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Potty Training
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DS' school started PT when he was 20 months old at his request. A year later and he is not PT. He "gets it" but to this point has been disinterested. We turned a corner a few weeks ago and he is engaged. He transitions to underwear in the afternoon at school and wears it until bed at 7:00. He has few accidents at school. He has an accident every evening - he appears opposed to pooping on the potty at home. It baffles me. Any tips? I feel like we are at a critical juncture and I am failing. Layer in trying to help the two older kids with homework, facilitate playdates/study sessions, make dinner, get kids ready for sports and field work things that come up and evenings are already these crazy maelstroms.
I have considered setting the timer on my phone to go off every 20 minutes. I would put him on the potty at those intervals. Current intervals are 30-45 minutes depending on the level of insanity. Help?
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Re: Potty Training
On the pooping in the potty issue, I have no advice either. DS is now potty trained during the waking hours EXCEPT for poop. He really doesn't want to do it.
Also we have offered not just treats, but GOOD treats (his version of good treats) for a BM in the potty - fudge stripe or oreos. He is at the point now where he is crying b/c he isn't getting the treat. But it's like a distressed, panicked cry like he thinks he really can't do it.
My latest thing has been making sure he gets plenty of fiber so his stools are soft to where it doesn't bother him to go as much, but it doesn't seem to make a difference in his behavior.
He gets one MM for pee, two for both. There is a big lego set in the bathroom that he selected as his prize. He asks to look at it every time he potties and verbally clarifies the milestones. He has even attempted to negotiate one block per successful potty attempt, which I might break down and do.
I really like the idea @Clarypax of giving him the option of deciding underwear or pullup. He is a little bit of a control freak in weird ways, so that might really appeal to him and make him more accountable. My oldest was PT by this age, switched to panties no accidents. My middle was four. I really just want this to be over.
It's also created a problem for us at home because she is used to going to the potty every 30 minutes like they do at school, so she wants to go ALL THE TIME, and that doesn't always work with what we're doing. If she were actually peeing or pooping each time then I would totally be fine with it, but I'm not sure she totally gets it yet, so we just go to the bathroom, she sits on the potty and then says "all done" even though she didn't do anything! Rinse and repeat every 30 minutes!
I'm not going to worry about it until after the holidays. With my DS, we waited until about 2 months before his 3rd birthday, and he potty trained in a day. I really think so much of this is about the individual kid, and you can't really "force" them to potty train.
School is really, really pushing this. The weekend was pretty insane (we were places like soccer fields, pumpkin patch, trunk or treat, jump birthday party, a school event at which I was volunteering - places where there wasn't easy access or an accident would have been a disaster) so he was in pull ups for most of it. When he was in underwear he did well. This morning he was in a pull up and I took him to DC late - he pooped in the potty around 8 (based on DC I think this is a "normal" time for him). However, he said "the pee pee is coming" and did not pee. He only pooped. I think he isn't quite there yet physically with being able to tell.
I have a conference this Friday, and don't quite know how to tell DC. His teacher is so adamant that he is just being stubborn. I don't see it that way at all.