"Why I don't breastfeed" - WP article

Re: "Why I don't breastfeed" - WP article

• BostonGayGal member

  October 2014

  It's a good article.

  
  
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• Pintobean39 member

  October 2014

  I HATE the lactation nazi's. I was treated horribly in the hospital by them because I didn't want to breastfeed. I was young and honestly didn't know any difference.
  
  I more than likely won't be able to breast feed this time. I'd really like to try but it all depends on how long it takes after delivery for my muscle to start getting tight and I have to start back on my medication.
  
  I honestly dread having to deal with all that again if this is something I can't do.

  Fucking bump!!!!

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• chucktgirl member

  October 2014

  Thanks for posting. I intend to *try* breastfeeding, but even if it feels like a good match for me, I don't intend to do it for very long. It's just not something I feel connected with at this time, particularly with my breast issue.
  

  
  

  
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  Me: 42, Hubby: 35, TTC since Jan 2010. Dx: DOR due to advanced maternal age. Also: Hypothyroidism (100mcg Levothyroxin). Positive for MTHFR (hetero-C677T), Factor V Leiden, and Fragile X (on DH side). Taking pre-natal vitamins.
  First natural PG 9/27/11; mc: 1/20/12
  First RE visit: 8/8/12, Saline Sonogram: 8/28/12, IVF injection class: 10/11/12, add FaBB Tab for FVL, +Vitamin D.
  IVF #1: 10/17/12 Baseline: FSH- 9.4, E2- 24, LH- 3.7, Prog- 0.3 The u/s showed 6 follicles in my right  & 9 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 10/21/12: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning.
  ER 10/28/12: 13 Retreived. 7 Mature. 6 Fertilized. 5 Made it to PGS. ET 11/2/12: CANCELED. All 5 came back from PGS as having "severe abnormalities."
  IVF #2: 1/7/13 Baseline: FSH- 8.8, 4 follicles in my right & 6 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle & 150 Menopur SQ nightly. 1/11/13: Add Ganirelix SQ every morning. hCG Trigger 1/16/13
  ER 1/18/13: 9 Retrieved. 5 Mature. 5 Fertilized. 2 Made it to PGS. ET 1/23/13: CANCELED. All embryos (he even sent the ones not growing) came back from PGS as having "multiple severe abnormalities."
  IVF #3: NEW RE! 3/1/13 Baseline: FSH- 9.6, E2- 61, Prog- 0.94, 3 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 150 Bravelle& 150 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/7/13: Add Ganirelix SQ in AM. hCG Trigger 3/9/13 SQ.
  ER 3/11/13: 6R, 2M, 2F. Day 3: one 8 cell, grade 0.  Five day ET 3/16/13: one early blast, grade Fair. 3/24/13 AF came a day before beta. BFN
  IVF #4: (Added acupuncture to this cycle.) 3/25/13 WTF & Baseline: FSH-11.8, E2- 56, Prog- 0.84 3/26/13 Start stims. 3/30/13 u/s: 5 follicles in my right & 4 in my left. Rx: 225 Bravelle& 225 Menopur SQ in PM. 3/31/13 Add Ganirelix SQ in AM.hCG Trigger 4/3/13 SQ.
  ER 4/5/13: 5R, 3M, 3F naturally. Day 3: two 8 cell, grade 0, one 8 cell, grade 2 (Scale 0-best to 3-worst). Five day ET 4/10/13: two blastocysts (the 3^rd stopped growing.) Beta 4/18/13: 2.5 BFFN. RE recommends we stop trying and focus on living childless, due to the extremely poor quality of my eggs.
  ***Decided to stop trying and live CFNBC. I couldn't adjust. So, six months later...
  IVF #5: Changed RE. Going to one of the big name clinics now. OWDU: 10/29/13. Update: HORRIBLE experience. Disgusted and distraught at their complete unprofessionalism and how much money and precious time they cost us. Sickening. Have now changed RE again. New Patient appt. 1/30/14.
  BFP! Out of nowhere, I got KU the old fashioned way! POAS 1/26/14 - Positive! FDLM 12/30/13. Beta #1 16dpo= 373. Beta #2 18dpo= 801. EDD 10/6/14
  2/4/14 1st U/S revealed a 5wk2day sac but no fetal pole. Started 200mgs of progesterone suppositories daily
  2/11/14 2nd U/S revealed a perfect 6wk1day "diamond ring" embryo with a beating heart! 138bpm! Add 1mg folic acid and 40mg Lovenox
  2/25/14 3rd U/S: perfect 8w1d embryo, 178bpm. 3/6 start spotting. 3/11 10w1d U/S shows no heartbeat. Scheduling D&C. The Stork has forsaken me again.
  IVF #5.2: New in-state RE. Supplement priming for 1.5 cycles prior to start of cycle, including DHEA 50mg (stopped 5/15), CoQ10 200mg 2x/day, L-Arginine- 1000mg 2x/day (stopped 6/5 due to cold sore!), myo-inositol- 2g 2x/day, melatonin- 3mg, and Neevo (prenatal for MTHFR).
  5/16/14 Day 2 bw cycle prior: FSH- 12.22, E2- 38.37, Prog- 1.35, LH- 9.46. 6/2/14 Day 19 bw: Prog- 23
  6/12/14 Baseline: E2- 122.7, Prog- 0.4. 5 follicles in left, 4 follicles in right. Start stims: 375IU Follistim & 150IU Menopur. 6/19 Increase Follistim to 425IU, Menopur still 150IU. 6/18 add Ganirelix. 6/23 Ovidrel trigger SQ. 6/25 ER: 8R, 8M, 5F naturally. Start Medrol & Doxy. 6/26 Start Endometrin. 7/2 Start Lovenox.
  7/8/14 Beta= 137.4 BFP!!! (My first from IVF!) E2- 1109, Prog- >60. Stop CoQ10, myo-inositol, and melatonin. 7/9 2nd Beta= 281.4. TSH- 2.70. Increasing Synthroid to 100mcg daily. 7/24 6w3d u/s measured 6w3d, hb: 121bmp! 8/5 8w1d u/s measured 8w3d, hb: 164bpm! Graduated from RE to OB. Now I just need to find an OB!
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• hopeby2015 member

  October 2014

  It's an interesting article. I plan on bf-ing but it's good to know that if I can't for whatever reason, it's ok.

  
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• BeckyP005 member

  October 2014

  I'm not even going to "try" BF and FF from the beginning. I don't feel any guilt in my decision.

  ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
  Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

  DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!

  
  

   

   

        
          

  
  

  
  

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• Mrs.McIrish member

  October 2014

  My situation isn't the same as the author of the article but my breast surgeon does not want me to BF or if I do, she doesn't want me to do it for long. I'm brca1+ which is the breast cancer gene. I can't be screened for BC while milk ducts are engorged. When my girls are born next month, it will have been 13 months since my last mammogram. I am screened every 6 mos alternating mammograms and breast MRIs normally. I couldn't have my breast MRI in April bc you can't have contrast during pregnancy. If I BF, it will be all that much longer before I can be checked again. Combining all that with the demands with twins, that I used DE and may not have enough milk for 2 and IF drugs for 4 years, I think formula is the way for me to go-- better for me to be alive for my girls than BF them and find out later that I have a higher stage cancer. Do I want to explain this to everyone? No. But I will to shut people up if I'm judged.

  TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
  DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
  5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
  OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
  DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
  DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
  CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
  DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

  DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
  First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
  
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• Mrs.McIrish member

  October 2014

  JimBobCooter said:

  So does using DE make it BF more difficult somehow?  I haven't looked into that connection but since two of you have mentioned it now.    

  
  Ive heard it over the years that it an be an issue but I'm wondering if it's "more" true for older ladies than younger ones who use DE? I don't know for sure. I just figure everything else in my body has dried up so it wouldn't surprise me not to get milk! Lol

  TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
  DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
  5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
  OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
  DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
  DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
  CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
  DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

  DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
  First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
  
  K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
  

  
  

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• southernyankeegirl member

  October 2014

  This topic always makes me sad. Why all the hate and judgement?!
  
  I have a good friend who found very quickly BFing was not for her. She was a happier Mom while FFing, so that's what she did. Another "friend" kept sending her literature on benefits of BFing. I get if someone is deciding between the two and asks for input, but otherwise, MYOFB.
  
  Our neighbors are both doctors - she's internal medicine and he's pediatrics. Their baby had terrible reflux and so they ended up putting her on formula by 2 months. If it's good enough for two doctors to choose it for their child, I don't want to hear crap from anyone on how formula isn't good enough for their child. There's certainly benefits to Mom and baby from breastfeeding, but no one mentions that sometimes the benefits of formula makes it the better choice for many. Breast isn't always best.

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  Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014

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• hopeby2015 member

  October 2014

  JimBobCooter said:

  So does using DE make it BF more difficult somehow?  I haven't looked into that connection but since two of you have mentioned it now.    

  
  I agree with @Mrs.McIntosh - I think it has to do with age more than what type of eggs you used. I used DE (and am relatively young) and my body is responding just like any other normal pg lady in every other which way. So, I don't see the connection b.w what eggs were used and milk production.
  

  
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• BalletAn member

  October 2014

  I found this such an interesting read! It always really surprises/saddens me to find so much woman on woman judgement. "It might come out of your armpits" for real, lactation ladies? I do plan to breastfeed if I can. I (perhaps naively) look forward to it, because it seems like a bonding experience with your baby, however no judgments for those who cannot or who simply don't want to. 

  Me: 31 DH:35 Married: 2010. 

  FSH: 5.7, AMH: 4.7
  

  Found 2.6 cm Endometrioma in March 2013: decided we should TTC

  2 rounds of Femara+ TI Nov-Dec 2013: BFN

  Lap Jan. 2014: removed endometrioma Dx: Stage 4 Endo

  Feb 2014: another round of Femara+TI: BFN, endometrioma is back!

  March 2014- July 2014: continous Lupron to shrink endo 

  July 2014: IVF 1: 9R, 7M, 5F, 5 beautiful day 5 blasts! eSET, 4 snowbabies! Beta: #1 2936 Beta # 2 7684 1st ultrasound 5w6d: saw yolk and sac, 2nd ultrasound 6w6d: heartbeat!! 112 bpm 7w6d heartbeat!! 148 bpm 9w 2d measuring right on track heartbeat! 175 bpm

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• Neesey member

  October 2014

  BalletAn said:

  "It might come out of your armpits" for real, lactation ladies?  

  Yes for real! My mom had a double mastectomy (not the breasts in her chest) after I was born because of extra breasts, including nipples, under her armpits. She couldn't put her arms down without leaking breast milk. When you do your breast self exams that's why you need to go all the way out toward your armpits. The breast tissue extends there. Some women can develop extra breasts like puppies too down their chests.
  

   

     

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  BFP on 7/20/12 after 4 cycles Clomid + IUI 

  2 large subchorionic hematomas & no heartbeat at 7w6d   

  D&E 8/18/12 Sonohysterography found septum and necrotic tissue.   

  Hysteroscopy to remove both 10/5

  IUI #5-7 50mg Clomid + trigger = BFN  

  IUI #8 Femara + Bravelle + HCG + Progesterone = BFP 3/27/13

  Beta 1 (13dpo) = 169  Beta 2 (17dpo) = 1073  No heartbeat at 9w3d. 

  D & C 5/10/13  Triploidy 69 (paternal inherited)

  IVF #1 with ICSI and PGS 11R 8M 5F 2 biopsied/frozen

  PGS results = 1 with trisomy 13 & 1 good embryo for FET 

  FET #1 EV, estrace, nitro patches.  Cancelled due to thin lining

  FET #1.2 oral estrace, f'ing nitro patches and no delestrogen.  Transfer 12/31. BFN

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• BalletAn member

  October 2014

  @ Neesey I had no idea! Thanks for telling me  

  Me: 31 DH:35 Married: 2010. 

  FSH: 5.7, AMH: 4.7
  

  Found 2.6 cm Endometrioma in March 2013: decided we should TTC

  2 rounds of Femara+ TI Nov-Dec 2013: BFN

  Lap Jan. 2014: removed endometrioma Dx: Stage 4 Endo

  Feb 2014: another round of Femara+TI: BFN, endometrioma is back!

  March 2014- July 2014: continous Lupron to shrink endo 

  July 2014: IVF 1: 9R, 7M, 5F, 5 beautiful day 5 blasts! eSET, 4 snowbabies! Beta: #1 2936 Beta # 2 7684 1st ultrasound 5w6d: saw yolk and sac, 2nd ultrasound 6w6d: heartbeat!! 112 bpm 7w6d heartbeat!! 148 bpm 9w 2d measuring right on track heartbeat! 175 bpm

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• Pintobean39 member

  October 2014

  Buttmonkey34 said:

  
  

  JimBobCooter said:

  
  

  So does using DE make it BF more difficult somehow?  I haven't looked into that connection but since two of you have mentioned it now.    

  
  

  @jimbobcooter I'm not sure how many DE patients have issues with BF.  I just know in the case of my friend it just never came in for her.  It did for like a day, then nada.  Seems to me like it's a case by case basis.
  
  If that's the case for DE, wouldn't it still be the same for a FET? Just thinking the body doesn't know it's not YOUR egg, it would seem to me it would be because it's a forced pregnancy. Same thing happens with a FET. If it wasn't for the medication my body wouldn't hold onto this pregnancy.
  
  I seriously think that's why my autoimmune issue hasn't settled down like it did in my last 4 pregnancies last yr. My body is being forced into pregnancy. The reason autoimmune diseases settle down in pregnancy is because when you get pregnant it's a normal response for your body to protect that baby so it quits fighting itself.
  
  Of course I have no scientific basis on this, I'm just guessing.

  Fucking bump!!!!

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