I decided to do a different thread for this, as FB is kinda its own thing. I'm sure almost all of us have had trouble with FB during our infertility journeys--the punch in the gut of another announcement, debating what to do about the good friend who only posts about their baby, etc. I've had so many friends hidden on my newsfeed because their many pregnancy/baby/small children posts were too upsetting. I also have lots of FB friends that I've made along my IF journey, some of whom have had to give up the idea of ever having a child of their own, and surely some of my other friends are suffering without my knowledge.
So my OH and I have had an idea, but I'm trying to decide if it's obnoxious. We have set up a FB page for Bambino L___ (our last name). When we do announce (which may be sooner than I thought, as per my other thread), I'm thinking of writing something like this:
"[OH] and I are excited to announce that we are
expecting a child in April. This was not an easy journey for us, and I
know that many of my Facebook friends have experienced or are
experiencing the same thing. Partly because of that, we have decided to
keep our pages pretty much baby-free, and have set up a new FB page for
Bambino L____ (sex is TBD, don't read anything into the suffix).
If you would like to be in the loop for the baby news, and baby
pics post-birth, send Bambino a friend request."
I'm worried that this will be viewed poorly by other infertility/pregnancy loss graduates, who may feel as though there's an implicit judgment if they didn't do this. Alternatively, I'm worried that many people, who probably would have liked a little bit of news, will feel weird subscribing to the special baby page. There are probably other weirdnesses about this that I haven't thought of yet. What do you think?
PS. The phrase "this was not an easy journey for us" is about as close as I plan on coming right now to being open about IF. Maybe eventually I'll say more, but I feel like it communicates enough for now.
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Stage 1 endo removed June 2013.
IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks.

Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims.
IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN.
IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!

Hats off to Dr. Fancypants!! ET of one 5AB blast. BFN.
13 10 CCS'ed snowflakes!
FET #1 PUPO as of 7/29 Betas: 8/7@24, 8/9@97, 8/11@334 (etc.) Two sacs on 8/15, one seen on 8/18 after a bleed. U/s 8/25 (6+3) "perfect": 5.9 mm + HB@120bpm! U/s 9/4 (7+6): 15.9 mm + HB@172 bpm! Please, PLEASE stick this time!!!!
Re: For those on FB (yet MORE on sharing the news) is this a good or obnoxious idea?
Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
Honestly, yeah, I'd roll my eyes at creating a Facebook page for the baby - I'm not big on creating Facebook profiles for children (or pets, as my friends seem to like to do). And yes, there's some pressure because you KNOW who friends the page, so family and close friends will feel obligated. If you were my SIL, I'd probably "friend" the page and then "unfollow" so none of it showed up in my Newsfeed, only when I wanted to go look for it. I like the idea you're going for, but Facebook is loaded with politics, so I think it's harder to tip toe the line between sharing and oversharing.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs
IVF #1 never made it to transfer
On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin
Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013
Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!! 1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
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TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
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This is what I was trying to avoid, but I'd never seen anyone make a separate page, so I can understand the negative reactions. I'd never post as much as my friend, but I want to be able to post pics post-birth without worrying that I'm annoying everyone, too. Setting up a blog might be something OH would be willing to do, as a good compromise. :-/ Or maybe I'll just deactivate my damn account and be done with it. Grrr....
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Yeah, I get what you were trying to do but I agree with the above comments that it might not be the best idea. I like babies and should be fine with pics now, but hate when it takes up my entire newsfeed or someone posts pics 3-4 times a day of their child.
I am probably going to post one pic of the baby when he/she is born and that's pretty much it. I will probably do a shutterfly or similar account where people can access pictures so that way my parents, aunts/uncles, etc. don't complain. I personally just don't trust Facebook and I don't want my kids pictures plastered everywhere and want it more controlled and don't want them to have rights to my own pictures. However, I'm a pretty personal person and like my privacy and I don't want his/her classmates to easily find embarrassing baby pictures of them in 15 years on my page or the page I created for them, etc.
Me: 29, DH: 30
Married: April, 2011; TTC: July, 2012
Dx: MFI; June '14 IVF w/ ICSI: 11R, 8M, 5F... 1 5dt, beta #1: 213, beta #2: 621, beta #3: 8545!
If you feel the need to document the journey for family I think a blog is a good way to do that. When my best friend had her baby 2 years ago they set up a photo sharing album. They were always adding tons of picture of him especially in the beginning. Any family or friends that wanted to see them were included in the photo share. I will probably set something up like that for pictures.
If you like it and think it's a good idea. Do it then. List your reasons and ultimately people will just respect that.
My friend did it b/c she didn't want baby pictures to embarrass her kid when they were like 18 or something. Do people actually get embarrassed by their baby pictures? I don't get it.
Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
Dec 27- third miscarriage
May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
IVF cycle 1 (Nov 2013)- freeze all d/t OHSS
FET #1-BFN
FET #2-BFP baby girl born Dec 2014
FET #3-Sept 2017 BFP but miscarried at 6 weeks
IVF cycle 2 (Oct 2017)- freeze all again d/t OHSS
FET #1 BPF, pregnant with a singleton due Sept 2018
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High ANA, ATA, & APA, PAI-1 Heterozygous= blood clotting disorder; connective tissue disorder
IVF w/ ICSI #1 2/2011 IVF w/ ICSI #2 5/2011 IVF w/ ICSI #3 12/2012 *New RE* IVF w/ ICSI #4 5/2013
IVF w/ ICSI #5 8/2013 (Natural Cycle- No drugs)- One follicle->one blast. CCS normal. FET 9/10- 6BB blast. m/c @ 5w
IUI #1 12/23- BFN IUI #2 Cancelled (ovulated during AF) Prep:CoQ10 (300 mg); DHEA (25 mg); Melatonin (3 mg), Folgard 2.2, Metformin 500 2x, Levothyroxine 50mcg, Aspirin 81mg w/ calcium, B12, Vit. D 4000 & Prenate Elite Daily; Cabergoline 1/2 pill 2x week- Cycling: Estrace Priming; Prednisone 10mg, Lovenox 40mg 2x, Femera & Menopur
IUI #2.1 6/30 & 7/1. 1st Beta: 90 (7/15); 2nd Beta: 226 (7/17); 3rd Beta: 766 EDD: 3/23/2015
TTC #2