lack of sex

bekas&axel · October 2014

Does any one feel like they just dint want to have sex with their other half. My sex life has decreased more then of what we use to. ??

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emopny · October 2014

stine28 · October 2014

I'm feelin ya. My sex life is a little less than of what it was when it used to be higher but not exactly as much as then either. !!

kellbell1982 · October 2014

To me sex doesn't feel the same. It's uncomfortable and while I still want to do it, it's more to be close to my husband. I find myself looking forward to its end

MyLittleGony · October 2014

@keysersuzie, I think some of your sex advice is needed up in here. ALL up in here.

koshveily · October 2014

Apparently I'm saving all my sex for my dreams. By the time I wake up, I'm all sexed out.

CarterWA · October 2014

I totally understand! I have not wanted to at all. But at the same time I feel like I need to for my husband. It's just uncomfortable and I find myself more tired at the end of the day and just don't have energy for it.

ST3WD · October 2014

koshveily said:

Apparently I'm saving all my sex for my dreams. By the time I wake up, I'm all sexed out.

This. All of this.

Helloooooo, Mr. Rogers.

cmzarda · October 2014

Our sex life has decreased a lot since getting pregnant. Some days it's better than others. It's gotten to the point I just do it now to have the closeness with my husband. My body doesn't handle it well anymore (I also have cerebral palsy which ties into it also)

mrsmendoza13 · October 2014

koshveily said:
Apparently I'm saving all my sex for my dreams. By the time I wake up, I'm all sexed out.

Yes! I do not want to even be touched yet I keep having sex dreams with JJ Watt from Houston Texans!

mwerren · October 2014

I want it-but it hurts. My vagina feels like it is closing up or something. My poor husband said it actually hurt his penis last go around

koshveily · October 2014

mwerren said:
I want it-but it hurts. My vagina feels like it is closing up or something. My poor husband said it actually hurt his penis last go around

Sounds like you might need some extra lube? Pregnancy hormones tend to dry us out.

Whitfry · October 2014

I feel like mine has improved. While we were actively trying tgp, sex wasn't as much fun because there was all this pressure and anxiety surrounding it.

Then I got KU and got that wonderful increase in blood flow, and sex became better than it ever had been. So I'm one of the lucky ones, I guess.

PHNJenna · October 2014

Definitely has decreased. I agree with many of you PP's that I do it more for the intimacy with my H versus actually having desire for sex.

massiejs09 · October 2014

My H is the one who seems less interested in sex now that I'm KU. At first it was fine, but now that my stomach is getting bigger he says he's worried about hurting me and the baby. I told him there are other positions we can use but he doesn't seem interested. Its making me think that maybe he's just not that attracted to my pregnant body. I point blank asked him about this and he said it wasn't that, it was more about (what I just wrote). But then his unwillingness to try alternative positions sort of suggests otherwise. I don't know. Its confusing and also sad because it DOES make you feel isolated and unattractive if you think your partner isn't interested in having sex with you anymore. He definitely hasn't tried to initiate sex in awhile. I tried initiating the other night but he said he was tired and not in the mood. Ugh - frustrating.

kellbell1982 · October 2014

@massiejs09‌ I know just how you feel. My H hasn't initiated since I've been pregnant and he says the same as your husband. We had two losses so I understand his fear. He worries that something will happen and it'll be all his fault. I know it hurts to feel unwanted, I'm struggling with that myself. Beyond talking to him about it I'm not sure what else to suggest as I'm in the same boat. Just wanted you to know that you are most definitely not alone

battymomma · October 2014

I can have sex whenever I want it but I am too tired most of the time. We tend to be... acrobatic.

massiejs09 · October 2014

@kellbell1982 - thanks. I think I've wondered since the beginning how things might change as I started to grow more with the baby. And maybe some of that is me projecting my own insecurities about my changing body onto my sex life, but it just seems like a rejection (especially when he's not initiating or seems disinterested). Its like I've become his pregnant best friend who has a sleep over every night. He still wants to cuddle and be affectionate, just not sexual.

I know he's still watching porn so he's obviously still interested in sex (as a concept).

jpavenski · October 2014

I feel like the bump is starting to get in the way at this point and making me uncomfortable & I know the fact that the baby is right there freaks him out too. But as far as drive I'm still pretty into it, just gotta get creative I guess!

Whitfry · October 2014

@massiejs09‌
I've taken DH to a couple OB appts (usually when we see her after a u/s) and I've asked her questions about sex so he could hear her answers. DH has even asked some questions himself. Admittedly, he's not really been too worried about hurting the baby, lol. But I wonder if you tried something similar it might set your DH's mind at ease.

GingerMommy315 · October 2014

I just really don't feel a desire to do it. My guy is not pleased. But I get home from work, make dinner and I'm exhausted and in bed by 8pm. It's just very low on my list of priorities right now.

TwinsCitiesMomma · October 2014

It's been painful the last couple if times and I started bleeding. Last night tried a different position and so much better. But, like others, it's not that important to me right now. I just like the closeness of being with my DH. It's his "season" of business travel so I miss him pretty badly.

LoveAngelina · October 2014

Yep, I actually don't feel like having sex at all. Until this morning when I woke up in the mood and got some loving ;X

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FrecklesInside · October 2014

Word. Zombie thread. But there is a lot of talk about this in a recent poll.

dreyes4 · October 2014

I use to not want to have sex, it hurt..but when i got pregnant my husband took another job and he works out of state and doesnt come home But like 2days every 2 weeks..so when he comes home its like we're like bunnies or something(when the kids are asleep that is)lol...so i guess i got lucky and the pregnancy has helped my sex life...

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