Intro and WWYD?

NB817 · October 2014

Hi, I'm Nickey! I have a wonderful 2 year old daughter and have been trying for #2 for a year now. I will be 35 next month and my OB recently put me on clomid. I have a history of having large fibroids that had to be removed 2 years before DD came along. I will be doing an HSG during my next cycle and if that's all clear my Ob wants to do a post coital exam!! Yikes!

I'm here because I'm really starting to have a hard time emotionally with the stress of TTC #2 and I feel like no one IRL gets what I am going through. I made a ton of mom friends when I had DD thru hospital support/new moms groups and now they are all having #2 or have already had #2 so they don't get what I'm feeling when I try to talk about it with them. They just say "It will happen when it's meant to..." and things like that.

As for my WWYD...two of my best mom friends are KU with #2 and are due on the same day. One of them tried for 2 cycles and the other wasn't even trying. They both know all of my struggles and we have daily group chats via text. In these chats they constantly complain about being pregnant and I really don't get how they could do that when they know what I am going thru and how long we've been TTC. DH says to just tell them to stop texting about it but I feel like that will completely change our friendship and they will just stop texting with me altogether. Then I will be that bitter friend that can't handle being happy for others and that's just not who I am. I remember what it was like being KU and I realize it's special and that's all you want to talk about, but I wish they would be more considerate of my emotions.So have any of you experienced this or something similar?? WWYD? Thanks!

mara005 · October 2014

Welcome to the board!

As for your WWYD- I personally would have to stop texting with them. However I may be more emotional/sensitive to this because of my losses. But if it upsets you every day then I would either talk to them about it or not participate.

NB817 · October 2014

Thank you ladies! Yes, it's definitely the complaining that's tough for me.

I actually finally said something when one complained about having a 2nd active LO based on an u/s and I responded with "I would kill for two active little ones" but she didn't get it. She just responded with "I know you really want a 2nd but you wouldn't want two like my LO she's out of control". This sent me into a cry fest (with the help of clomid of course) and I just didn't text them anymore that day.

I think I just have to bite the bullet and be direct with them which will probably change things. sigh.

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