Community› The Bump Month Clubs› April 2015 Moms
April 2015 Moms
New Discussion

What piece gross of unsolicited advice have you recieved? Possible TMI's here!!

KayDeeKay81KayDeeKay81 member
in April 2015 Moms

Yesterday I shared the news with  a couple ladies at my work. One of these ladies asked me if I had started using cream for my skin. I knew where she was going (avoidance of stretch marks) and even though I don't use lotion - I said yes in order to perhaps stop that topic from being further explored. 

This tactic, however, did not work because she continued to advise me to make sure to put the lotion on my breasts but be careful not to put it on the nipples.

So I say yes that is good advice thank you  thinking it was over.

OH NO now she tells me its important for me to buy a loofah and scrub my nipples everyday in the shower to toughen them up for breastfeeding! 

UGH gross uncomfortable advice!!!

It was the first round of advice I have gotten anyone else have a good one?

Report Reply to Post

Re: What piece gross of unsolicited advice have you recieved? Possible TMI's here!!

  • Loading the player...
  • myeumyeumyeumyeu member
    Sorry but stretch marks are genetic. If you aren't getting any, at least give yourself credit.

    I don't know if I give off some kind of vibe that says don't fuck with me, but I never have problems with strangers do weird things like touch my belly, ask me how far along I am, or give me weird unsolicited advice. I hope it stays this way.
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
    Report Reply
  • KayDeeKay81KayDeeKay81 member

    Genetic yes, but even if they weren't I just do not like lotions. Sadly, I will look like a zebra by the time this pregnancy is over - I have gotten them all my life! :(


    Report Reply
  • lneice0160lneice0160 member
    Ugh no nipple scrubbing ouch!! I don't even like anything getting near the boobs over the pain.
    I was told I was a bad person for having a planned c-section and epi and I wouldn't be able to bond with my child bc I would be to 'doped' up to know what was going on, the best part was if I did it naturally without drugs I could fit into my jeans in a couple days....um hello! I dgaf about fitting into jeans a couple days after having a baby, I don't plan on going out. And I was totally aware of everything happening during surgery and my child is closer to me than anyone, but then again I am her mother and with her 24/7.
    Report Reply
  • marigold32marigold32 member
    KayDeeKay81 said:

    Yesterday I shared the news with  a couple ladies at my work. One of these ladies asked me if I had started using cream for my skin. I knew where she was going (avoidance of stretch marks) and even though I don't use lotion - I said yes in order to perhaps stop that topic from being further explored. 

    This tactic, however, did not work because she continued to advise me to make sure to put the lotion on my breasts but be careful not to put it on the nipples.

    So I say yes that is good advice thank you  thinking it was over.

    OH NO now she tells me its important for me to buy a loofah and scrub my nipples everyday in the shower to toughen them up for breastfeeding! 

    UGH gross uncomfortable advice!!!

    It was the first round of advice I have gotten anyone else have a good one?

    Do not do this. This is very old school advice. 
    Report Reply
  • theinvadermothershiptheinvadermothership member
    I think if anyone touches my bump, i will touch their stomach back and reply, oh your gut makes you look so cute!

    Don't ever touch me without my permission. I have rights still.
    Report Reply
  • SunnyBeachBumSunnyBeachBum member
    Nipple scrubbing?! WTF... I work with all men and some of the stories I hear about their wives and what they went through during pregnancy... WHOA... Sometimes I think they are just trying to freak me out. So, thanks for all the comforting advice guys, but no thanks! I don't need pregnancy advice from a guy : (
    A15 January siggy challenge: Workout/Fitness Fails
    image

    IT'S A BOY! EDD: April 3, 2015

    BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • JAP09-02JAP09-02 member
    lemoncookie09 said:
    Not gross per say, but my younger sister (who has never been pregnant) did try to tell me that consuming animal products makes morning sickness worse. My MIL has also told me that I shouldn't reach above my head since that is what causes the umbilical cord to get wrapped around the baby's neck.
    I had a co-worker tell me this during my first pregnancy.  I'm pretty sure I just looked at her like she had three heads.  
    Report Reply
  • theinvadermothershiptheinvadermothership member
    Seachele98 said:

    Mine was along the same lines as the nipple scrubbing (and VERY TMI). My MIL told DH that we need to toughen up my nipples for breastfeeding now, and that he needs to start sucking on them to prepare them. Um...sorry MIL, not your business! DH knows to expect a throat punch if he even tries.

    =)) =)) I WOULD SCREAM IF FAMILY SUGGESTED THAT. NOT YOUR BUSINESS! [-X [-X
    Report Reply
  • SuperFudge00SuperFudge00 member
    ejz98ric02 said:

    A coworker was congratulating me on my 1 year wedding anniversary last week, and then said " I hope you're not rushing to have kids. That'd be a HUGE mistake!" ......thanks lady! I'll keep that in mind when I announce.

    We had DH's ex over two weekends in a row because she was in our area for work, their son was here too. The first weekend was when I had just got the BFP. The wine and mimosas were flowing, so much that she didn't even notice that I wasn't drinking or smoking. I was in my bikini and she proceeds to tell me that I have (had) such a flat stomach that I should never have kids so I won't ruin it. I brushed it off saying that wouldn't be the reason I don't have kids. Then it got real uncomfortable because she started touching my tummy and then started to admire my breasts and reached to touch their buoyancy. WTF??? I quickly got out of the hot tub and put my coverup on.

    The next week we had my BFF and her fam over as well and DH told his ex that we were expecting. She seemed legitimately excited and never "recommended" not having kids again, lol. I also hope she doesn't remember how touchy-feely she was.

    image

    BabyFruit Ticker


    November Siggy Challenge: Selfie Fails

    Hidden for the sake of your eyes!

    Report Reply
  • sara6389sara6389 member
    lemoncookie09 said:

    Not gross per say, but my younger sister (who has never been pregnant) did try to tell me that consuming animal products makes morning sickness worse. My MIL has also told me that I shouldn't reach above my head since that is what causes the umbilical cord to get wrapped around the baby's neck.

    My MIL said the same thing except about crossing your legs. I thought that sounded crazy so I looked it up and the only thing that came up was circulation issues.
    Report Reply
  • leosmama1208leosmama1208 member
    When I was pregnant with my first, a co-worker (it's always the damn co-worker's!) told me that I should hope I don't have a c-section, she then went on to tell me horror stories of her c-section. I was terrified i would have one... I actually ended up needing one at the end of my labor, and let me tell you, she worried me over nothing. People always like to play it up like it was just so god awful, labor and c-sections aren't a walk in the park, but I really don't think it's as bad as some people say it is.
    Report Reply
  • kariemomokariemomo member
    I haven't received anything crazy, the normal you need to work out and make sure you put lotion on. My friend ally and I are a few weeks apart so we usually chat about things we hear. Though before I got pregnant my mom knew we were going to ttc soon, and she told me to do it doggie style so we would have a boy. And then rambled on about how we want a to have a boy first and this is the best position for it. Uh thanks mom...
    Report Reply
  • KayDeeKay81KayDeeKay81 member
    I love these!!! 
    Report Reply
  • MushibambooMushibamboo member
    Seachele98 said:

    Mine was along the same lines as the nipple scrubbing (and VERY TMI). My MIL told DH that we need to toughen up my nipples for breastfeeding now, and that he needs to start sucking on them to prepare them. Um...sorry MIL, not your business! DH knows to expect a throat punch if he even tries.

    I have an awesome TMI about this, but don't want to traumatize you further ;). When I was pregnant with my first I was told not to bathe after giving birth (eww) and not to eat cold foods.
    Report Reply
  • wolowizardwolowizard member
    Swoon13 said:
    I pity the first person to try to give me unsolicited pregnancy advice. I'm just as blunt IRL as I am here. And I swear if any strangers try to touch my bump they will be minus a hand.

    I just announced on Facebook last week and the first day back at work a lady I work with came up and hugged my belly and said "hey baby!!!" with her face literally next to my lower abdomen. Wtf is wrong with people.
    BFP 8/9/2014
    Baby Boy wolowizard due 4/14/2015
    Greyson Robert
    Report Reply
  • sealavidasealavida member
    Mushibamboo said:
    Mine was along the same lines as the nipple scrubbing (and VERY TMI). My MIL told DH that we need to toughen up my nipples for breastfeeding now, and that he needs to start sucking on them to prepare them. Um...sorry MIL, not your business! DH knows to expect a throat punch if he even tries.
    I have an awesome TMI about this, but don't want to traumatize you further ;). When I was pregnant with my first I was told not to bathe after giving birth (eww) and not to eat cold foods.
    I think an appropriately TMI response would be something like, "oh he sucks my nipples all the time. It turns me on like crazy."
    Report Reply
  • itshumpdayitshumpday member
    My mom told me not to push too hard when I poop. She said the baby might fall out. No mom. That's not the reason you sent supposed to push hard but thanks.

    image
    Dating since 6/9/10...Married 6/9/14
    BFP 8/18/14...EDD 4/29/15
      BabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • mrstarachattmrstarachatt member
    edited October 2014
    First timer here and I am dumbfounded reading these! Who does or says these things?! Maybe I will growl if someone tries to touch me, or just karate chop them. Holy smokes people are so weird.
    Report Reply
  • Cali2090Cali2090 member
    QSB said:

    That toughening up the nipples advice was the common thought back when I was pregnant with our first. I didn't do it then, I wouldn't do it now.


    It isn't gross, but it is weird. A lady on one of the due date boards I was on previously was a dentist. She told all the mothers to absolutely NEVER kiss their babies on the mouth because it will give them cavities. 
    I am a dental hygienist and actually as crazy as it sounds this statement is kind of true. Babies aren't born with the harmful bacteria in their mouths that cause cavities so when you (or any adult) kisses the baby right on the mouth, you introduce bacteria that can now cause cavities. We were taught this in school. However, incredibly unrealistic! Pretty sure I'm going to want to kiss my new babe! Just brush your kids teeth and clean their gums and you'll be fine :)
    Report Reply
  • MushibambooMushibamboo member
    sealavida said:


    Mushibamboo said:

    Seachele98 said:

    Mine was along the same lines as the nipple scrubbing (and VERY TMI). My MIL told DH that we need to toughen up my nipples for breastfeeding now, and that he needs to start sucking on them to prepare them. Um...sorry MIL, not your business! DH knows to expect a throat punch if he even tries.

    I have an awesome TMI about this, but don't want to traumatize you further ;). When I was pregnant with my first I was told not to bathe after giving birth (eww) and not to eat cold foods.

    I think an appropriately TMI response would be something like, "oh he sucks my nipples all the time. It turns me on like crazy."

    I totally feel like this is an invitation to overshare ;). So I'll be a pregnancy-advice TMIer: Ladies, don't let your partners suck on your nipples later in pregnancy unless they want to make a meal out of it.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"