STMs...Different feelings this time?

SassyPants150 · October 2014

How are all the STM mom's feeling this time around? With DD, I think I was just amazed/didn't quite understand how to feel since I hadn't become a mother yet. I even remember holding DD for the first time thinking...okay, now what do I do?! Don't get me wrong, I was always so thrilled for ultrasounds, finding out the sex, and all the regular pregnancy things, but this time around I just feel this overwhelming sense of love and what it's going to feel like when I get to hold the babies. My cup just feels so full thinking about adding to our family. Or maybe it's just that I'm having twins this time. Have you changed more since already having a child? Or those who already have 2+, did you feel that way with going from 1-2 (or more).

monkeypunkypie · October 2014

This pregnancy is completely different than my other two, which were completely different from each other. I am worried that it won't end well because I have been spotting for weeks, and we didn't get a good picture at my u/s last week (7w4d by LMP). I don't have another appointment until the 13th of November, so I will be on pins and needles until then. I am quite a bit older this time around, and this pregnancy was a total shock. I don't know if that is the reason why I haven't been able to get completely excited yet. I'm just constantly waiting for the worst to happen.

When I was pg w/ DS #2 I felt great and was so happy. We had tried for over 2 years to get pregnant so having it finally happen was amazing. I'm just hoping that, if/when the next appointment goes well, I can get excited. My husband and other kids are very excited so I'm looking forward to sharing those feelings with them.

CTri17 · October 2014

I think right now I'm just taking it as it goes and praying that we don't m/c again. the kids will now outnumber us and my youngest will be 3 when this one comes (my dd1 was 2y3mo when dd2 came) so I'm sure some things will be different

jbj 7497 · October 2014

I feel completely zapped with this pregnancy. My first pregnancy I may have napped a few times a week. But this one I can barely keep my eyes open. We were trying for 2 years and I was on clomid, so I was so excited to find out we were pg, but I'm not sure if it's the lack of energy or what I haven't been able to get behind all of the things I did when i was pregnant with O. I bought a bump book (because I did one with DS, and as a second child i want to try as hard as I can to do the same for both) but i haven't cracked that thing open yet...I also feel more connected to DS, almost like I'm feeling guilty that he won't have my undivided attention for much longer. I think I'll feel better after I exit the first trimester and start feeling more like myself.

rivieramaya · October 2014

I kind of feel the opposite of @sassypants150. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to be having another child but I don't really feel attached at all. I am so busy with DS that I will forget throughout the day that I am even pregnant. I also know DS and love him so much that it's hard to imagine loving a child that I haven't met that much. I am confident that I will love this baby so deeply once they are here but for right now, DS still gets to hold most of my heart.

tinyjoys · October 2014

I can't get over how quickly and STRONG the symptoms came on this time around. I got a BFP at 9pm on 9/10 at 3w5d. On 9/12, at exactly 4 weeks, I woke up feeling like I was 10 weeks pregnant with my son. My boobs had grown and were no longer fitting in the new bras I had bought the week before, I had to race to the bathroom to throw up first thing and then spent the rest of the day alternating between napping on the couch and throwing up in the bathroom. The only thing that's changed over the last 5 weeks is that I can now get by with just one nap a day. Still vomiting a ton and my boobs are still massive.

I'm nervous for my son. He's super excited and knows about the baby. He's been asking for one since the beginning of the year. Right now, he spends about an hour throughout the day "reading" to the baby and he asked if he could buy a 'prise {short for surprise} for the baby. But he turned 3 at the beginning of July and it's always been just me and him during the day. He's always gotten my complete and undivided attention and I'm not sure how it's going to go over when he can't have that fully. I've babysat and he's done okay, but mostly because he knows that baby goes home in a few hours. This one will be here to stay. Luckily, my mom and grandparents live 5 minutes away and will be in and out to help once my husband goes back to work. So they can either entertain him and give him the attention or "deal" with the baby so I can give him some attention. He's also always been pretty good about being on his own and solo play, but still likes having mommy.

jennz201 · October 2014

rivieramaya said:

I kind of feel the opposite of @sassypants150. Don't get me wrong, I am happy to be having another child but I don't really feel attached at all. I am so busy with DS that I will forget throughout the day that I am even pregnant. I also know DS and love him so much that it's hard to imagine loving a child that I haven't met that much. I am confident that I will love this baby so deeply once they are here but for right now, DS still gets to hold most of my heart.

This is me too. I am so in love with my daughter that I cannot fathom that I am capable of having that much love for another. I know I will, but I am still skeptical at this point.

mpower0606 · October 2014

This pregnancy feels exactly the same as my first-every symptom, every feeling.......however, I miscarried in January and that whole 12week pregnancy was SO different. We tried for a few months to get pregnant and then as soon as we did, I was completely depressed....I felt like the life was being sucked out of me. I just kept saying to my mom "this whole pregnancy just doesn't feel right". The baby stopped growing at 8 weeks but I didn't actually miscarry until 12 weeks...........thankfully I have such a different feeling this time around-I am SO ecstatic....but also so nervous!

KellyFM522 · October 2014

Mine have been remarkably similar. Which maybe means another boy? I was never sick once. I pretty much slept through my first Tri with DS and that is not as easy this time around. But I'm still tired, and have similar food aversions. I am craving sour candy which the only time I have ever wanted it before was when I was pregnant with DS, which oddly enough is DH's favorite candy. I am def more active this time around and walk 2-3 miles (while pushing a stroller) a day and am in better shape now than when I was with DS.

I'm still really excited, I am a bit nervous about the logistics of hauling two around the city. But all my friends here manage quite well. The suburbs are NOT calling for us yet!

queenhoneybee · October 2014

The pregnancy feels pretty similar. But, I am excited to give DS a sibling who he'll share stories and experiences with.

Asent08 · October 2014

I'm pretty opposite too. I do absolutely love this baby, but I don't feel the extreme connection that I did with DS. Idk if it's because I haven't had an US (I had two by this point with DS), or because DS keeps me so occupied. Poole tell me that your heart instantly expands when LO is born, so I'm taking their word for it! I feel bad for feeling this!

Tmakes3 · October 2014

I'm just so tired. I go back and forth between estatic and anxious. How the hell am I supposed to raise 3 kids? How am I going to manage everything? But I always felt like 3 kids would complete our family, so I'm excited about that. I don't know.. Jury is still out

I can hardly keep my eyes open long enough to even think about it right now!

gypsyheart85 · October 2014

Just like with my first pregnancy I am just very anxious to make it through first tri. I have had so many friends and family deal with loss that it terrifies me. I also am much sicker this time around. I was super excited but nervous with my daughter - this time I am just so excited and can't wait for little one to be here. I can not wait to see my daughter become a big sister and watch their relationship bloom. My husband is also much less nervous and just seems to be excited as well.

tashad18 · October 2014

This is my 4th pregnancy (hopefully 3rd take take home baby) and I've honestly felt giddy amd excited every single time just like it was the first time.

Jillibean68 · October 2014

This pregnancy is way different (read:more difficult) than my first one.
I was really excited for the first couple of days after finding out, but the reality has started to set in. I have no clue how I'm going to balance 2 small kids (almost 2 under 2- DS will barely be 2 when newbie gets here). I'm a SAHM who is trying to go back to school (one class at a time yo), and right now two kids seems so overwhelming.
Something about pregnancy calms my nerves and my usual anxiety disappears, so I'm not overly concerned with symptoms or how I feel etc. I guess the novelty has worn off already, but maybe it will come back when I start showing or feeling kicks (or maybe when the damn morning sickness hits the road for good).

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