Overdue and friends wedding

white714 · October 2014

I'm 5 days overdue and one of my good friends is getting married nov 1. I thought I would have 2 weeks before the wedding since DS was early but looks like it will be really close. Dr said we'll talk about inducing if he's not here by Wednesday. Has anyone gone to a wedding that close after having their LO? I think we're just going to the reception and I feel bad cause she is a really good friend. I don't even know what to wear, a dress 1 or 2 sizes bigger? I don't even have anything! Also worried about leaving LO so soon with my mom. Feeling stressed.

hgielrebmik · October 2014

If I were you, I would send a gift and apologize for missing her big day. Ask if you can take her out to brunch in another month or so. I wouldn't want to leave my baby that soon, and if you are breastfeeding it may not even be realistic. If she is a good friend she will understand. Best of luck on your upcoming delivery and sending you labor vibes.

angeltennis3 · October 2014

I would also not go. I was supposed to be in a wedding this upcoming Saturday, and my due date is today. I didn't want her to have to pay for me or DH to attend the reception, so we declined. However, if I am still pregnant we will attend the ceremony.

Also, if you are planning to breastfeed, it will be a challenge to be able to be away from LO for a full wedding reception.

I am sure your friend will understand, but personally I would tell her your change in plans ASAP so hopefully she isn't charged for you to attend.

turtlewifey · October 2014

I would also probably not go, especially if you are nursing.

Good luck with the induction if it comes to that in the next few days!

miss.brittany · October 2014

I probably wouldn't go. You and LO could benefit from rest that soon after delivery and if you plan to nurse I think it'd be really hard. Plus you'll have to find somewhere to pump if you stay trough a feeding. For simplicity, I'd stay home!

marijaa333 · October 2014

A lurker here: a friend of mine came to my wedding, along with the newborn baby, husband and older child, 10 days after birth. We didn't have a very strict number to adhere to, and I wanted her there if she could make it, so we just counted on her coming and would have totally understood if they had to miss the day. It was her second kid, so perhaps that made it easier. It was also at a hotel, and we had rented a suite next to the reception room, so she was able to park the stroller, breastfeed or rest whenever she wanted. As for actually attending, she seemed to have a great time, and the little one slept through most of the event.

Maggie6424 · October 2014

I wouldn't go either. That's just too soon after having baby for me to even attempt to look nice enough to attend a wedding.

vrj0522 · October 2014

I personally would not go. This LO had been super easy and I could take here anywhere right now but DS was not. He was pretty miserable for a while after birth and taking him anywhere might have been a nightmare. Not knowing what you will be feeling like (will you be sleeping, will baby be content for the most part, will you feel healed enough, etc), what your baby will be like, and how feeding will be going, I would definitely pass. While it sounds do-able to be away for a couple of hours, you just don't really know how things will be like then.

Nichole7041 · October 2014

If you want to go I'd only go WITH baby and also if you and baby have adjusted very well.
If you decide not to go I wouldn't feel bad and she should understand.

Also the baby being there might take away from her big day if you all have a lot of the same friends.

suncake · October 2014

I have homecoming and a parade and a few games left for my oldest all mixed in with having a baby. I'm not sure how I will juggle it all. I think if it's important and you feel good. Go.

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