AW: Doctor says no more work

Yaz14 · October 2014

If you guys remember I wrote a very AWish post last week about how I was attacked at work by a 3 year old demon (I work in childcare) and how I handed in my notice. So I'm supposed to have a month left of work. If I could I would already have left. The place is so out of control that last night my boss had to call an emergency "behaviour management" meeting. My colleagues and I told my boss exactly how we feel, that we're stressed out of our minds, at our wits end, afraid of being physically hurt by small children and that none of us want to be there. She listened but basically tried to put it all back on us.

And...for the past few days I've been experiencing really bad cramps. They feel identical to the ones I get right before my period is about to start. They've actually been bad enough that they've given me diarrhoea.I know period-like cramps can be part of a normal, healthy pregnancy but I hadn't had one teensy cramp at all this entire pregnancy until a few days ago. With the baby that I lost I was cramping the whole time. I can't help but feel paranoid. I told my doctor about these cramps and poured my heart out to him about the work stress and he said he wouldn't be surprised if the two were linked. I was given a doppler check, the midwife took forever to find baby's heartbeat, even having to switch machines but she finally found it, thank God. Doc wrote me out of work for 2 weeks and said under no circumstances am I to subject myself to any more stress (okay... I'll try). I'm not on bed rest but I "have to relax." He said he'd review it in 2 weeks and says he feels I shouldn't go back at all in which case he'll write me out for the remaining 2 weeks but it's up to me. Right now I'm just so relieved that baby is ok and I get a break from such chaos. I just want to look after my baby and my mind and body and not think about anything work related.

bennneky1 · October 2014

Yes!!! Enjoy your time off. Do things to treat yourself. Have a sundae or take a nice bubble bath..get a pedicure or a massage. I wish I could stop working! It's hard to try and maintain composure and to not stress yourself out especially in a work situation like that. Just enjoy the time you get off.

hopefully your cramping clears up fast!

Yaz14 · October 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

Sorry you're feeling the stress, enjoy your time off. It's good that you're getting out of there soon, and I hope your cramps go away too. Your boss is a schmuck for letting 3 year olds terrorize your workplace.

-PS I always wanted to ask: who's the girl in your gif? For some reason, I always want to punch her in the face, haha.

The girl in my gif is Vicky from Geordie Shore which is basically the british version of Jersey Shore. Yeah, I want to punch her in the face too lol. She's a total bitch but so hilarious at the same time.

Mushibamboo · October 2014

Wow, definitely take it easy! I was a teacher for 12 years and during my last pregnancy I got a kick in the stomach/bite in the ass (one kicked, the other bit, for no apparent reason other than boyish exuberance) from a pair of brothers. They were 6 and 4 and a rough pair. I'd definitely get Doctor to extend the two weeks and just be done. The stress is not worth it, especially while pregnant.

arlinar · October 2014

Yaz14 said:

RHoPA1109 said:

Sorry you're feeling the stress, enjoy your time off. It's good that you're getting out of there soon, and I hope your cramps go away too. Your boss is a schmuck for letting 3 year olds terrorize your workplace.

-PS I always wanted to ask: who's the girl in your gif? For some reason, I always want to punch her in the face, haha.

The girl in my gif is Vicky from Geordie Shore which is basically the british version of Jersey Shore. Yeah, I want to punch her in the face too lol. She's a total bitch but so hilarious at the same time.

Every time I see the gif I just imagine reading it in a bitchy british accent. I tried watching some clips and I liked their dilect.

MitoRachel · October 2014

Just in case it happens again, I think it is possible that the, ahem, loose BMs are causing the cramping, not the other way around. A few times each pregnancy I could swear I was in labor and I just have to go to the bathroom. You were right to contact your OB, but just to show you that there is a happy alternative to where your brain is going!

catlover790 · October 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this! At least your doctor sounds very caring, and you should really take it easy the next two weeks!

I am also a teacher and I just wonder if you documented the attack from the student? If it is something that happened at school, I believe (in our district anyway) the school is liable for the doctor visits etc. caused by what happened. I'd be sure to write it up just in case. GL!

Mel&John2013 · October 2014

I'm glad your doctor ordered the extra time off! It's not worth all the stress you're going through, the most important things are you and baby.

Yaz14 · October 2014

MitoRachel said:
Just in case it happens again, I think it is possible that the, ahem, loose BMs are causing the cramping, not the other way around. A few times each pregnancy I could swear I was in labor and I just have to go to the bathroom. You were right to contact your OB, but just to show you that there is a happy alternative to where your brain is going!

This was my doctors first thought but he ruled it out. I normally get a bit of diarrhoea when I get my period anyway. This feels exactly the same.

Yaz14 · October 2014

catlover790 said:
I'm so sorry you're going through this! At least your doctor sounds very caring, and you should really take it easy the next two weeks!

I am also a teacher and I just wonder if you documented the attack from the student? If it is something that happened at school, I believe (in our district anyway) the school is liable for the doctor visits etc. caused by what happened. I'd be sure to write it up just in case. GL!

I live in New Zealand and unfortunately I don't think there is any kind of rule like that. There might be had the child actually made physical marks on me but he didn't. The psychological damage is worse.

vickersh1 · October 2014

Glad that everything is ok with your LO and glad that he is writing you out of work for a few weeks. Some kids can be heathens. My sister works in a Christian school/daycare and they aren't allowed to tell the parents when their kid is being a brat. I think it is a total crock, as I would want to know when my child is hitting other kids, or running out of the classroom and teachers are having to chase them down. Craziness.

Take care of yourself and enjoy your time off

Yaz14 · October 2014

vickersh1 said:
Glad that everything is ok with your LO and glad that he is writing you out of work for a few weeks. Some kids can be heathens. My sister works in a Christian school/daycare and they aren't allowed to tell the parents when their kid is being a brat. I think it is a total crock, as I would want to know when my child is hitting other kids, or running out of the classroom and teachers are having to chase them down. Craziness.
Take care of yourself and enjoy your time off

This is what it's like at my work! My boss wouldn't let us tell parents about their child's bad behaviour either. After the meeting the other night she agreed to but I don't know how long it will last. She just wants the parents to think the place is all sunshine and rainbows all the time because she's deathly afraid of losing them (or losing their money more like). It's such BS.

vickersh1 · October 2014

Yaz14 said:

Glad that everything is ok with your LO and glad that he is writing you out of work for a few weeks. Some kids can be heathens. My sister works in a Christian school/daycare and they aren't allowed to tell the parents when their kid is being a brat. I think it is a total crock, as I would want to know when my child is hitting other kids, or running out of the classroom and teachers are having to chase them down. Craziness.
Take care of yourself and enjoy your time off
This is what it's like at my work! My boss wouldn't let us tell parents about their child's bad behaviour either. After the meeting the other night she agreed to but I don't know how long it will last. She just wants the parents to think the place is all sunshine and rainbows all the time because she's deathly afraid of losing them (or losing their money more like). It's such BS.

Yup sounds like where my sister works. Some of the public schools are going to that as well. I graduated last year with my teaching degree and have yet to get a teaching job. It is total crap that everyone has this mentality that life is fair and we have to treat kids as such. BS is right.

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