Pregnancy after miscarriage

christinae10 · October 2014

I just had a miscarriage on 8/6/2014 and I'm pregnant now. I'm terrified can't stop thinking of what if it happens again. Anyone been through this? How did you get through it.

MrsJurnlok · October 2014

I had a miscarriage in 2007 (accidental pregnancy with a different partner, my ex-boyfriend). Its devastating, make sure you give yourself time to heal and grieve. Congratulations on your pregnancy also.

I did a lot of grieving and I joined a lot of support groups on Facebook and online. I didn't try to get pregnant again after that because our relationship wasn't great, and eventually we broke up. I got married last year to my husband, and we've been trying for a year to get pregnant.
Best wishes to you, and sticky vibes for the new little bean you're carrying!

christinae10 · October 2014

Thank you good luck to you !!

Redlipz · October 2014

We had a miscarriage in April and honestly, I'm not over it. My due date would have been nov 6 and I just keep saying oh I would've been this many weeks. But I do talk to him every night and that brings me comfort. I also had a dream about him about a month ago and that really felt good. It's hard to be fuly happy with this pregnancy because it's always in the back of my mind that it could happen again. We will be ok, we will both have a very happy 9 months and beyond(:

KatieRoseRN83 · October 2014

I had a miscarriage 2 years ago. We didn't try to get pregnant again after that because the pregnancy was an accident at the time. We've been trying for the last 8 months and I finally got my BFP over the weekend! I'm so nervous because I don't feel pregnant. I have sore boobs and that's it. I have to wait another month before I get an ultrasound. Which will feel like the longest month of my life! Good luck to everyone!

Jennychua · October 2014

Hi, I also had an early miscarriage last 9/8/2014 and now I noted that my period is 3 days late. I tried to take an HPT and it was positive. I want to wait for another week and do another HPT before I will go and see my doctor. At the moment my symptoms are feeling bloated after meal, breast tenderness and on and off mild cramping especially at night.

Mandee81 · October 2014

Hi ...I also miscarried 8/1/2014 ....and I'm now pregnant again roughly 5wks.... I'm also very nervous this pregnacy due to what's happened just recently l..so I know exactly how you are feeling right now....my only symptom I don't have is sore breasts...i extremely tired all the time.....very nauseous and I have some craving...

Takin' the plunge · October 2014

I had a miss last September. It took us a year of trying to get pregnant again. I don't think you truly ever get over it. But, I'm thinking positive and I'm sure when I get to hold this peanut it will ease the ache.
Good luck

arnoldb2189 · October 2014

I'm going through the same. I miscarried this past labor day and im already 6 weeks which means i got pregnant not even a full week after my miscarriage. It is a scary feeling indeed to be pregnant again so soon. But the good news is I have sore breasts, nausea, etc like i've never had before which is always a good sign. My boyfriend and I just continue to have faith and stay positive that we will have our little one in a few more months. Good luck to you!

Hopeful912 · October 2014

Like @Redlipz, I had a miscarriage in May and I am still coping. I constantly tick down the weeks I'd be and I know the original December due date will be hard for me. Hugs momma. It isn't easy.

aimhop · October 2014

I miscarried 8/9/14. My husband and I were absolutely devastated. It's the toughest thing we've been through in our 11 years together. We talked a lot about it and leaned on each other, and it wasn't long before we decided we had to stay as positive as possible and release ourselves of all blame. There was nothing either of us could have done to change the outcome. We also decided we would keep trying as soon as it was recommended to do so, and now I am 5wks 4days pregnant. We're both very nervous, but trying to focus on positive things. I think that's the important thing - do your best not to focus on things you can't change or things you have no control over. Enjoy the journey as much as possible and do your best to stay happy, healthy and positive. We're all on this roller coaster ride together

lilyellow · October 2014

I had a miscarriage on August 17th and had just gotten past 5 weeks. I'm at 4 weeks today. I made a decision to be excited about it and happy about it as long as it wants to stay with me. Of course I still worry and am still a little nervous, but I try not to let the stress take over. We've got this! Positive vibes all the way to 9 months!!!

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paintdadanta · October 2014

I had a MMC on June 12 of this year (my siggy has all the details). It's hard after a loss to try and be invested again without worrying it'll happen all over. Check out Pregnant after loss board I've found alot of comfort there and the mantras pinned at the top are helpful.

Alygohome · October 2014

F15 lurker. I miscarried on May 3rd and got pregnant 2 weeks after. I will tell you it was way harder to not be worried this time around, and I feel like I have been pregnant forever. Try and keep yourself busy, I would constantly tell myself that the odds are in my favor that I WILL carry to term.

Mrslnl · October 2014

I had a miscarriage 8/18/14 and my husband and I were crushed! I'm currently about 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and terrified. My old doctor was horrible and I just switched to a new doctor after I found out I was pregnant again. My old doctor told me I would lose this baby too and I can't stop worrying. My current doctor started me on progesterone supplements and I hope that's helping. I have a ultrasound today and I couldn't sleep last night because I'm worried we won't see anything. Positive vibes and happy thoughts to everyone! Good luck to all:)

weluvbabymae · October 2014

@christinae10‌ -
You asked, "has anyone been through this?" As you have probably seen, many many women have been through this and been right where you are now.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can tell you from experience that you never really get over it. You asked, "how did you get through it?"... I think "time" is the best answer.

I think there are two parts of dealing with a loss. The first would be actually recognizing and grieving the loss. Otherwise it continues to haunt you and the sadness sneaks up on you every time you remember your due date or see someone else who is as far along in their pregnancy as you would have been. Take time to acknowledge that baby and the life you were given. I honestly don't know the perfect way to do this. It is different for everyone. Some people have little "remembrance ceremonies", some people make sure to name the baby and continue to acknowledge them in their family, some people plant a tree or a rosebush in their memory... I have not done any of these things but I think it is important to acknowledge and grieve the life and when I figure out the right way to do this for my four losses I will...

The second important part of this is recognizing that this is a completely new baby. It is not a continuation of what has already happened. The slate has been wiped clean and it is a new day! One thing that I have thought for myself is, "I have been given this life and I am going to love it as much as I can every day for as long as I have it... Whether it is 5 weeks or 100 years." I'm not letting this baby go unloved one single day I have it.

My first pregnancy was an unexpected miscarriage... Not that they are ever really expected. And it was Heart wrenching. I got pregnant with my daughter three months later and was terrified the while first trimester. But I can say in retrospect that the birth of my daughter somehow helped with the pain from the first miscarriage.

Just love your baby every day. Don't drive yourself crazy with all the tests (like the hCG tests). And remember that no matter how much you worry, or test or stress, it will not change the outcome. So why not just try to be happy with every day that you have?

I know what I ask is very difficult to actually do...

MamaElua · October 2014

weluvbabymae said:
@christinae10‌ -
You asked, "has anyone been through this?" As you have probably seen, many many women have been through this and been right where you are now.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can tell you from experience that you never really get over it. You asked, "how did you get through it?"... I think "time" is the best answer.

I think there are two parts of dealing with a loss. The first would be actually recognizing and grieving the loss. Otherwise it continues to haunt you and the sadness sneaks up on you every time you remember your due date or see someone else who is as far along in their pregnancy as you would have been. Take time to acknowledge that baby and the life you were given. I honestly don't know the perfect way to do this. It is different for everyone. Some people have little "remembrance ceremonies", some people make sure to name the baby and continue to acknowledge them in their family, some people plant a tree or a rosebush in their memory... I have not done any of these things but I think it is important to acknowledge and grieve the life and when I figure out the right way to do this for my four losses I will...

The second important part of this is recognizing that this is a completely new baby. It is not a continuation of what has already happened. The slate has been wiped clean and it is a new day! One thing that I have thought for myself is, "I have been given this life and I am going to love it as much as I can every day for as long as I have it... Whether it is 5 weeks or 100 years." I'm not letting this baby go unloved one single day I have it.

My first pregnancy was an unexpected miscarriage... Not that they are ever really expected. And it was Heart wrenching. I got pregnant with my daughter three months later and was terrified the while first trimester. But I can say in retrospect that the birth of my daughter somehow helped with the pain from the first miscarriage.

Just love your baby every day. Don't drive yourself crazy with all the tests (like the hCG tests). And remember that no matter how much you worry, or test or stress, it will not change the outcome. So why not just try to be happy with every day that you have?

I know what I ask is very difficult to actually do...

This was so helpful. Thank you for sharing. It is terrifying but like you said we need to love our new babies and not think of them as a continuation of what happened. One day at a time. Positive thoughts.

christinae10 · October 2014

Thank you ladies for all the replies it's been really helpful and I'm just going to think positive and hope for the best. I wish all of you the best of luck!!

kgille921 · October 2014

I feel you. I'm so scared that it's hard to be happy. My husband is being sooo supportive. It's cute.

gkirgan716 · October 2014

I had my 1st miscarriage in April 2012. I conceived my son (now 19 mths old) only a few months after that. More recently I had another miscarriage back on January 15th of this year. Even though I had a perfectly healthy little boy at the time, it still hit me hard...especially it being a second time going through such a loss.

To add insult to injury, I'm Rh Negative blood type which means I have to go through a day long process of getting a Rhogam injection after each miss which is torture and anyone who has gone through it would know how exhausting and draining it can be.

With that said, I'm now 4 weeks pregnant and I am going through the exact same anxiety you are going through. Every time I go to the bathroom and I fear I will see blood. And every time I don't, I breathe a sigh of relief. But that relief is short-lived until the next time I go to the bathroom and I go through it all over again.

I am just trying to stay positive. I know it may sound silly but this one feels right. Before I'd kind of know something was wrong. So I'm hoping my feelings are right and it's all good. I just can't bring myself to celebrate just yet but one day at a time. Good luck to you and to all!

LuLuBelle89 · October 2014

I'm so hesitant to buy a book about pregnancy, start taking belly photos, start a secret Pinterest board for the baby, etc because I keep thinking what if I do all of that and then miscarry again. But then I just decided, screw it, I'm pregnant today and it's ok to be excited and hopeful that I will have a healthy baby in 9 months. So I ordered the book I wanted and started looking at baby gear.

I'm also going to listen to @weluvbabymae‌ because she sounds wise

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jlinke926 · October 2014

I am right there with you!! I too had a miscarriage the first week in August of this year as well. We went in for our 1st ultrasound at 9 weeks and they could not find a heartbeat! It was absolutely heartbreaking! I sometimes feel like my body still has not gotten back to normal, especially since I had to have 2 D&C's (long story). I had a small period in September and was supposed to start again last week and never did. On a whim, I took a test on Sunday and there was a VERY light line. I know any line mean pregnant, but I guess I'm just hesitant to believe it or get excited because of the ordeal I went through just 2 months ago. Part of me just wonders if my hormones are not back to normal yet (especially since my Dr. did not do any Beta testing) but I did take a test early in September to see if it would still show positive after the miscarriage and there was nothing there, so I guess a faint line this month means something. I know exactly how you feel in that all I can think about is "what if this happens again" but I am just trying to think positive thoughts and that this is a clean slate and a new pregnancy that will hopefully result in a happy healthy baby. Good luck to you!

christinae10 · October 2014

I can completely relate I'm rh negative as well and my bf is positive. So it's terrifying. If you don't mind me asking what blood type is your 19month?

jbartsy · October 2014

gkirgan716 said:

I had my 1st miscarriage in April 2012. I conceived my son (now 19 mths old) only a few months after that. More recently I had another miscarriage back on January 15th of this year. Even though I had a perfectly healthy little boy at the time, it still hit me hard...especially it being a second time going through such a loss. To add insult to injury, I'm Rh Negative blood type which means I have to go through a day long process of getting a Rhogam injection after each miss which is torture and anyone who has gone through it would know how exhausting and draining it can be. With that said, I'm now 4 weeks pregnant and I am going through the exact same anxiety you are going through. Every time I go to the bathroom and I fear I will see blood. And every time I don't, I breathe a sigh of relief. But that relief is short-lived until the next time I go to the bathroom and I go through it all over again. I am just trying to stay positive. I know it may sound silly but this one feels right. Before I'd kind of know something was wrong. So I'm hoping my feelings are right and it's all good. I just can't bring myself to celebrate just yet but one day at a time. Good luck to you and to all!

I got a rhogam shot in the hospital when I discovered I was miscarrying, but I don't remember it being a lengthy process, just a shot. What did they make you do that it was so intense? (I'm just curious because I hope I didn't miss anything!)

Belle0720 · October 2014

I also had a (missed) miscarriage in August and am pregnant again, so I can definitely understand what you're going through. For me I wanted to do betas right away to make sure that everything is progressing normally this time so I called my doctor Monday and went in for my first blood draw. Today I go in for my second and will find out tomorrow if my levels are increasing like they should be. If having that reassurance would ease your nerves a bit I recommend requesting for early blood work from your doctor (although I understand that for some people this would just make them more paranoid). I also recommend checking out the Pregnant After Loss board on here where there are many other women going through the same thing as you.

Congrats on your BFP and FX for a happy and healthy 9 months!

klaG101 · October 2014

I had a miscarriage this January, I was 10 weeks. I am now about 7 weeks, part of me hopes once I get past the 12 week mark I might relax a bit. But this pregnancy implanted high in my uterus just like with the baby I lost so I'm worried more than ever I'm going to loose this baby too. I think the best thing I could suggest is to celebrate the little milestones, and just think of sending positive vibes to your baby.

Cltreadway · October 2014

I miscarried on 9/2/2014. I found out I was pregnant again on September 28, 2014. I am now six weeks pregnant! It was a very painful loss and we have been trying for 18 months. I'm so blessed to have a second chance at it! We went in today and got to see the heartbeat! :x

JenandMike71809 · October 2014

We miscarried 8/1/14 and are nervous but being positive and hopefully! We know there is nothing we can do but take it day by day and make sure I stay healthy for me and baby! Sending good vibes your way!

angwaawulf07 · October 2014

I had a miscarriage in 2012. It was so hard to get over it, and honestly I'm not really over it. I'm about 5 weeks this time around, which is when I lost the last one. At this point I just keep talking to my husband about what's going on and try not to get too excited. It's hard and there is no right way to move forward.
Congrats!

Angelaelisa04 · October 2014

I had a miscarriage last October. It's taken me over a year to get pregnant again. I have horrible fears, but I'm truly putting on God's armor of Faith to get me through this. Hang in there, pray, and believe that God will bless you and your baby. Best wishes.

gkirgan716 · October 2014

jbartsy said:

I got a rhogam shot in the hospital when I discovered I was miscarrying, but I don't remember it being a lengthy process, just a shot. What did they make you do that it was so intense? (I'm just curious because I hope I didn't miss anything!)

I'm sorry if I made you think you missed something. I'm sure you didnt. What I meant was the lengthy process in that I had to go to the lab in the hospital, have my blood drawn then wait hours to go back to the infusion dept in the hospital after they mixed my blood cocktail and do the injection. Both times was a long, excruciating wait and while you are hemorrhaging and mourning the loss, its the last place you want to be. Plus, I was surrounded by patients getting chemo which added to my depression.

gotnw3 · October 2014

I miscarried on August 14th and was pregnant again 3 weeks later this time with twins. All seems ok on the sonogram - good heartbeats and so on. We're worried of course , but what can you do. It's important we stay positive, and remember that it was probably just bad luck last time around. FX for you.

jbartsy · October 2014

@gkirgan Oh no that does sound awful

I had mine done while I was in the ER for hours, so I guess I didn't know what was going on behind the scenes

NaomiM87 · October 2014

Congrats on the news!!

I am also going through the same thing..early miscarriage last january and cant keep the paranoia about miscarrying again out of my mind! I'm slowly allowing myself to be excited though

wendyld · October 2014

This is also my third pregnancy this year and I am afraid to get too attached to the idea of an actual baby as well. Both of mine were missed MCs, one at 8w and one at 12w. Every Dr appt is terrifying.

BookishMomma · October 2014

Hugs @chrain @wendyld and all the loss mamas here. This is also my 3rd pregnancy this year. I've had 3 miscarriages, two earlier this year and one in November '13. Just got my BFP yesterday. Hopeful and terrified all at once.

VaBarnet · October 2014

I had a miscarriage past june, I was 8w1d... it was really hard and I was devastated but because I also believe that everything happens for a reason and that it was not meant to be I feel much better now, but as @angwaawulf07 said " there's no right way to move forward." Just be positive and live the moment!
Sending good vibes ur way!

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