizer available. If it were me I would tell your DH that he is welcome to go on his own and if you feel up to it you will make it a game day decision. Once baby comes he will understand better that you get to make all of these decisions solo for a bit since you will be recovering. Everyone can tell you how hard it will be but you won't know until you are actually living it,

OhBaby+2013 · October 2014

Quick question.....if you don't want to answer them again ......THEN WHY ARE YOU ANSWERING AT ALL? Just curious. And I'm not white knighting. I'm just sick of all the bitchy ladies attacking women for asking a question. I often stay out of the conversations here because my mother taught me that if I didn't have anything nice to say say nothing at all. You ladies go on and on about how this is a public forum and you can be as snarky as you want to, which is fine. But then you need to accept that others are going to ask questions, silly or otherwise, and they aren't going to use the search function, and maybe they did maybe they were looking for someone else's opinion. Stepping off my soap box now.....and I encourage others to as well.

leoandethansmom · October 2014

OhBaby+2013 said:

Quick question.....if you don't want to answer them again ......THEN WHY ARE YOU ANSWERING AT ALL? Just curious. And I'm not white knighting. I'm just sick of all the bitchy ladies attacking women for asking a question. I often stay out of the conversations here because my mother taught me that if I didn't have anything nice to say say nothing at all. You ladies go on and on about how this is a public forum and you can be as snarky as you want to, which is fine. But then you need to accept that others are going to ask questions, silly or otherwise, and they aren't going to use the search function, and maybe they did maybe they were looking for someone else's opinion. Stepping off my soap box now.....and I encourage others to as well.

Ok. Bye.

CandEChicago · October 2014

OhBaby+2013 said:
Quick question.....if you don't want to answer them again ......THEN WHY ARE YOU ANSWERING AT ALL? Just curious. And I'm not white knighting. I'm just sick of all the bitchy ladies attacking women for asking a question. I often stay out of the conversations here because my mother taught me that if I didn't have anything nice to say say nothing at all. You ladies go on and on about how this is a public forum and you can be as snarky as you want to, which is fine. But then you need to accept that others are going to ask questions, silly or otherwise, and they aren't going to use the search function, and maybe they did maybe they were looking for someone else's opinion. Stepping off my soap box now.....and I encourage others to as well.

QFP

CandEChicago · October 2014

@OhBaby+2013‌ - No one is requiring you to stay here, read, or post. You are welcome to leave.

bowlwoman · October 2014

chelseavranich said:
@OhBaby+2013‌ they get called out because they don't do any independent searches before flooding the board with the exact same crap as someone else did the day before. We've offered very kindly put advice as to how to search for other threads relating to what they want to discuss.

It's obvious that you don't understand what happens when you post an old thread...it comes back up again and the conversation resumes. You're welcome.

Baiiiii

I just did this last night with the baseball thread since we're in postseason playoff time. Last post was two months ago, but I did a search on the mobile app, got the old thread, and posted a comment. It's now active again. So yes, not rocket science. Just good netiquette and common sense.

vrae0606 · October 2014

Well to answer OPs question & thoughts I had in my mind to still do Christmas things with family but now I'm rethinking things since people have mentioned being sore, uncomfortable & getting the breastfeeding thing down. I never even thought that far ahead! I'm due December 18th. I know we usually go to grandma's on DH side & she lives about 2 hrs away. I guess we will just have to play it by ear & see when I actually deliver & see how I feel by Christmas. The only reason I really would want to make an effort is because my two SILs are having babies in November (and live in CO) and Christmas would be the first chance to see their LOs. I think the best advice (as some have posted already) is don't over committ.

cynplus2 · October 2014

STM here. Due on dec 18 but C-section will be done a week before at least.

I come from a Big Italian family. I do all the cooking and have people over every Xmas eve.

This year will be the same. I might ask for a little help this time around but so far Xmas is at my house.

RicKeyBaby · October 2014

@cynplus2‌ wow! You're still hosting Xmas eve? More power to you girl! Haha, I should just not complain.

cynplus2 · October 2014

@RicKeyBaby‌ aw thanks that'd sweet! Last time around I was 39 weeks pregnant and hosted. That was 6 years ago LOL. Xmas is synonymous with my house and I wouldn't want it any other way! I also have people spending the night and will be making breakfast the next morning. We live in Canada so the weather is usually horrible and people don't like driving late at night. Plus, we live in a suburb of a bigger city (Montreal) so it's a little drive.

amieeyoung · October 2014

cynplus2 said:

STM here. Due on dec 18 but C-section will be done a week before at least. I come from a Big Italian family. I do all the cooking and have people over every Xmas eve. This year will be the same. I might ask for a little help this time around but so far Xmas is at my house.

Have you had a c-section before? Some people recover well and some have a hard time, just curious if this was going to be your first section or you are one of those lucky people who recovered well before. Just remember to ask for help if you need it. Best of luck though!

xc1148 · October 2014

Luckily our family is all in the same town, so we'll be at home. Depending on how I feel/how baby is/if baby is on time (Dec 15)...we'll either have my mom come to our house and cook/do presents, or just go over to her house for dinner/presents and come back. Christmas with us is usually an all-day affair so i'll just play it by ear and see how i feel. It is surreal to me that I will have a baby on Christmas this year...so freaking excited

kosovitacielo · October 2014

I'm due on the 26 and my husband and I ask about it and said that we will be staying home and celebrate at home and if his family wants to come they are welcome.

khall7109 · October 2014

My due date is the 27th. My family is only 20 minutes away. I have plans to see them, but if I cancel they'll understand. I'm a go with the flow kind of girl.

turkeyleg5 · October 2014

I'm due on the 23rd, so definitely won't be making any plans to leave the house on Christmas, or even New Year's Eve/Day. Of course, I might change my mind, but (for me) I think it's better to plan on taking it easy and then being flexible.

The first 3 or so pages of the "Newbie/FTM questions" thread is mostly about what recovery was like. There are obviously a lot of different experiences, but some of them definitely reinforced my thoughts about not making specific plans to leave the house:

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12451360/newbie-ftm-questions/p1

RaeChay · October 2014

misskilljoy said:

MissChristineMarie said:

Why was this thread bumped?

At least she didn't start a new thread to talk about Christmas plans! She used the search function!

IT'S AN EARLY CHRISTMAS MIRACLE.

this was my thought too

turkeyleg5 · October 2014

Sorry ya'll, my fault. I wasn't on the bump all weekend, so I just saw this earlier today and responded.

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