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February 2014 Moms
Meghan14
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SAHM Check-in 10/14
Meghan14
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I missed you girls! A big Thank You to @ShellBell3845 for taking care of things!
What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
What helped save your sanity?
Topic for the week: Mommy Wars and judgement. This doesn't only affect us SAHMs, but I thought it was an important topic. How do you handle feeling judged? Are you guilty of judging? Do you try to stop yourself?
GTKY: They're getting so big! What do you miss about having a teeny-tiny? What are you loving now?
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
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Re: SAHM Check-in 10/14
What were your successes this week?
Survived another trip to see my family.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
Family.
Travel.
Today I'm dealing with a man cold on my birthday.
What helped save your sanity?
Morning walks for coffee.
MIL is going to babysit over the weekend so DH and I can go out for our birthdays.
Topic for the week: Mommy Wars and judgement. This doesn't only affect us SAHMs, but I thought it was an important topic. How do you handle feeling judged? Are you guilty of judging? Do you try to stop yourself?
I felt terribly judged reading an article a friend posted. The article was about benefits of organic food, but it spent a full paragraph criticizing "commercial formula". 1. I formula feed because BFing didn't work out for us. After weeks of pumping my pedi recommended going too all formula. I have enough guilt of my own, I didn't need more. 2. "Commercial" formula? What was my other option? I know! -GOAT'S MILK!
Luckily most of the IRL moms of met are pretty judgment free. which is surprisingly awesome! Plus, there's always TB to make me feel better.
I'm big time guilty of judging people who give in to tantrums. I try not to, but I really struggle. My sister gave in to many of my niece's fits and spent years in fear of setting the kid off. She still occasionally has a full-on meltdown if things don't go how see wants. I know I shouldn't judge, maybe this parent is strong against a tantrum 90% of the time, and I am witnessing a bad day. I'm working on this.
GTKY: They're getting so big! What do you miss about having a teeny-tiny? What are you loving now?
I miss how soft his hair was. I used to love nuzzling into it.
I love the joy in his face now as he plays and discovers.
@Meghan14- BF didn't work out for us either. I hate hate HATE all the crap about formula. If it wasn't safe or causing children to have 3 arms, it wouldn't be on the shelves. We didn't choose formula by choice this time but next time, if it doesn't work or if I hate it as much, we're opting out earlier for formula. Between that and some hard core natural child birth nazis, I'm not sure which gets more more angry.
@Bookshelves- I'm glad your trip went well! We've got a 5 1/2 hour trip coming up next month and I'm getting nervous. Sounds like your is a baby whisperer!
What were your successes this week?
Had a really great week last week. We were fairly busy with outings and stuff in general. I was really happy with myself. My parents also stopped by Saturday which always makes me happy. They live locally but we don't get to see them much.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
DH had to work late and half of Saturday because his company was headed to a huge annual conference this week. He thankfully opted out of going this year but still had to help do presentations last minute. It was hard not only having him gone but knowing he had a lot of schoolwork that needed attention too.
What helped save your sanity?
Being able to stay positive and getting out. We're using more gas on trips now but it keeps me sane so I think it's worth it!
Topic for the week:
I don't know if I feel judged directly. But I do still worry what people think when they see me bottle feeding/formula feeding in public. Half of me just wants someone to say something so I can snap.
GTKY:
I definitely miss him being tiny. He was a cute little 7 pounder and now at 8 months weighs about 20 pounds and is a really long baby. He'll be transitioning into 12 month onesies by next month I'm sure! I don't miss a whole lot else though. The first few months were really tough. So his size and less formula intake is all I miss.
What were your successes this week?
Not losing my shit when LO became a stage 5 clinger every afternoon. I just took a deep breath, and wore her, or just stopped what I was doing and played.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
See above. Clingers are hard!
What helped save your sanity?
My parents. They have been amazing.
They bought all kinds of baby stuff to keep at their house so it would be easier for me to come over. When they watched LO last week, they cleaned my kitchen and made dinner. It was such a big help to me.
Topic for the week: Mommy Wars and judgement. This doesn't only affect us SAHMs, but I thought it was an important topic. How do you handle feeling judged? Are you guilty of judging? Do you try to stop yourself?
I get judged by ILs all the time because I'm not all about family 24/7 and I like my space. They think somehow LO won't have a sense of family because they "only" get to see her twice a week. I had a big talk with them about the fact that they need to put that into perspective. It's not like they see her twice a year. They see her twice a week!
I have a very IDGAF attitude when people judge me. If they judge me that's their problem. Pre - kid I used to judge all the time. When I find myself judging now, I tell myself that I don't know what it's like for them. They're doing the best they can and being a parent is hard.
GTKY: They're getting so big! What do you miss about having a teeny-tiny? What are you loving now?
I miss that I could hold her for long periods of time without getting tired.
I love that she can crawl to me now and that she's so strong. I don't worry about hurting her all the time anymore.
What were your successes this week? Taking LO on a train ride, getting out of the house for a movie with my bestie (what what?)
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? well, I have strep throat.
What helped save your sanity? Movie time with bestie, a very early bedtime last night, and H really stepping up this week.
Topic for the week: Mommy Wars and judgement. This doesn't only affect us SAHMs, but I thought it was an important topic. How do you handle feeling judged? Are you guilty of judging? Do you try to stop yourself? Actually, I do judge. I don't judge out loud, and I don't think it makes me a bad person. I judge in my head. I try to leave it for really big things -- safety issues, health issues, etc. But sometimes when I'm in "that" mood, I judge almost anything. I judge people for doing things I do. It depends on my mental state. The thing is, I don't really care what/if people judge me for. I'm doing the best kind of mothering I know how. My baby is safe, happy, and healthy. If people want to judge me for how he's dressed, how I'm dressed, if I'm on my phone while I'm waiting in the grocery check-out, whatever, judge away. I'm taking care of us both the best I can.
GTKY: They're getting so big! What do you miss about having a teeny-tiny? What are you loving now? Snuggles. Holding him while he sleeps. I really, really miss that. I'm loving now that he STTN (semi-regularly), that he comes to me when he needs/wants me, that he can show excitement when I come to get him.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.