July 2014 Moms

Childcare Poll and questions

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edited October 2014 in July 2014 Moms
I know! I know! This is my 150th post this month but, I keep thinking of things to talk about lol. So!

How's it going so far? What are your schedules? If you or SO aren't with LO all Day, how are they adjusting? How are you adjusting?

If you're a new SAHP, how are you enjoying the transition from working to being home with baby?

Any other childcare news?

Childcare Poll and questions 120 votes

SAHP
22% 27 votes
work from home
6% 8 votes
Daycare
32% 39 votes
Family
19% 23 votes
Nanny or similar
8% 10 votes
SS
10% 13 votes

Re: Childcare Poll and questions

  • I voted SS because I go back to work at the end of the month. LO is going to stay with her Grandmom while we work, but just until January when she will go to a daycare center. I'm interested in hearing others experiences.
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  • How's it going so far? Very easy transition this time. It totally helps that my mom watches both boys and she lives so close to us. What are your schedules? DS1 is in bed by 930 and DS2 by 10 except for Wednesdays when I really push DS1 to be in bed by 9 so I can watch Nashville :) get both boys up around 620-630 and to my mom's house at 650. Then I pick them up around 430. I love spending such a big part of the evening with them. If you or SO aren't with LO all Day, how are they adjusting? How are you adjusting? I have been back to work for a month and they are both totally adjusted now. However DS1 took about 1-2 weeks to get back into the routine of staying at my mom's.

    11.2011 - DS1

    02.2013 - loss at 6 wks

    06.2014 - DS2

    10.2015 - loss at 12 wks

    03.2017 - DD

  • I have an IHDC (but it's more like an in-home sitter that has 5 kids with her) for 3 days a week and MIL 2 days a week so that they can bond. 

    I'm afraid MIL is in over her head with a high maintenance 7 month old, DD2, and some days she has my nephew who is 20 months also. My nephew will be moving come  March, but it just seems like a lot for a 65 year old woman to handle. I keep holding my breath every day thinking she's going to bail on us. 
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    I know the feeling. My MIL watches both DS2 and DS3 3 times a week. I considered daycare but, she wouldn't have it. Love that woman!
  • I voted SS. I'm not going back to work until Dec 29th, but fortunately I'm a Pre-K teacher at an early childhood/daycare center and because of the amount of years i've put in, DD gets to go for 75% off of the regular tuition. She'll stay there until my mom retires in May, and I'll stay there through the summer and hopefully get a job in the public school or subbing. I'm so glad that DD will be right downstairs from my class - it will definitely be interesting to see how things work out and if it will be a distraction or a comfort having her there.
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  • lowen83lowen83 member
    edited October 2014
    Right now Im still working full time with a commute. At the end of this month I begin working part time in my town!

    DS 1 is in bed at 8:30 and asleep usually by 8:45 8:50. He sleeps till 6:30-7am which is good since I usually leave home about 7:20.
    DS 2 is normally down between 8:30-9:30 and sleeps 4-5 hours between nursings. I wake him to leave. I work all day and pick them up around 6pm and am home by 7 pm at the latest.
    Long days and I'm over it! That's why I'm going part time thanks to DH getting a new job after 17 years and a huge pay increase I am able to.
    DS 2 stays with my mom and it's great cause she mothers like I do( where do you think I learned it from). DS 1 goes to a IHDC(sitter) 3 days a week and then goes to preschool in the mornings and then back to my moms two days a week. We stay on the go but over all everyone has adjusted well I believe.
    We will see what happens when I begin working part time in November.


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  • Both kids are in a IHDC with a couple other kids.  She is 70 years old and RUNS SHIT!! I'm afraid my kids are going to put her in an early grave, but she whips my 2 yo into shape and definitely loves on them like they are her own.  My 2yo is really thriving there and I like that he is less susceptible to viruses and whatnot.  Plus we pay a great rate.  I like that they are both together but I am contemplating putting him in a Pre3K private school next fall.

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  • I clicked on SAHP but I'm not the parent staying home. Technically neither of us Stay at home, we both work full time but our schedules are opposites so DH is home M-F with the kids and I'm home on the weekends.
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  • We both work FT so kids are in DC.  It's great for us.  I nurse DD on my lunch break, so I get to see her and get to know the teachers better (bonus, one was DS's last teacher they just moved into the new infant room so we already have a good relationship).  I love the school they're in.  They get so much more education and experience wise than I feel I could give them at home and I know they're teachers love them as well.
  • SAHM here. The transition from one to two was a bit crazy at first, but we are slowly falling into a good routine. I habe minor breakdowns on occasion, but we are doing good. DH has been keeping the kids 3 days a week so I can go to the gym and do a few errands kid free which is a nice break. Bedtime is 8:30pm for DS and DD goes down between 8:30 and 10, it depends on where she is at in her feedings, but she sleeps until 9/9:30am usually.
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  • LO is in IHDC. I really like it for DD at this stage. From 7:30-3 she has up to 4 kids, with 3 more coming after school. The only day she is at capacity is on Fridays (capacity for her license), with most days only have 3-4 kids (so mine, her son and one or two other 1-3 year olds).

    She gets cuddled and loved and lots of attention. I get regular texted pics and random reminders. Yesterday, she made sure I had packed an empty bottle to take to DD's 4 mos dr appt, so she would have some post-shot comfort, etc.

    2 years from now, I will want her somewhere with a curriculm. Right now, she's essentially with a baby sitter and not in a program that is education based. But, we have time to worry about that later (and possibly set up my own program and start my own IHDC).
  • Daycare here. I don't mind the daycare part, I think they do well with him and I really really want him to interact with other kids, but I feel like I never get to see him. The only thing that bothers me is I feel like he is not napping as well and hes not sleeping at night, so I worry about him... second week in DC though, so I think it will get better once he is more used to going... wish I could find an IHDC but nothing that I trusted, was reasonable, etc is around us.

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  • Daycare for us.  I have mixed feelings on his daycare.  I hope this doesn't sound completely horrible, but the 2 ladies in the infant room don't speak very good English, so I worry about him because it's hard to communicate how/what he's doing with the caregivers.  I do get a little paper from them daily detailed when/how he ate, his diapers, and his naps, but that's about it.  Since I'm a FTM and this is my only daycare experience, I don't know what's normal for an infant room and what's not.  

    Elias seems okay with it in the mornings, but usually at the end of the day when I arrive he's crying, but he stops as soon as he realizes I'm there.  I just don't know how much interaction he gets during the day, and that makes me sad.

    I looked at IHDC's before I went back to work,but the one I liked didn't have any room and the other I didn't get a good vibe from.  Of the daycares, I only liked one a super amount and it was full on babies.  I wish I could be a SAHM but it's not in the cards for us at this time.

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  • I haven't gone back to work yet. But when I do it will be part time, around 10-15 hours a week. My husband will be with the kids while I'm at work.
  • SS - She stays with a friend who provides child care in her home 3-4 days a week. She watches 2 other 3 year old girls twice a week and just ours alone one day, so I like that she doesn't have too many. I arranged for her to not accept anymore children to watch without talking to us first. I'd rather pay her more than her take on another.

    My parents watch her the other day each week. They have my sister's 2 year old and 6 month old as well. Thank goodness it's two parents and not just my mom, that would be too much.
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    Baby is in an in home daycare. It's good so far. She keeps trying to convince me to give him cereal, weaned him off his pacifier during week 2, and a stern look brings immediate silence from the toddlers that are there. Everything I expect from someone who's been in the business for 30 yrs.

    Schedule: He's up at 5:15a, we're out of the door by 7:30, I pick him up by 5:30p, and he's in bed for good between 9:30p-10p.

    I definitely miss my guy, but I do trust the daycare provider. She loves on him a lot.

  • DH and I both work full time. My hours are generally Monday to Friday and he works retail, so his hours are all over the place. He generally has a day off during the week where he'll keep DS, and he keeps him in the mornings when, for example, I work 9-5 and he works 1p-9p. MIL keeps him when we're both at work, but she just hurt her back, so we might have to send him to daycare part time.

    I usually work long days, and DS is usually asleep when I leave in the mornings. I try to make the most of the time I have him in the evenings, but it is still hard.

    Right now I'm stressing out about what we're going to do for childcare since MIL is hurt. Until now, it has gone great.
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  • My mom retired to watch my DD. It's going really well. We wake up at 5:30 and nurse then I get ready a small she usually naps some more. I get her to my moms just after 7 and nurse again then leave for work a little before 8. My mom is about 15 mins from my house and 5 mins from my office. I get to go there to nurse on my lunch hour. She sends me pics and videos everyday. I feel really lucky to be in this situation, but it's so hard to be away from her all day.
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  • I voted SS. I was at home for the first three months with DS. Today I went back to work, but I work for the family catering company, so I bring DS with me. I'm the office manager. I handle all of the paper work, emails, set up meetings with clients and such. The office is at my dads house, so it makes it easy to have DS there. I'm so thankful I'm able to bring him with me. I definitely had to go back to work, and I think it's the best of both worlds. I get to spend my days with DS, and still bring money into the house.
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  • SS- when dh and I decided to start a i family we knew we would both prefer for our child to be with me. So I quit my job in management(that I hated and was working 60+ hours a week doing) and started working in childcare again. I currently provide morning childcare for two school age children in their home and afternoon care for an infant everyday plus a few drop in child care sessions in my home.This way I'm working but Baylor Is with me!
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  • I voted SS. I go back to work 11/24 than DH is taking family leave through the new year. DD will be joining DS at the day care center DS has been in since 6 months old beginning January.
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  • I work from home, but it's scheduled hours.  DH and I overlap 3 hours a day M-TH and both work evening shift on Friday, so we have our parents come over on shifts.  I work 3 full weeks, then have 1 week with 2 days off and 2 weeks with 1 day off (because I work weekends 2 out of 6 weeks).

    The transition has been pretty good.  I help out and give them a break on my 15 minute afternoon break.  I might change her diaper or just BS with the parent who is there.

    It does get a little annoying always having someone here when I go on my first break, but I can't really complain that they're helping with childcare.  Everyone agrees it's what is best, since they can all spend time with her.  My parents both work overnights, but my dad is laid off for the season.  His mother hasn't worked in 20 years and his dad rarely sees the baby, but should be here Friday night to help (I hope she isn't super monster fussy... :( )

    DH's schedule is changing in November, so we will only need childcare 3x per week, or less on my weekend shift weeks.  However, that means we will never have a day off together.  He changed his schedule with baby in mind, but I am not sure I will like it.  I guess time will tell.  That's what PTO is for. ;)  We will still have time before/after work when one of us is off though.
    *SIGGY*
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  • I go back to work Thursday and I work 3-11pm. DH is a teacher so he works 8am-3pm, so I will be with her during the day and my mom (who lives downstairs from us) will watch DD for an hour until DH gets home from work. We're both off on weekends.

    I'm sad about going back to work, especially since my job is super stressful lately because the management sucks. I just keep telling myself it's just for a few more months until we move and then I will be able to SAH or at least work part time for a bit. My mom is great though so I'm so grateful that she can watch DD for us.
    TTC History
    Me: 35 DH: 34
    Married 07/2012
    DD born 07/2014
    DD2 born 10/2018
    DS born 10/2022

    IF history:
    TTC #2 since January 2016
    June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
    Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
    Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
    Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
    FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
    FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22


  • LO is in a ihdc today will be the third day I am a mess. I cried for 3 hours tonight and haven't slept at all. Not being there for LO is awful. I am trying to find a way to be a SAM until preschool age. I never thought this would be so hard. I worry all day about what's going on there. Ugh
  • I put SS because I work full time & DH is the SAHP & he works at a restaurant a couple nights a week. After reading the comments, I think I should have put SAHP, opps!
    Things seem to be going well. The biggest thing we need to figure out is how to keep the house a bit more organized.
    My biggest struggle is pumping because I hate it.
  • marsalisailsmarsalisails member
    edited October 2014
  • LO is in daycare.  I've been back to work for 6.5 weeks and have had no issues.  I like the center and her teachers.  They keep her more engaged that I would have.  I do appreciate my time with her more in the evenings and on the weekends.  She currently goes to bed around 9/9:30pm and gets up around 5 to get changed and we leave at 5:30. We are gradually starting to bump up her bed time so hopefully we will get her down around 8 soon.

    Since starting daycare, she has been a lot more independent.  She will play on her mat and her bouncer for long periods without needing me to hold her.  It allows me to get all her bottles and my pump stuff cleaned and get dinner started. She loves doing tummy time at school in a circle with all the other kids so they can look at each other.  It's been so fun seeing the changes - plus they do an art project every week so my fridge looks like finger paint threw up on it.
  • I have an IHDC (but it's more like an in-home sitter that has 5 kids with her) for 3 days a week and MIL 2 days a week so that they can bond. 

    I'm afraid MIL is in over her head with a high maintenance 7 month old, DD2, and some days she has my nephew who is 20 months also. My nephew will be moving come  March, but it just seems like a lot for a 65 year old woman to handle. I keep holding my breath every day thinking she's going to bail on us. 
    ??? @ghostof5letters -- typo or another kid?
    *SIGGY*
    Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia.  5lb12oz 19"
    #2 due Christmas 2016. 





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  • I have an IHDC (but it's more like an in-home sitter that has 5 kids with her) for 3 days a week and MIL 2 days a week so that they can bond. 

    I'm afraid MIL is in over her head with a high maintenance 7 month old, DD2, and some days she has my nephew who is 20 months also. My nephew will be moving come  March, but it just seems like a lot for a 65 year old woman to handle. I keep holding my breath every day thinking she's going to bail on us. 
    ??? @ghostof5letters -- typo or another kid?

    I have an IHDC (but it's more like an in-home sitter that has 5 kids with her) for 3 days a week and MIL 2 days a week so that they can bond. 

    I'm afraid MIL is in over her head with a high maintenance 7 month old, DD2, and some days she has my nephew who is 20 months also. My nephew will be moving come  March, but it just seems like a lot for a 65 year old woman to handle. I keep holding my breath every day thinking she's going to bail on us. 
    ??? @ghostof5letters -- typo or another kid?
    My SIL thought having a baby with her roommate (of less than 90 days) would be an awesome idea and so much fun since they both like babies. 
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