sahm from working mom?

rosiedemps · October 2014

Second time mom with a lot of changed going on. We are moving from NY to PA in December. I will be leaving my job when we leave and am yet undetermined if I will go back. We are selling our house and renting for a year to see what we can afford.
Who has made the switch? What was the hardest part? My son will be 2.5 when the new baby is born and we have 2 dogs to keep up busy. My son has been in day care but I hope to find groups to socialize with for all of us!
Ant words of wisdom ir advice?

elleswarth · October 2014

Spelling and grammar are my words of advice.

MusicFanatic · October 2014

I've not made the switch, but will be. Well, I'm not currently working because I'm on bedrest. But I've worked from the ages of 16 until this past summer. I'm making the switch because we moved to a different country and I can't legally work until I'm a perm resident. So I'm kinda being thrown into it. I'm both excited and nervous. And hoping I have patience

rosiedemps · October 2014

Firefly3911 said:
I haven't made the switch yet, but when this one comes along, its done. No more work for me until kids are in pre k or K. I've been semi-sah for the last few months already, and yeah you need to find a mom's group or something. I'm still looking because I really need to get C involved with kids her age.

Patience comes and goes. As does sanity.

Thanks! Sanity is one of the pieces I am concerned about along with financials.

rosiedemps · October 2014

elleswarth said:
Spelling and grammar are my words of advice.

Thank you for the productive advice. I will be sure to spell check from my phone going forward. I can't thank you enough for helping me through this with your support and encouragement.

elleswarth · October 2014

rosiedemps said:

elleswarth said:
Spelling and grammar are my words of advice.
Thank you for the productive advice. I will be sure to spell check from my phone going forward. I can't thank you enough for helping me through this with your support and encouragement.

Anytime.

kellyfo14 · October 2014

I went from working to staying home when my second was born as well. The adjustment was pretty smooth for me because I hated my job. At the beginning we didn't get out much. I was caught up in getting the house in order and simple tasks like grocery shopping were a challenge until the kids were a little older. We started going to the library a lot and spending time with my grandparents. Now they are 3 and 4. We do something every morning of the week except for Friday (which we manage to fill up too). I love being a SAHM. I never thought I would have the opportunity to be but it is incredibly rewarding. Now with number 3 on the way I look forward to watching how my DD4 and DS3 interact with her. Should be a crazy but fun change in routine!

Jamie02Lee · October 2014

DH n I were considering the SAHM thing when LO arrives but now I'm out of work already, due to our complications n the stress at work. I'm waiting for TDI to start but the past 2 weeks of not having my own money has been a hard pill to swallow for me.. I've worked since I was 14, started babysitting and cleaning dishes at my cousins restaurant under the table, I'm not used to not having my own money. Bills r paid n DH is not weird about me taking money from the acct but having to take money from him for things like groceries or a new dress cuz we went to a wedding this weekend n I needed a nice dress that fit or needing a hair cut, for me, personally, my pride isn't easing into it well. So I've decided while I'm out if work to take a 2 month teachers assistant class n hopefully after LO arrives I can have a part time job lined up, this way he gets some daycare time as well and I have my own cash to go buy a new sweater if I please without checking with DH first if it's OK...

The pros, I am always home and able to run errands during the day for DH that just wouldn't get done after work, dinner is always made, we eat much healthier, the dogs get so much more attention and training time, I love being home! I just hate not having my own money.

But this is just my 2 week experience with no kids so idk how much help I am, hopefully some. :-)

AggieMom0809 · October 2014

There are tons of moms groups for moms of babies an toddlers to socialize. If nothing else, go to parks and other toddler friendly places around to give you and your child some needed interaction. I spent almost a year with my oldest at home only going to the store and maybe a park by ourselves before finding a moms group. My only adult interaction was with the cashiers and you know they don't like to stop and chat. lol The mom group that I'm in has helped me keep my sanity.

llambrose · October 2014

I went from working full time to being a SAHM for 2 years after my daughter was born. Then I started working part time for another year and a half then went back to full time. I am really sad that I won't get to do that with this baby. I really don't know how I am going to handle working full time and having a baby. I am so afraid that I will not feel like I have any time to spend with my kids and I will miss out on so much. It makes me really sad if I think about it too much. I had no trouble adjusting to staying at home, I hated the job that I had back then so that really made it easy. Things are so crazy with a new baby and I felt like the days all just blended together. I kind of can't comprehend having to do it with a strict schedule. I am definitely the type of person who is cut out to stay home, it takes me a long time to feel stir crazy and I don't need a ton of interaction. I think that if you want things to do, the easiest way to get started would be to go to a park or a play area to hopefully meet some new people with kids.

Jen524 · October 2014

This summer I went from working to SAHM when my DH got transferred for work. I was a teacher so the summer felt like any other summer. It took us awhile to get into a routine but we have. I would looking for mom groups at the library or other places. I would also suggest get out of the house everyday even if it is going to the store or doing a drop off. My older DD is in preschool so she has made new friends and my younger DD goes to story time at the library for kids her age, so she gets some socialization. It does take awhile to adjust. I am really excited to not have to leave my 8 week old baby at daycare and go through pumping at work like I did with my two girls.

kellyfo14 · October 2014

It took me a long time to adjust to the money thing too. I had always worked and bought what I wanted with my money. It felt a little like stealing from DH when I needed anything and it was hard to ask for money. I
That was until I started to see the inherent value in what I was doing for my husband. My staying home takes the pressure off him for most domestic jobs and things related to the kids. We don't need to worry about who is taking time off for doctor appointments or to bring the kids to the dentist. I think that DH would call himself spoiled if he really thought about it. I try to make him feel as though the only thing he has to worry about is work. There is great value in this and once you start to see the money coming in as the household income it starts to take the weirdness away.

ETA: This does not happen over night. It took me about two years to get where I am now in perspective though I guess everyone gets it at a different rate. I have been home for 3 years now. It is what works for our family.

Bigboneded · October 2014

Getting ready for that transition myself! :-) My last working day will be 10/31, and I should get vacay paid out. Then to start uneployment.... I always planned to be SAH, or hubby do it. But then I had this great paying job that I didnt think I could leave, with a cray-cray boss- so not feeling too bad about it :-)

it is our next adventure... I have worked since 14 yo also, and budget hasnt been a concern for a long time. I think that may be our biggest adjustment. :-)

GracefulStar · October 2014

Hey, I'm in a similar boat, I work full time with my son but will stay home after this one is born. I like my job and was offered advancement so the whole thing is bittersweet. I'm looking forward to it but nervous as well. What I've mostly read on this board and others is to make sure to get out. Whether it's a walk, visit to a park, mommy and me class, etc. to have an event to look forward to. It's good for mommy and children. It must be hard moving to a new place, not sure if you know anyone there but a moms group or meetup group might be a good place to start to make some friends.

rosiedemps · October 2014

I think the career part bothers me a lot more than I admit... I have done well and been able to advance and am afraid that I will lose that piece of my identity. I like being independent and successful. Guess we will see how it works... can always go back

GracefulStar · October 2014

True, and I know how the economy is and all that, and I'm sure you have financial worries as I do but the SAHM thing is most likely temporary. Make the most of it while you can, you might prefer part time employment. That's what I'm telling myself at least. I know I will have to go back to working so might as well make the most of the time with the kiddies and give it a go.

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