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January 2015 Moms
ErinEaton1
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Who unleashed all the crazies?
I'd be kinda upset about the name though, being so close to the name you have chosen.
Just another reason why I am keeping our name a secret from family. I don't want/need input. ... But my BIL girlfriend is pregnant with a boy too, due a month before me. She was going to take my girl name if she were to have a girl.
I'm not taking chances having our boy name known to everyone.
Fast forward to now, 5 years later. I have a feeling I will be hearing my sister is pregnant again very soon. I am due in January. I am putting her at April or May. She won't announce till she is in the 2nd trimester and is a very private person. I would never ask her but I can kinda tell. This time around I am definitely of the same mind that this was how planning their family works for them. So I guess you should just focus on the excitement you are feeling and think of how awesome it will be to have a niece so close in age to your daughter. My DD and her cousin are very very close. Pregnancy lasts such a short time, it is the years to come in the cousins lives that really matters. I understand your feelings but I hope I was able to give you a little insight after working through something similar myself.
Also- I agree with PP. I think you should just try and focus on yourself and your new LO, try not to worry about what your SIL is doing. Whenever I get negative feelings such as jealousy, I try my best to just focus on the positives. For you, your daughter will have a cousin the same age as her which is awesome! And you have a fellow pregnant mama to your share concerns and feelings with. If that's too difficult- I understand if it is- then just try not to think about it at all and go back to focusing on your little family.
Anyways...Good luck! Hope you feel better soon.
ETA: wtf?!the original post was deleted while I was typing! Also OP you were quoted so deleting it isn't going to do anything...
I wouldn't worry about the name. They sound similar (I mean, pretty similar) but your baby girl will be born first and you can't force her to change the name she picked.
You still get to share the excitement and novelty with your husbands family, but now there is another level of excitement with one of those family members! It sounds like your hormones are controlling you. You've got this!
But in all seriousness, DS has a cousin who is 9 weeks younger, and I think it's great! I enjoyed being able to call my SIL and talk about baby stuff, and DS has a friend in the family who is close to his age. I just wish we lived closer to them so he could see his cousin more often. Even if your SIL tries to make it a competition, try to just be sweet and enjoy your pregnancy and baby (and name her whatever you want - who cares if the names are similar). You'll be happier if you don't try to play into the petty comparison game.
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I'd kill for a beer right now. Just a random note.
That dot is hard to press on mobile. I think my fingers are chubby.
I'd kill for a beer right now. Just a random note.
That dot is hard to press on mobile. I think my fingers are chubby.
Same here. I always ~sigh~ when I see the "." Because I spend like a minute trying to click it just to read new comments.
I hate the ".".
About the actual question though, I would love to have a sister or SIL due around the same time that I am. Having cousins who are close in age can be really awesome.
The similar name thing is a little annoying though. If it really bugs you change yours. To be honest I'm not a huge fan of either of the names you guys picked anyway. They remind me of Mark Wahlberg's monologue from Ted about "stereotypical white trash names". I can't think of a less rude way to say that, but ever since I saw that movie that's the first thing I think of when I hear any name that ends in -lynn (other than like Catelyn or something more conventional like that).
Not wasting energy replying to OP cuz I doubt she'll be back.
Family planning is an incredibly personal thing. What you do does not affect what anyone else does (unless they're planning based on you, which is just weird, but again, their business). And what other people do does not affect your family.
As someone who worked VERY hard to get pregnant, with a SIL who also worked VERY hard to get pregnant, at the end, neither of us could have cared less if we had been pregnant at the same time.
Early on, when DH and I had just started trying, DH let the cat out of the bag with his family over dinner, and his sister clearly let her emotions slip out when she replied, "Oh geez, you'll probably be pregnant right away. Just don't tell me until after my IVF in January, okay?"
Well, she went on to do IVF about four months later, and it wasn't for a whole other 17 months after that when we were finally able to conceive through fertility treatments of our own. So... all that to say... someone else's fertility and reproductive choices have NOTHING to do with you and yours have NOTHING to do with them. And it seems incredibly petty to me to make pregnancy into a competitive sport.
If you don't want someone choosing a similar name on purpose, don't tell them your name. If you don't tell them your name and they happen to pick a similar name by chance, then you have the choice to still use your name or pick something else. But neither is about you.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
Not sure why OP deleted, seems like she got the advice she requested?
Lawrd
I'm the last friend this round to get pregnant, so I guess they should all be pissed at me for copying them and wanting to be pregnant too.
What was this titled originally?
The punctuation was pretty terrible in the OP, though.