I'm getting a major run around from my HR department about my leave options in the spring. One HR person just told me that the "six weeks paid maternity leave" that I've been promised since I started here is really just spending down my sick time. So if I didn't have six weeks sick leave accrued, I wouldn't get that much maternity leave. To me, this isn't maternity leave, this is just allowing me to be sick because I just had a baby, but maybe I'm not understanding how this works in the US.
For those that have any maternity leave (and I do realize that many here don't) is it separate from your sick leave?
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Re: Is your maternity leave = sick leave?
I think (I still haven't talked to work or HR) that I have to use my sick time and any additional time that I want I am permitted to take but it will be unpaid. I'm a teacher.
I really hope this is a misunderstanding and you get your paid leave! It would be very upsetting if that was something that made you accept a job offer only to see it wasn't true. Good luck with everything.
***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'( Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!
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***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'( Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!
***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'( Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!
I was told I could also apply for catastrophic leave if I don't have sick time and those who have a lot and don't use them can donate them to me if I am approved.
Edit to add: I also work for a uni and have time off in the summer, so my plan is to work up until I possibly can (April 6th is EDD), take 6 weeks which will take me to mid May, use two weeks of vacation time and then have June and July off, returning in August, unless I take the 12 weeks FMLA. But this will only work if this baby stays put until 04/6
That being said, he isn't taking any maternity (or paternity... Since he is the man) leave. But he will get a week of medical leave, to assist me. This medical leave is different than sick leave and pat/mat leave. If he wants additional time, he will use his vacation time. Not sick time.
***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'( Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!
@Grailseeker14 - I had friends give birth in similar situations to you, living where you do now, and you are eligible for a lot of social services. Be sure to access all that you can!
***Losses mentioned.*** TTC #1 since May 2012. Me: 37, OH: 41. Ectopic August 2012 => tubal damage. :'( Stage 1 endo removed June 2013. IVF #1 Oct/Nov 2013: Long Lupron with Gonal-F. 7R, 7M, 7F. 2 txfer@3d. Nothing frozen. => M/C @ 8 wks. :'( Selected RPL panel all normal. Very hyper and brittle response to stims. IVF #2 (antagonist protocol) Feb 2014 => Converted to IUI (Perfect conditions). BFN. IVF #2.1 w/ new RE June 2014: Antagonist protocol. 33R, 31M, 30F, 19 blasts to test!!! I made it through without crashing!!
I'm the main bread winner and as a FTM the 12 weeks will be tight money wise. At least I'll get 60% of my current salary.
My company isn't bad compared to most. They even reimburse 33% of adoption costs.
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CFRA (California Family Rights Act) is different from both FMLA and Paid Maternity Leave (PML). Both PML & CFRA are paid through state disability at a max of 55% with a salary cap. CFRA starts after the baby is born and has its own job protection. PML is pre-delivery and protected under FMLA. PML max is 12 weeks and CFRA is a separate max 12 weeks. Both are based on need (physician/provider certified) but CFRA includes 6 weeks baby bonding that can be used later so long as it is completed within a 12 month period and does not exceed 12 weeks total including the initial maternity leave (not PML). So that if you provider can justify your need + baby bonding, you can have a total of 24 weeks. State disability kicks in after one week so you have to be out at least two weeks in order to receive benefits for the second week.
The way my job works is that I will use PTO for my first week and then disability kicks in at 55%. My PTO continues to be used to account for the other 45% so that I receive a full salary and they have something to deduct my benefit premiums from. My employer offers no paid leave and if I didn't have a PTO bank I would have to rely on the state only.
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Cali here, too
I'll be using all CFRA, FMLA,
& PML to Max out my allowed maternity leave. But of course, will have to figure out how & when to use my sick vs PTO hours. Luckily, I've been at my current job for 7 years this month, & have barely touched my sick hours.
Also, Almost 3 years ago, I've purchased STD through Aflac, so I'll have that supplementing my 55%, I believe 1 week after delivery for 5-7 weeks
Planning Pregnancy leave is a headache
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Make sure you get it early enough, takes 2-3 months to kick in, & you can't use for pregnancy within 9 months once it's active
I also gawked at the monthly premium so went less. Tried to increase it te following year, but rates have changed so not worth it
Try to max it from the beginning, which depends on your income
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Also, I calculated that as long as I have 1 natural delivery every 5 years,
I even out. So any more (or c-sect), i actually "make money" by being covered