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Husband weird-ed out

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So everyone wants to touch my belly and feel the baby move, I'm starting to get used to it. However, today MH was talking to me and the baby started kicking like crazy and I told him to feel it and he was weird-ed out by it. He seemed like it almost grossed him out. I get that it's not the same thing for him because he's not building a baby and not bonding with it every day but I was a little disappointed. I just wanted to see if anyone else's husband felt the same way...
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  • umbcptumbcpt member
    Mine always gets weirded out.  First, second, and now the third baby.  Also, no action in the bedroom, because he says he feels weird about it.  The good thing is the magic returns once baby is born.  And he's great with the baby once it is born, just the whole belly thing weirds him out.  He doesn't really say why, though.  



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    umbcpt said:
    Mine always gets weirded out.  First, second, and now the third baby.  Also, no action in the bedroom, because he says he feels weird about it.  The good thing is the magic returns once baby is born.  And he's great with the baby once it is born, just the whole belly thing weirds him out.  He doesn't really say why, though.  
    My husband had trouble having sex for awhile after I unwittingly told him that the baby moves more afterwards. *face palm* Poor guy!
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  • jennjilljojennjilljo member
    DH hates touching and feeling the movement. He likes seeing it but that's about it. I make him feel it anyway. Everyone handles it differently and guys are weird about it sometimes.
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  • mommaa1615mommaa1615 member
    DH thinks its weird too...kinda freaks me out too but his reaction could be a little better lol men!
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  • stefani103stefani103 member
    Mine is weirded out too. I managed to get him to feel a second time about a week after the first, and he was just as freaked out. Very Alien-esque for him.
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  • HerHighnessHerHighness member
    Aww dont be disappointed. It could just be another thing making to more real to him (especially if this is first baby). My husband was weirded out by a lot of things first go round that he has had no issues with previous pregnancies. I know he was very skittish about sex late 3rd tri with my first but of course i made him anyway... Lol
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  • CogDisCogDis member
    Ditto to most previous posters. Mine tries to hide his heebie geebies but it shines through with his reluctance.

    I'm also with @Ducktale‌, it freaks me out a bit, too!
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  • vpeazyvpeazy member
    My husband will have none of it after he felt the first one kicking him in his back as we slept lol
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  • munchkin8590munchkin8590 member
    I was a little worried about my hubby being weirded out by it, but he actually surprised me and he's really awesome about it. He loves feeling the baby move and he's the one that's less weird about sex.

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    sugahcookie01 said:
    I think it's super normal. I just started being able to feel Henry from the outside and had DH out his hand where the kicks were (of course he stopped kicking then) but DH was white as a sheet! I asked if he was okay and he said, "yeah...I just feel lightheaded!"
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  • erobbins09erobbins09 member
    @sugahcookie01‌ yay for feeling Henry from the outside!!! But if your DH got light headed from that I am going to want ALL THE DETAILS of how he does at the hospital :)

    And my guy happens to love the babies internal break dancing but his love of all things baby makes him a freak. We watched the walking dead last night and he was "aw"ing baby Judith "she really is a cute peanut." Truth time: I get way more weirded out than he does by this stuff. I'm sure your guy will be great about it all when that baby looks at him for the first time

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  • AlygohomeAlygohome member
    My husband is ok with blood/gore (obv in his line of work) but the following things make him almost pass out: The umbilical cord/cord stump, Talking about a vasectomy, anything to do with needles and outie belly buttons. Its so weird what creeps some people out and not others. Honestly I started feeling baby at 14+2 and it felt like maggot crawling under my skin and I cried a few times because it creeped me out so bad and I was so freaked out I thought I was going to be such a bad mom--I mean I didn't even like feeling the baby move!, it actually didn't stop creeping me out until 20ish weeks and now that it feels more like punches/kicks/rolls I enjoy it more.
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  • jennypolkadotsjennypolkadots member
    DH started feeling kicks around 19 weeks and has been nothing but insanely excited. Nothing weird at all, it's amazing. And sex is the same as always, every other day or so. Just different positions now that I have a pot belly :)

    I wonder if some of this could come from just not understanding some things. I mean the baby is basically under water with vernix plugging his ears, there is no way he is aware of you having sex vs. exercising. And your vagina does not touch the baby - you have a long cervical canal then the uterus and bag of waters. Maybe if he learned more it would demystify it a bit and set his mind at ease. Or maybe he is well informed, but I think it's common to be wierded out by things you don't really understand. Dh has been reading like crazy and has really liked the book "The Expectant Father" and the Mayo Clinic Guide. He also read Ina May's guide to childbirth and it talks a lot about the sexuality of the process which I think puts it in perspective a bit. I guess I consider sex a really valuable part of a marriage, and hate to think of someone not being intimate with their spouse because of something so silly. You will have plenty of time to not be making love after the baby gets here, after all. :) 
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  • lorifromwilorifromwi member

    Honestly I wish my DH was a little more put-off by the baby in my belly...he's ready for sex 24-7 and my libido seems to be on vacation with my period.  :( 

    I know he's frustrated and I feel bad for him, but *sigh* I just don't want it right now.

     

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  • hwood10hwood10 member
    MH is only weird-ed out feeling Carter move, but nothing has stopped him from wanting sex 24/7. I did notice last night though that he does make sure to stay clear of touching the belly at all costs LOL It's nice knowing I'm not the only one with a weird-ed out husband. I was weird-ed out at first by the squirming but now I love the tae kwon do match going on in my belly! Thanks everyone, I'm feeling better about it now!
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  • Sahara6971Sahara6971 member
    Totally normal. My husband isn't really into feeling the baby and wasn't with my other two either. He instantly fell in love with them once they were born though.

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  • AngieAnAngieAn member
    Sahara6971 said:
    Totally normal. My husband isn't really into feeling the baby and wasn't with my other two either. He instantly fell in love with them once they were born though.
    ^ Same thing ^  

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  • cookinggirl15cookinggirl15 member
    I have the opposite problem; my husband won't leave my belly alone, and you can't always feel him from the outside yet! I'm also the one freaked out by feeling him during sex; my DH just keeps telling me it's normal, and I'm supposed to feel him.
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  • racheltheroseracheltherose member
    My husband was always creeped out by other women's pregnant bellies, but he's been very in love with mine. I think knowing it's his little creature in there makes him excited. I'm glad he's able to bond with our LO 

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  • biaher16biaher16 member
    My So told me once he couldn't be pregnant because it would creep him out to have something growing inside him lol . First time I really felt baby was the day before my docs appointment earlier this month and it was a bit creepy alien feeling kinda thing. I can tell when she's going to kick or punch because I feel like this build up of pressure and pow! Last night I felt her and told him and he immediately went for my tummy but she was done lol . A few minutes later I felt that sensation and put his hand in my tummy and he held it there forever. Baby did atleast 12 kicks if not more lol . Every time I'm laying down I just put my hands were the baby is and wait I love feeling her and knowing she's alright in there.
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