Hi ladies, I hope you have been kind to yourselves this week.
Welcome to the check-in! I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way?
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What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way?
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Get through grandmas funeral on Monday. I don't know whether I will fall apart with memories of Colton and grief triggers, or whether I will snap at someone because I feel so numb to it all. Hopefully neither!
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way? Yes. I struggle with the "happy" all the time. About 6 months out from our loss, I had a friend who was almost like a mentor to me, someone I really respected, tell me it was time to stop being sad and focus on the good memories. To be happy again. I didn't even know how to respond to her. How to explain that I'm not choosing to be sad, or that the happy can eat me up with guilt because feeling sad makes me feel as though I am thinking of him more.
This past May we bought a new house, and it was really hard, because I was very happy and excited, and then I would feel guilty because we were "moving on" with our life and how could we possibly be doing that?!
I do feel as though I am finally getting to that place where I can let myself keep going, be happy, make plans for the future, hope again. It really hit me as we passed Colton's first angelversary - we will never forget him, he will always be a part of us, and we will carry him with us into the rest of our lives. It's okay if you are not at that point yet - somedays I am and somedays I'm not - and it is a unique part of this journey for everyone.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? We plan to attend a workshop for how to survive the holidays after loosing a loved one in 2 weeks.
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way? I know what you mean. We are lucky - new home, jobs we love...but the one thing that matters most to us is our son and he is gone. Everything else means nothing - he meant everything. But I do agree with PP I do have happy times too and I do have hope for the future, but I think it's normal to still miss your child. It's such a balancing act at times.
I'm also back at work now, and not doing well, so I'm not sure if that has something to do with my increased depression. It may, but I'm not really sure what to do about it. I am hoping this is just the pain of "october" our due-date month, but we'll see how things go.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Otherwise, I need to probably stop gaining all the weight I can. It's been a steady rise since I was pregnant, and I REALLY don't want to have to buy new clothes, so I should probably do something about that, no plans though.
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way?
queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,
Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.
Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>
7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013. Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.
My Love: (the amazing @Healz413)
Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012. Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.
Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos. 1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved. BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255. Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!
We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014. Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies. We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Trying to stay healthy. We will be beginning to TTCAL in the next couple of weeks and I've been trying to cut out the diet sodas and get back into the habit of more drinking water.
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way? I don't really feel guilt, but I do feel sad when something good happens and our baby is not here to experience it with us. It just seems to magnify the fact that there is something missing and is a reminder of what should have been.
Asher born February 5, 2011.
Baby #2 born sleeping at 20 weeks. May 6, 2014.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
QOTW: My DH got a big promotion at work and told me he felt guilty for being happy. Has anyone been feeling this way?