Sharing your family who've passed on with baby

SuperFudge00 · October 2014

I'm looking for ideas on how to make sure my little guy gets to know his grandma in heaven. Any of you have plans or any experienced moms have their methods to share?

leosmama1208 · October 2014

My first born is named after his grandfather that he will never know, we show him pictures of him all the time and tell him in simple terms that he's passed on in heaven and that's where people go when they pass. As he gets older (he's four) we will tell him a little more and share stories of his grandfather. We often show him his picture and say "this is who you're named after." Then we tell him stories of what he liked to do, lessons he taught my husband growing up, things like that. We'll probably do the same with the new baby. (Due April 14th)
Explaining death is a tough one at a young age, so we leave it very simple and not scary or sad, as he gets older we will explain more and answer questions as he brings them up. Just keep it simple and light while they are young!

hope it helps a little!

kariemomo · October 2014

My aunt passed away and my cousin had two young girls. The oldest one remembers her and I'm not sure exactly how they told her, but she would would have her pray to grandma at night, more like thanking her for watchin over them. When the littlest turned one they decided she no longer needed a pacifier and tied it to some balloons and sent it to heaven for grandma to hang on to. She never asked for it again. My mom does a lot with the girls(it was her sister that died) and she always says things like let's color a picture for grandma and I'll send it to her. My cousin just had her third daughter and her middle name is Jul which was my aunts nickname that my mom and some family members would call her.

Duffgurl · October 2014

My father just passed away in May. Our DS knows his grandpa from photos and we always tell him he is his guardian angel. When we visit him at his gravesite our DS comes and we leave flowers and recently a pumpkin for Halloween. When DS gets older we will explain how he passed. Right now we just make sure he knows who he is and how much he loved him and always will.

missamERICA · October 2014

We show pictures of our grandparents that have passed. We live in my Great-Grandparent's house so we try to keep him pretty connected to them and their memory. They meant a lot to me. My Great Grandfather passed in 1990, but my Great Grandmother passed in 2011, and actually got to hold Wes a few times before her health really took a beating. We keep her prayer card on our fridge.

missamERICA · October 2014

so sorry for your loss @duffgurl

Prpljade · October 2014

This is a fantastic post.

My father died in April 2011, it's probably going to be a very emotional month for me as a FTM, and honestly I have been avoiding thinking about it much. I'm heartbroken my baby will never know their grandpa, or that my father never got to meet his first grand baby. Odd as it may be it's been that way on his side of the family for several generations. His dad died about 7 years before I was born, and on back it goes.
We didn't have a lot of photos of my grandpa, but my dad and grandma talked about him a lot and I have managed to dig up a few photos over the years and frame them. Now, I have pictures of my dad throughout our home, DH an him were close and I am thankful he'll get to share stories and memories of my dad with our LO as well.

ur_mom222 · October 2014

Aww this made me cry. I want to hug all of you for this post.

lneice0160 · October 2014

We introduced DD to my dad that passed away a few years ago, we explained he's mommy's daddy and he had to go to heaven. She calls him granddaddy john in heaven with Jesus helping fix boo boos. We arent super religious even though DHs dad is a preacher...go figure...but we've explained that when people have boo boos and can't be fixed they have to go to heaven. Though sometimes she'll say to someone that they need to go to Jesus to fix their boo boo...most people just think she's cute.
We try to as honest as possible with her and this has seemed to work well with her, we plan to go into more detail when she can understand death more.
My grandmother told my uncle when he was little that his uncle just went to sleep and didn't wake up, he was terrified for years of sleeping and that if he went to sleep he wouldn't wake up.

DixieNormous330 · October 2014

my father passed away when DD was 10 months old. I have gathered and scanned pictures of him at all stages in his life and put together an album. I also got my uncles, grandparents, mother, sister, all our family and close friends to give me stories about him.

DD already has several of his traits and I tell her about him every time she does something like him.

lneice0160 · October 2014

It was very hard for me when I found out I was pregnant with DD, my mom and DH are what got me through, I felt like a sense of comfort after just talking to DD when she was a newborn about what kind of person he was.

Duffgurl · October 2014

Thanks @missamERICA‌

SuperFudge00 · October 2014

DixieNormous330 said:
my father passed away when DD was 10 months old. I have gathered and scanned pictures of him at all stages in his life and put together an album. I also got my uncles, grandparents, mother, sister, all our family and close friends to give me stories about him.

DD already has several of his traits and I tell her about him every time she does something like him.

OMG, I love this idea. I think I'm going to steal the having friends and family write about my mom and scrapbook it with pics for baby.

I have to admit that I cry often about not having my mom through this pregnancy and that my son and hopefully next child won't know her personally or feel the love she gave me.

Thank you all for sharing!!! I lost my mom in 2009 and it still is fresh sometimes. I can only imagine how you all are feeling. Your help means the world to me!!!!

saltymcsnarkerson · October 2014

Big hugs to you all. We lost my grandmother about a year ago, my DD who's 2.5 recognizes her picture still, but doesn't ask where she is yet. I love how you've all handled that question.

dawnhags · October 2014

I lost my little cousin (23) in Feb, my father in May and my uncle a week after my dad. We have names picked out to honor them and I have photos throughout the house. My father was very close to my 3 children, especially my 4yo. She has a book of photos of the 2 of them as well as a dollhouse she plays with daily that he built by hand for her. She told me she intends to share all those memories with the baby as well as those of my cousin and uncle. We will make sure the baby knows just how much he/she would've been loved by those watching over us. We will continue to send balloons off to heaven with "messages" on their bdays as well

Another idea would be a locket for when the LOs get older.

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