Late Term and Child Loss
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Intro (losses and living children mentioned)
JenOSU
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I found out at my regular OB appointment on October 2nd that my Olivia Claire no longer had a heart beat. I was induced three days later and delivered her on October 5th at 17 weeks (she measured 16). Olivia was my 7th pregnancy, and I have two living children at home. I was/am in complete shock that we are going down this road again. It took me about 14 weeks of pregnancy to finally feel confident that she was our rainbow and we would be bringing her home in March. I finally allowed myself to buy and wear maternity clothes and had just bought her some clothes the two weeks before finding out she had died. I let my guard down and then it happened.
After delivery and holding Olivia, my doctor said she thinks we should consider a surrogate in the future. I feel like I am grieving for two losses: my baby and the opportunity to ever get pregnant and carry my own child to live birth again. We have not ever done recurrent loss testing because prior to Olivia and with two living children my doctor said it probably wasn't necessary or worth the cost. But before I can ever make a final decision about our future I will request a full work-up. My doctor suggested that she thought it might be a blood clotting problem (I had pre-eclampsia with my oldest DD, multiple first trimester losses, and a late miscarriage with Olivia) or that my body's immune system is fighting my babies. I am now, perhaps blindly and irrationally, clinging to the hope that they will find something to explain why we keep losing babies and that there is a treatment. I so badly want to have another baby, but I can't imagine going through this horror again. How many times can someone get knocked down and get up again before they just stay down?
(born at 35 weeks due to pre-eclampsia)
Olivia Claire born sleeping at 17 weeks (measuring 16) October 5, 2014
MC 8/06 at 5w 3d
MC 7/27/09 at 7w 2d
MMC 12/2/11 discovered at 7w 6d
ruptured ectopic (loss of right tube) 6/27/13 at 6.5 weeks
My Loss Blog: onlywaythrough@blogspot.com
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Re: Intro (losses and living children mentioned)
Me 32 (Stage IV Endometriosis, short luteal phase) DH 38
Married 5/2010
January 2014- DS born healthy at 35.4 weeks
February 2014- DS passed away due to complications from adenovirus
February 2015- Rainbow baby DD born at 36.3 weeks
My chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/42fd32
****TICKER WARNING*****
I am so sorry for your losses. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
Your story is similar to mine. We just lost our 7th pregnancy at 17w5d a couple of months ago as well and have two living children.
I would definitely get the RLP work done so you can make an informed decision moving forward. I'm sorry for your losses.
My Life
BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
BFP 10.26.10 - 10.29.10 CP
BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
BFP 12.18.12 - 12.20.12 CP
BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
BFP 6.10.14 - CVS 7.2.14 (Girl) - EDD 1.12.15 - Born sleeping 8.6.14 @ 17w5d
I'm so sorry for your loss of Olivia and for your 4 prior losses. I too started to feel more relaxed and had made my first baby purchase just shortly before my daughter passed away. I kick myself for that too.
I hope that additional testing provides you with some answers and a degree of confidence in moving forward down whichever path you choose. After losing Layla, I had lots of RPL tests run and found that I have a couple of clotting factors, that combined with my history, means that I need to be on baby aspirin and Lovenox while TTC and during pregnancy. I don't feel confident that the clotting factors tell the whole story for me (just a gut feeling) but I do take some comfort in knowing that I will at least be doing something extra to protect the next one.
October 2011 - DS (7)
July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)
August 2015 - DD (3)
April 2018 - 5 week loss
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
Asher born February 5, 2011.
Baby #2 born sleeping at 20 weeks. May 6, 2014.