UO Thursday

lynds002 · October 2014

I don't think I've seen this yet today... let's hear them!

BabyM82714 · October 2014

I hate LO sleeping in her room in her crib. I couldn't sleep. Even when she was sleeping good. Well somehow the monitor shut off and she sxreamrd for at least 30 mins befoee i heard her.She rammed her head against her crib, scrapped it all up, has a bump and a bruise. I called off work because I was worried about her and have spent all day watching her to make sure she shows no serious injury signs.

Worst parent fail.

But I hate the crib.

dogperson11 · October 2014

I don't understand how it's expected that our newborns have a "bedtime". My kid eats when she wants and sleeps when she wants. We have a routine, like a eat/play/sleep cycle, but eating/sleeping doesn't usually happen at the same time each day. We turn off lights at night she she gives longer stretches at night. I don't expect my 8 week old to know it's 7pm and that means bedtime. I know it's frustrating to not get good sleep, but I think it's ridiculous to expect our newborns to sleep through the night at this point.

Oh, and we should start another "bedtime / sleep" thread (insert eye roll here)

IceHide61313 · October 2014

I don't get how people play with newborns or really why they try to. LO is just about 8 weeks old and doesn't give a damn about anything other than eating, sleeping, and talking to the ceiling fan.

dogperson11 · October 2014

IceHide61313 said:
I don't get how people play with newborns or really why they try to. LO is just about 8 weeks old and doesn't give a damn about anything other than eating, sleeping, and talking to the ceiling fan.

Maybe we have different definitions of the word play? My eight week old will interact for a while after she eats before she goes to sleep. She will lay on her play mat and stare at the colorful toys or I can prop her up on the couch and she'll smile at me and I talk to her and she makes funny noises back. We aren't playing hide and seek but we're interacting and she's learning. I think all that is considered play.

IceHide61313 · October 2014

dogperson11 said:

IceHide61313 said:
I don't get how people play with newborns or really why they try to. LO is just about 8 weeks old and doesn't give a damn about anything other than eating, sleeping, and talking to the ceiling fan.
Maybe we have different definitions of the word play? My eight week old will interact for a while after she eats before she goes to sleep. She will lay on her play mat and stare at the colorful toys or I can prop her up on the couch and she'll smile at me and I talk to her and she makes funny noises back. We aren't playing hide and seek but we're interacting and she's learning. I think all that is considered play.

The only interaction LO does is with the fan. Show her a colorful toy or page, she'll stare at the fan. Talk to her? Stare at the fan. I'm jealous of you mommas who have a babe who will even stare at a toy so young.

jamjoyful · October 2014

dogperson11 said:
I don't understand how it's expected that our newborns have a "bedtime". My kid eats when she wants and sleeps when she wants. We have a routine, like a eat/play/sleep cycle, but eating/sleeping doesn't usually happen at the same time each day. We turn off lights at night she she gives longer stretches at night. I don't expect my 8 week old to know it's 7pm and that means bedtime. I know it's frustrating to not get good sleep, but I think it's ridiculous to expect our newborns to sleep through the night at this point.

Oh, and we should start another "bedtime / sleep" thread (insert eye roll here)

Sorry!! I realized after I posted that there were like five on the first page.

IceHide61313 · October 2014

JoShan1719 said:
Because it's funny and pretty true:

I'd be lying if I said I haven't thought of this...multiple times.

dogperson11 · October 2014

Joy1192 said:

dogperson11 said:
I don't understand how it's expected that our newborns have a "bedtime". My kid eats when she wants and sleeps when she wants. We have a routine, like a eat/play/sleep cycle, but eating/sleeping doesn't usually happen at the same time each day. We turn off lights at night she she gives longer stretches at night. I don't expect my 8 week old to know it's 7pm and that means bedtime. I know it's frustrating to not get good sleep, but I think it's ridiculous to expect our newborns to sleep through the night at this point.

Oh, and we should start another "bedtime / sleep" thread (insert eye roll here)
Sorry!! I realized after I posted that there were like five on the first page.

Wasn't picking on anyone in particular

lynds002 · October 2014

I don't really get why people are freaking out on J14 about the catfish. There have been thousands of posts deleted because they contained baby pictures. I mean, did they not realize that there was a possibility that people other than those regularly posting could be looking at TB?

abnelsen22 · October 2014

My UO is that I really don't like baby wearing. Sometimes I do it because I have to, but I don't like it.

kaitm22 · October 2014

I hate birthday parties.

Not all of them, but any that involve my IL's being intermingled with other people's families. The birthday thread this week and the fact that my nephews birthday is coming up makes me think of this.

My MIL is a giant AW at all birthday parties because they are HER GRANDBABIES DONT YOU KNOW? She makes everything about her. It's not worth the trouble trying to have a nice party when she is just going to spend the whole time pissing everyone off. We will be leaving nephew's party as early as we can without looking too rude. I am pretty sure I wont mind if LO decides to be a total grump that day just so I can have an excuse to get out of another stupid birthday party.

And another, DH and I should not have to get nephew a present. In my family, only grandparents and godparents do birthday presents. The kid has, literally, hundreds of toys. Expecting everyone to bring a present is rude and gift-grabby.

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BabyM82714 · October 2014

@addysmom22‌ I felt awful! I very much considering moving the crib to our bedroom! Or getting a video monitor which seems silly since we are a few steps away so I can seew her. But her door needs shut because I'm worried the cats may try to snuggle her.

Honestly I'm okay with co sleeping but I worry about risks. She's too young to cry it out so its just gona be a little harder than anticipated.

cdseno · October 2014

My UO is that I hate when people refer to their children as "Littles". My stupid sister actually took it one step further and just nicknamed my niece Little. That is how they call her. It drives me insane!

Also I hate going to family birthday parties for kids older than 1. My SIL has a party every year for both her kids. The oldest is 5. This year he had a friends party then a family party. Talk about gift grabby. And those of us at the family party only got to eat leftover food from the friend party.

Daisylola11 · October 2014

I'm not one who is "dying" to have a night out with out LO yet.

We were always the take out, beers and rent a movie kind of date night couple.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

@BabyM82714‌ Have you considered installing a screen door in the nursery? That's what I plan to do when we move DS. I have a cat too. I am such a heavy sleeper and have been known to turn off alarms in my sleep so I don't want to rely on the monitor alone.

belle785 · October 2014

Huh? It's gift grabby to have a family birthday party for a kid? This is news to me.

I love birthday parties for kids. It's only once a year for the kid and a fun day for him or her.

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cdseno · October 2014

@belle785‌ let me rephrase. I love my nephew but do not enjoy the gift grabby parties his mother throws. She had a huge friends party for him with a bounce house and face painter. The next day she invited our family over (we all have kids who would have had tons of fun at the other party),we got to eat broken crackers, reheated hot dogs, and already eaten dip, then he ripped through his gifts and verbally expressed his distaste for some of them (nobody corrected him for that) and then we had cake and left. It was like an hour total (she planned a short time around their plans to go somewhere else after) and they live 45 minutes away. My other sister had a second birthday party for my niece and didn't have enough cake for everyone she invited so she waited until most of our family left and then served cake to her friends. And they didn't bother to at least hide the piles of trash (literally trash everywhere) so we were surrounded by it all. Maybe it is just my family's parties I don't enjoy...

tamarar5 · October 2014

addysmom22 said:
I HATE being a working Mom with a passion. I was always that snob without kids that "could just never stay home". Fuck a bunch of that. I'd give anything to be at home with my sweet girl. The fact that my boss is a C U Next Tuesday doesn't help matters. DH makes great money, but we're in the process of building a house, so for right now, Momma's gotta work. (

Edited for grammar.

It seriously just took me five minutes to figure out that analogy. $:\$ ">

I don't so much want a day/night off from the baby, but I would kill for one away from my older two. They are just... nonstop nuts all. The. Time. And mama is exhausted by 9am.

My uo, I dislike that the driving age is 16. Sixteen year olds are still kids. A kid down the street just got his license and he is a total tool and a complete moron behind the wheel. He was drag racing down the alleys today while my kids were out playing in the yard. I hear him screeching tires on his way out in the morning and can't help but think he's going to hurt someone being such a dick.

I also can't believe his parents aren't doing something about it!

MC03 · October 2014

@cdseno that sounds like a terrible party so I don't blame you for having bad feelings on the subject. In general I think kids parties are great and I love seeing how excited DD1 gets about a party. But your family seems out of control!

jamjoyful · October 2014

I hate when people constantly tell me I need to leave my kids with a sitter. No. I don't. Having my kids with me when I grocery shop or whatever I may be doing doesn't bother me. Would I be faster or more productive without them? Probably. But bringing them doesn't stress me out at all.

chase16 · October 2014

addysmom22 said:
I HATE being a working Mom with a passion. I was always that snob without kids that "could just never stay home". Fuck a bunch of that. I'd give anything to be at home with my sweet girl. The fact that my boss is a C U Next Tuesday doesn't help matters. DH makes great money, but we're in the process of building a house, so for right now, Momma's gotta work. (

Edited for grammar.

I could have written this. I've been thinking this a lot lately. I love my career, and I was the same " I could never stay at home " childless woman.. But now all I think about is how much I'll miss. When we move to ft hood in a few months I'll be away from her for upwards of 12 hours a day. I'll really only get to see her about 3 hours a day. I think I'll be fine once I get back to work and into a routine.. But right now, I'm sad about it.

kareik01 · October 2014

cdseno said:

My UO is that I hate when people refer to their children as "Littles". My stupid sister actually took it one step further and just nicknamed my niece Little. That is how they call her. It drives me insane! Also I hate going to family birthday parties for kids older than 1. My SIL has a party every year for both her kids. The oldest is 5. This year he had a friends party then a family party. Talk about gift grabby. And those of us at the family party only got to eat leftover food from the friend party.

This. SOOO this.

DH and I have a combined 21 nieces and nephews, and each of them has a birthday party every. single. year. I think it is beyond crazy, expensive, and over-the-top. I understand when there were only a couple kids in each family, but as the families have grown, I think it's time to call it quits. I've already told DH that we are NOT having parties every year. DD will get one at 1 year and that's it.

Not dragging on people who have them every year for their kids...just the fact that both our families are so huge that I think it's ridiculous.

DD is getting baptized on Sunday, and the people invited will be close to 50 people and that's just IMMEDIATE family! It's not something I'm willing to do every year just so our children can receive a bunch of gifts I don't even want them to have.

Jenrileysmom · October 2014

Just wait for all the birthday parties your kid will be invited to when they reach school age. My daughter is 7 and we have had a birthday party every year, just as all the other kids in her class do. We go to roughly 10-12 birthday parties per year. Ours are never extravagant but it's something we do and she looks forward to it.

chase16 · October 2014

I'm in the "birthday parties are stupid" camp. I'm probably going to be the least fun Mom ever, because the idea of having a bunch of kids over all hyped up on sugar and eating off of themed paper plates makes me cringe. To be fair- I've never been a party person, even when I was a kid. I stopped having parties when I was about 8, and stuck to dinners out with the family and a cake that my mom made to celebrate.

BeachM · October 2014

missmimsyy said:

Friend parties are waaaaay different than family.

Yes. We had my son's party at a farm last year when he turned 3 and it was so much fun. The kids had an absolute blast so we are having it there again. Sugar, gift grabbiness, and all. It's HIS birthday, not mine. They are just kids for such a short period of time, there are years to make them feel guilty for wanting to have fun and OMG get presents.

That being said, not every kid wants a party and that's fine too. My husband chose Nintendo over a party when he turned 5 and has no regrets. Some people aren't into birthdays, but I don't think it's fair to impose that on your kid.

kareik01 · October 2014

flip_flops said:

missmimsyy said:

Friend parties are waaaaay different than family.

Yes. We had my son's party at a farm last year when he turned 3 and it was so much fun. The kids had an absolute blast so we are having it there again. Sugar, gift grabbiness, and all. It's HIS birthday, not mine. They are just kids for such a short period of time, there are years to make them feel guilty for wanting to have fun and OMG get presents.

That being said, not every kid wants a party and that's fine too. My husband chose Nintendo over a party when he turned 5 and has no regrets. Some people aren't into birthdays, but I don't think it's fair to impose that on your kid.

I won't limit FRIEND parties on my kids, not a chance. I'll gladly let them have a few friends to birthday parties every year. It's strictly family parties I am putting a halt to.

I can handle making hot dogs for 10 kids. I can't handle making a meal for 50+ adult family members.

BeachM · October 2014

kareik01 said:

flip_flops said:

missmimsyy said:

Friend parties are waaaaay different than family.

Yes. We had my son's party at a farm last year when he turned 3 and it was so much fun. The kids had an absolute blast so we are having it there again. Sugar, gift grabbiness, and all. It's HIS birthday, not mine. They are just kids for such a short period of time, there are years to make them feel guilty for wanting to have fun and OMG get presents.

That being said, not every kid wants a party and that's fine too. My husband chose Nintendo over a party when he turned 5 and has no regrets. Some people aren't into birthdays, but I don't think it's fair to impose that on your kid.

I won't limit FRIEND parties on my kids, not a chance. I'll gladly let them have a few friends to birthday parties every year. It's strictly family parties I am putting a halt to.
I can handle making hot dogs for 10 kids. I can't handle making a meal for 50+ adult family members.

I might be confused. By family you mean the families of the kids invited? Because I am with you on that. I do not understand when it became expected that all siblings got to attend when they weren't specifically invited on the invitation.

kareik01 · October 2014

@flip_flops

No, I mean OUR families.

Our siblings hold a family birthday party for each of their kids. They invite all the cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and DHs family even invites the great-aunts/uncles. It's just so many people for every single birthday party. We have at least 1 birthday party every month of the year except January, and a couple months there are up to 3 in one month. I don't want to add to those numbers, not to mention have to cook for that many people every time.

BeachM · October 2014

That is a lot of people! No one in our families invites extended family outside of the grandparents, and that's only if they live nearby.

kareik01 · October 2014

I agree, grandparents are OK. We live in a very rural area and the majority of our families members are in the area. It's just too many people for me.

kaitm22 · October 2014

kareik01 said:

flip_flops said:

missmimsyy said:

Friend parties are waaaaay different than family.

Yes. We had my son's party at a farm last year when he turned 3 and it was so much fun. The kids had an absolute blast so we are having it there again. Sugar, gift grabbiness, and all. It's HIS birthday, not mine. They are just kids for such a short period of time, there are years to make them feel guilty for wanting to have fun and OMG get presents.

That being said, not every kid wants a party and that's fine too. My husband chose Nintendo over a party when he turned 5 and has no regrets. Some people aren't into birthdays, but I don't think it's fair to impose that on your kid.

I won't limit FRIEND parties on my kids, not a chance. I'll gladly let them have a few friends to birthday parties every year. It's strictly family parties I am putting a halt to.
I can handle making hot dogs for 10 kids. I can't handle making a meal for 50+ adult family members.

This. I loved friend parties as a kid. It's my IL's that I don't need to deal with. I in no way want to ruin his birthday or not have parties at all, but I would like to enjoy them myself too. LO only will have 1 cousin even close to his age anyway, so if we did a family one, there wouldn't really be any kids to play with.

belle785 · October 2014

cdseno said:
@belle785‌ let me rephrase. I love my nephew but do not enjoy the gift grabby parties his mother throws. She had a huge friends party for him with a bounce house and face painter. The next day she invited our family over (we all have kids who would have had tons of fun at the other party),we got to eat broken crackers, reheated hot dogs, and already eaten dip, then he ripped through his gifts and verbally expressed his distaste for some of them (nobody corrected him for that) and then we had cake and left. It was like an hour total (she planned a short time around their plans to go somewhere else after) and they live 45 minutes away. My other sister had a second birthday party for my niece and didn't have enough cake for everyone she invited so she waited until most of our family left and then served cake to her friends. And they didn't bother to at least hide the piles of trash (literally trash everywhere) so we were surrounded by it all. Maybe it is just my family's parties I don't enjoy...

Ok now that is ridiculous and tacky. She should have just had the friend party.

belle785 · October 2014

One type of friend party my kids won't have except maybe like once is sleepovers. No wayyy. Those kids are not keeping me up all night.

marathonmommy82 · October 2014

Some babies are good sleepers.
Some babies are not.
There isn't much you can do at this point.

rockyrollgirl · October 2014

So far I have received two invitations to a November birthday party of a friend's kid. I do not mind them so much, but I hate when they are dragged out. a birthday party really dosn't need to be 3+ hours long.

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