How long did you wait?

Bobbie1227 · October 2014

How long did everyone wait to tell family/friends when you got pregnant again after a loss? We are 6 weeks today. Last time we waited until 7 weeks to tell anyone and then lost our baby 2 weeks later. This time I want to wait until Christmas(about 14 weeks) but that may be really hard. I also have a 15 year old son who took the loss pretty hard last time so I am nervous to tell him. So I am just wondering, how long did everyone wait?

beemaya83 · October 2014

I also plan on waiting until 14 weeks to tell family, but if I start showing earlier than perhaps at 12 weeks. We plan on telling the rest of the social media world when we are passed 20 weeks.

BluEyedGirl26 · October 2014

We just told family and close friends this week (15w). I will probably tell work next week.

amanda33758 · October 2014

We waited until I was 14 weeks to tell our families. And I think we told work the same week. I have been telling my clients as I see them(I'm a hairdresser) and we go FB public on Halloween when I will be 20 weeks.

kj808 · October 2014

I'm at 10 weeks and we still haven't told most people yet. I've only told one of my best friends. Not even our families know. After 3 very good ultrasounds though I think we'll tell our families within the next week.

Bobbie1227 · October 2014

Thanks for the feedback. The waiting is harder this time than last time.

Samuelismomma · October 2014

My sis and mom at 6 weeks. Everyone else at 13-14 weeks:)

[Deleted User] · October 2014

Mine & DH's parents were told right away, because I knew we would tell them anyway if we suffered another loss and would appreciate their support (both my mom and MIL had suffered miscarriages so they were especially understanding of everything).

Close friends & extended family members were told around 13-14 weeks (although I cracked and told my BFF a few weeks earlier than that; I think around 11w), and we went public with the news on Facebook around 24 weeks.

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uneek1323 · October 2014

We told immediate family after seeing the heartbeat and the rest of the family and close friends after first tri. We're not FB public with it yet, and we probably won't be.

KJsbabe · October 2014

We waited until 13w after the NT scan to tell anyone.

jess123456 · October 2014

We waited until 19 weeks which I know isn't typical but wanted to get past the anatomy scan at least.

mpiemont · October 2014

I have my NT scan Friday and will be 12w Saturday so if that goes well we will finally tell close family.

Mom2anAngel2 · October 2014

We told family at 13 weeks, but held off on telling others. My belly outed me at work by 15 weeks. People that I don't see regularly were not told until after20 weeks.

jesswein9 · October 2014

Our family and my closest friends knew pretty much as has soon as I found out since I have been very open with them about my repeat losses. I just told some people at work yesterday at 14 weeks and will wait another 2 weeks or so before anything is on FB.

matiekae · October 2014

We told our immediate family and my closest 2 friends right away. They have been so supportive of us and knew about our loss. And I need their support now as well. We will tell the rest of our friends and family as we see them after either our first apt @ 6weeks or after 8 weeks depending on how things are going/ how we feel at the time. Going FB public is still very undecided for me as I know how the couple announcements I saw after my loss made me feel.

One of the hardest parts about my MC was talking to people who never knew about our baby, and I found myself wishing more people knew so they would understand where we are in our life.

There are so many opinions, I think making sure you and your SO are on the same page, and that you are considering everyone's feelings (like your 15 y.o. son) is the most important part.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

I told my mom & MIL right away - they told the dad's. But we're waiting to tell our siblings until 8 weeks and other extended family / FB at Christmas around 14 weeks.

smcniff · October 2014

I immediately told my mom and a few close friends who helped me through my MC on the day of my BFP. We started telling other family and friends as we saw them after my healthy US at 8 weeks. Work was around 12. Didn't go FB public until 20w.

I was fairly open about my MC and appreciated the support of my friends and family. I didn't see the point of keeping it a secret this time around. If things didn't/don't work out I will have them to lean on.

rox825 · October 2014

We didn't tell anyone including family and parents until 14+ weeks, we were more comfortable waiting.

akleng · October 2014

We told our parents right away. We had waited the first time, so they then found out about the pregnancy and the loss at the same time. So, we wanted to avoid that this time. Plus, the day after I found I was pregnant this time I had a girls weekend planned with my mom and sister which included massages. Telling them early was pretty unavoidable! We also told some close friends who had helped us through the miscarriage, but for the most part waited until 14 weeks. We decided not to do a big Facebook announcement, but it will be pretty obvious when we send out our Christmas cards this year.

lyndz333 · October 2014

I told my sister right away because I had a squinted HPT and I wanted her opinion. I told my mom shortly thereafter because I was getting blood work and no one else will know until I start visually showing. With our first two losses we hadn't shared it with anyone besides our mothers and my sister but the heartbreak of having to tell them we lost the baby was too much. My MIL doesn't even know about our second loss.

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