SAHM

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

I am going crazy lately! It is rainy and chilly outside lately and I am going crazy at home! What do you do to keep from going nuts? I dont want to be driving alot since we are saving money.

RachelCA29 · October 2014

I joined a stroller walking group in my area. We meet a few times a week for group walks around our city. Our plan is to mall walk when the weather gets colder.

It's really great to have set days and times to meet people, it motivates you to get out of the house. It's also nice to talk with other moms about baby and non-baby things.

Our group started out of a city-wide Facebook mom swap group. Someone posted that they were looking for walking g buddies and now we have two different groups that meet at opposite ends of the city

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

That sounds like fun @RachelCA29‌! I have a friend who has a baby 2 months older than DD but she works part time and lives 45 minutes away so we dont see each other a lot. I have a sahm friend that has two boys... 1 and 2. Its nice to be around them but there is usually not alot of chatting because she is chasing after her boys.

spinsoffresonance · October 2014

I remember going crazy when i stopped working when DD1 was 9months old. Being home all day with an infant can get very isolating. I agree with @RachelCA29‌ having set things to do to force you to get out of the house and see people is key.

DD1 is 2yo now so we have a week full of activities. Monday is playgroup, Tuesday art class, Wednesday storytime at the library, wednesday music class, Thursday soccer. I also have a children museum membership so we go on Friday. In the afternoon we go to the playground, roughly at the same time everyday. After a while you see the same people there over and over so you meet new friends with kids the same age as yours.

Try to find out what resources/ groups/ classes are available in your neighborhood for infants and start going. Once you have a routine, things are better.

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

Thank you @lica001‌. It is even harder because DH is making some extra money by doing a project for his old job so he comes home from work, eats dinner and then starts working for the old job.

kendy20 · October 2014

@bridetobe9132013‌ I also have a good friend he has a daughter 2 months older than my DD, and she also lives about 40-45 min away. So I know how you feel with that one.

hbird0723 · October 2014

I will be following! I am going through the same thing and I just moved here a few years ago. All my other SAHM friends have moved out of state so it's just us and on days she won't nap I feel like all I do is sit in a dark room and rock. It will be nice when she is on more of a predictable schedule! I have looked into some things offered in town as well like little swimmers and moms groups. They also have a little gym here when she gets a little older.

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

@kendy20‌ I went over last tuesday to visit them and it was soooo nice to get out, especially to be around a ftm (like myself) who is pretty much going through or just gone through this age. Ive been feeling depressed so I think I need to find ways to get out more.

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

@Hbird05‌ I briefly looked into some preschool classes we can join when she is 1. I would bring her and stay with her. I agree with the predictable schedule!

flockofmoosen3 · October 2014

Does your area have a meet up group? Check out meetup.com to see. I did and found a really great and large group of moms with kids ranging from not born yet to 4 years old and they are all in my town. Most of the activities so far are geared towards the preschoolers but we made a smaller group for just the "non-movers". I love it! They also schedule moms nights out so baby girl can get some quality daddy time.

MerryLove · October 2014

@bridetobe9132013‌ My husband keeps the same kind of hours...works all day out of the house, comes home, eats dinner and then goes into his office to work. I pretty much do everything for the baby and house by myself and sometimes I really just want to spend more time with my husband in the evenings for adult interaction, but he just has too much work to do. It helps me to get out just about every day, even if it's just to the grocery store. If I have errands to run and that is the only out of the house activity, I schedule it for midday to help break the day up. I usually have some sort of social activity several times a week, though. Sometimes we'll meet up with other SAHMs, sometimes I'll take LO to lunch with a working friend, we walk in the mall a lot, do mommy and me yoga, a mommy and me group, and a sensory stimulation class. There are so many things you can do to get out and meet other moms and keep yourself busy...I know you said you don't want to drive too much, but I do think one of the most important things to keep yourself from going insane is getting out of the house. I don't know where you're located, but here are some resources that might help get the ball rolling.

- https://fit4mom.com This is a workout group for moms and they have groups all over the country. Enter your location to see what's closest to you. Get in shape, take baby with you and make new friends at the same time!

- https://national.macaronikid.com Enter your state and city here to see kid friendly events near you. Many are free or low cost and it's a great way to get out of the house and meet people. Even if LO is too young to enjoy many things, at least it's stimulating and soon she'll be old enough to appreciate them; maybe you'll have a nice social network to enjoy activities with! It gets you out of the house and that's what's important.

Also check to see if there is a My Gym or something like that near you; thats a great place to meet people.

Finally, as pp mentioned, Meetup.com is an excellent and free resource. Use it!

Good luck, mama.

bridetobe9132013 · October 2014

Thank you! I tried visiting meetup.com from my phone but I think I need to use the desk top for it.

momthatlifts · October 2014

I did go to gymboree play and music 3 times a week but I had to take a break this month due to finances. I open the blinds and let light in. I also took up crocheting and it is seriously so calming

yogasailmomma · October 2014

I second the fit4mom groups, if there is one near you they are great!

I met a ton of moms through my hospitals new moms group. Check where you delivered and see if they have anything!

I am the one with 95% of the baby duty as well. Husband works all the time, baby refuses a bottle, we have no family nearby. What has really helped for me was finding other new moms and commiting to being out of the house every single day around the same time no matter what. If it's too hot we walk to the mall, too cold i bundle her up for a stroller walk. Just having a routine makes a huge difference. Now that I have found stroller strides and their playgroups usually half my days are full and we are out of the house. I also started my own walking group and we meet every Friday.

Good luck! Hope you are able to drum up some pals

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