Ha! Just you wait!!!

Rosebean · October 2014

Has anyone else had moments like these? My BFF's daughter turned one and at her party, there was a moment... And it went like this: a mutual friend attended the party with her LOs in tow. One is a Jan '13 baby. He wanted something and wasn't getting his way and let out an ear piercing scream. My first thought was, yep! I know how that goes. My second thought was watching the faces of my BFF and her mom. They both winced and I could almost read my BFFs thoughts of "thank god that's not my kid/get your kid under control/ that will never be my child " ... And I kind of get it. Her little girl is still in that compliant baby mode and isn't yet at that mind-of-her-own stage, and she's a bit of a control freak (I mean, who isn't?). And although I haven't said anything yet, I keep thinking "just you wait".

ally2011 · October 2014

I agree on the one hand, there are definitely things people think their kids will never do and they just don't know because they aren't there yet. On the other hand, I also believe in addressing behavior and not just ignoring it because kids are kids or whatever (not saying you would do that or were recommending it). That doesn't mean punish to me (necessarily), but it is my job to teach my dd what is and is not appropriate and how to behave, have manners, etc. So, in my world, an ear piercing scream will get you removed from the environment you are in immediately. Then we will deal with it, starting with explaining why we don't do that, etc.

mishka29 · October 2014

Yeah that's totally my kid. I do what I can to control or correct bad behaviour but she's an insane wild child. It can be hard to rein her in sometimes. We had a rough day here, the worst in a long time.

tamarar5 · October 2014

Yes. I have the screamers in our play group. And my kids can reach hypersonic sound. You know them, the ones you can't really hear any more, but they make your bones and filings hurt. And E loves how his voice echoes now.

And I was the one who swore that should my kid melt down in a store, I would leave immediately. Haha. Now I leave as quickly as possible, but I'm not going without my milk, eggs, and bread!

Tulips114 · October 2014

Yea, I've had a lot of "just you wait" moments, but I try to refrain from actually saying it because I hated hearing it.

sjames2 · October 2014

Tulips114 said:
Yea, I've had a lot of "just you wait" moments, but I try to refrain from actually saying it because I hated hearing it.

I too hate hearing it still. But with one friend having a DD almost a year younger and she can't believe what I'm going through and thinks she has advice, is now going through the same things. And another friend who had an easy DS and now has a difficult DD. Makes it hard not to say it. I do refrain until they go through it. Then I say politely DD did that too.

tamarar5 · October 2014

fishes said:

I was a colicky baby so one day my mom was sitting with her MIL and Her MIL's mother (my great grandma), both of whom had many children (like 10 each) so she figured between them they should have a wealth of parenting experience and advice. My grandma proudly told my mom that none of HER children had ever been colicky, but then my great-grandma turned to her and said, "oh really? Well you sure were colicky as a baby."

That is just amazing! I love old people candor! Great Gran for the WIN!

singingsea · October 2014

Psh every time I've thought my kid "would never do that" he's proved me wrong. I've stopped being a mcjudgey pants.

mishka29 · October 2014

Sagen said:
I had a friend who had a daughter, just a completely chill kid. A total sweetheart, but just kind of sat there, insanely good for that reason. At the park she would just so extremely quietly chill by her mom. So this was her first, and took her little adult like manor to be solely based on her superb parent. With that same train of thought the louder, more hyper, more vocal with their displeasure kids were a by products of shoddy parenting.

Then she has her son, from the get go he was not like his sister. She was one of those newborns that magically slept large stretches, and quietly hung out. He was colicky and took a long time to STTN. He became a loud energetic, trantrum throwing toddler. I will admit it was kind of satisfying watching her eat that humble pie if she wasn't on such a vocal high horse before, but man she stopped being so sanctimonious after that!

This makes me laugh! But when I think about my 'balls to the wall' maniac child who goes down the slide head first without a second thought or the shy kid who doesn't leave moms side - I do prefer my adventurous explorer.

brachysira · October 2014

My toddler had 5 meltdowns in the course of a 45 minute music class. No one has said "just you wait" to me in a long time. People usually say things like, "gosh, my kids aren't half as energetic" etc. And I say things like "sorry we ruined your class." Sigh.

fignewt74 · October 2014

Totally get what you're saying with the little ones. But I am actually in the opposite boat with my older DS.

Boys can be energetic and wild (those who might agree @Sagen, @wifeofadam, @DC2London, @ericalee27 ?) So I know how important it is to stay on top of them with consistent discipline. (This is not at all related to any of the prior posts in this thread, but is 100% directed at my next door neighbor who has 2 yo and 4 yo boys.) I am probably MORE Judgy-Mcjudgerson now when I see moms who do not discipline their awful misbehaving kids. It bothers me especially when they are bothering my "well behaved" children, and also when DS1 asks me why those kids don't have to follow the rules like he does (basic stuff like following directions, no throwing rocks, no hitting, etc.) Ugh. SO frustrating.

Rant over.

fignewt74 · October 2014

Sagen said:

I tell my kids different families do different things. It never goes away. Right now it is less little kid hitting, and more their family let's their kids play electronics on school nights, but ours doesn't, different families have different rules. Also their family buys phones for their kids, our family doesn't think it is the right time, it is ok, different family, different rules. I am feel like I am pretty on top of things but I am sure I am sometimes the less strict one. Example my neighbors kids can not leave their yard, my can, though they can't leave our street. They are older though, my 10 year old can leave the yard, and walk a few houses down to her friends house. It might drive my neighbor crazy since her kids can't but, you do what you feel is right. I feel you though with hitting and such. My son is a wrestling all boy kid, and I have to reel him in a lot, but you know he is not perfect. I try, and I hope people see I try, if not none of their business, it is only their business if my kid is directly wrestling theirs. If they are wrestling each other I might tell them to knock it off, and not follow up with a punishment. It is a case by case thing for me, KWIM? I have strict rules with some things, but at home, with my own kids, I think it is my own buisness. No matter how much my kids run crazy out side, or fight at times with each other I am doing something ok. They all never get in trouble at school, awesome grades, well, principals list every.single,trimester! So I semi get your rant, but I don't know maybe I am the annoying neighbor sometimes!

@Sagen - I do not think I am a strict parent at all, but my kids do okay (they listen to me most of the time, do okay in school), as do probably the majority of kids. What my neighbor's kids do is something I have never seen before, and I have seen a lot of boys do a lot of wild/silly things. Tis is to another whole level, I probably wasn't strong enough in my prior post. I have seen these boys:

-hit their mom with a stick

-spit on their babysitter

-kick and punch my kids

-throw my kids' toys down the street

-bite their dad

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