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Work drama.

deafy2006deafy2006 member
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I work with D, I'll call her. We've been to the same school since 1st grade so we're pretty familiar with eachother. Well she's worked with me for 3 years. She has 3 girls already; right out the gate from high school. Her and her husband were trying for another hopefully a boy. Anyways me and my husband weren't really trying and I ended up pregnant. I've been keeping in under wraps till I get to the doctor. I only told a couple people, we know rumors. Anyways she finds out and starts eyeballing me in the breakroom. I'm like lord she knows. From me asking a couple people she's apparently jealous cause I'm pregnant first and wants all the attention. I'm like whoa. This is my first baby and everyone is excited for me, not really more than her, but I think they are still more excited cause it's the first rodeo. Anyways. What to do about this situation? I didn't do anything to her other than get pregnant before her.
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  • deafy2006deafy2006 member
    Well I've already told her once to calm it down. But I know her. She'll turn it into a situation even if I ignore her.
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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    What a weird post.

    Well, technically she got pregnant before you.  Three times.

    But like PP said-- if she's jealous of your pregnancy, that's on her.  There's nothing for you to do.

     

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  • 2chatter2chatter member
    Calm what down? I generally avoid people who "eyeball" other people at work. I would just avoid her.
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  • Samiantha101Samiantha101 member
    I have a sneaking suspicion the drama isn't one sided.

    From what you mentioned above, she has yet to do anything to you other than look at you. I look at my co-workers at various points throughout my day. We co-exist with zero drama.
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  • Weezy56Weezy56 member
    Ditto PPs, I'm confused. What was her response when you told her to "calm it down"? It sounds like you were trying to instigate something.


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  • deafy2006deafy2006 member
    edited October 2014
    No i didn't do anything to her. The eyeball thing is noticeable because one she doesn't generally look at me and two it was like this stare someone gives you when there mad/being sneaky. I can't explain. I asked if her there was something in my hair and she was like naw and that was the end of that conversation. The second time I'm sitting at the table with J and D walks in and like runs into the seat next across from me and all I say is calm down, you know I'm pregnant someone must have told. And she goes yah and like hands me her doctor appt slip. I'm like ok that's cool and I'm going to a doctor near yours ect. General convo. But she's like figity the whole time like she's happy for herself but she's still staring at me like I did something wrong. She's an oddball. I dunno. I went to school with her forever but we're not friends. So I don't know where it's coming from. Lol she's loud and like attention that's all I can think that's the problem. Me I stay in my bubble and go about my business.
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  • deafy2006deafy2006 member
    I haven't done anything? I don't talk to her. Everyone was telling me this stuff today, after I asked if there was something wrong with her.
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  • kikimeemeekikimeemee member
    I agree with the others -- leave it be as there isn't anything there. If she has an issue, it's hers to deal with as you've done nothing wrong. I think you're thinking about it too much and assuming your family plans are that important to her. Give her the benefit of the doubt and be kind to her; wish her well on baby #4.
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    deafy2006 said:
    I haven't done anything? I don't talk to her. Everyone was telling me this stuff today, after I asked if there was something wrong with her.

    The fact that you even addressed that she knew you were PG... you're making an issue where there isn't one. why does it matter if she knows? Why do YOU need to say that? Esp w/ "calm down". Calm down about what? This still doesn't make sense.
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  • mlee116mlee116 member
    edited October 2014
    This whole thing is weird.  You both sound way too entrenched in each other's personal business to not be friends and barely speak.  In fact, it sounds like most of the people you work with are gossipy and unprofessional.  

    I agree with PP's in that it sounds like the "drama" is not one-sided and you are fueling it, like telling her to "calm down." If she's jealous of you, that's her problem and she needs to deal with it.  I would ignore her weird behavior and stop talking to my coworkers about it.  If they bring it up, change the subject or ignore them too.

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  • Weezy56Weezy56 member
    K3am said:

    Oh, and BTW, I should add.. DH learned very quickly the absolute worst thing he can do to me when I'm annoyed or pissed off is tell me to "calm down." It does nothing but escalate the situation.. And I know I'm not alone in this.


    So yes, I do think you're probably a big part of any drama that may or may not exist.
    Exactly. I tell DH that when he tells me to "calm down" or "chill out", that's like stabbing someone and telling them not to bleed. Makes me ragey.


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