Hello, I have never posted here but thought this would be the best place to ask for advice. My DD is just about to turn 4. She was born at 35 weeks and has always run a bit behind on milestones but generally is on target. She has been evaluated twice - once around 15 months, prompted by our pedi for no speech, and once just before 3 prompted by me based on lagging gross motor skills and sensory sensitivity. She did not qualify for services either time.
My concern now is her selective mutism. It has been very noticeable for about the last year and half. She speaks fine (and quite loudly) at home and with family. She will not speak to strangers, even other kids. She also does not speak in preschool/daycare. She has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks old. She is happy at preschool, excited to go, will smile and nod to the teacher, tell me about her day, but she does not speak.
We are military and unfortunately we have had a lot of change the last two years. We have had a few daycares, 2 moves, and currently my DH is deployed and will be returning soon. I haven't addressed the SM because she has had so much change, but since she has been at the same school for 2 months without a single word, I think I probably should address it.
Any advice? She will have her 4 yo well check soon, I am thinking that I will bring it up then. In the past my pedi has been a bit dismissive though, and the military system isn't fantastic for behavioral health. Writing this all out is solidifying my feelings that there is a concern. I appreciate any stories, resources, things to look for etc.