bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
Re: A sunday discussion?
Honestly, it's probably not digs, just awkwardness. I don't think she knows what to think of us ( dh's dad converted and raised his kids protestant). I tend to be too sensitive as in my family, leaving the Catholic church created a lot of family drama.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
You love your daughter the way she is, as any mother should. You believe her CF is part of God's plan. Your GMIL may not be as trusting as you are. She may see it as something scary and turns to faith for comfort. While obviously she is your daughter and you are dealing with all of the troubles and scary things associated with CF first hand, your GMIL can be scared for her great-granddaughter. If she thinks that praying to this person will help your daughter, she is doing it with good intention. She is doing it out of love.
As for the rude comments about you not being Catholic, I am no help there. My husband's family is Lutheran and I get comments from his uncle about how my son is the only great-grandchild who isn't Lutheran and that the Catholic teachings are wrong. I just tell him that I am fine believing differently than him and leave it at that. I do not like to argue about my faith.
Not to high jack your thread but it bothers me when family members do this!! I have an aunt who married and converted to Mormonism. She's always sending me movies or videos about how great it is to be Mormon. I want to tell her lady is just not going to happen stop. I have no problem with it, but stop trying to convert me.
@esd The two faiths are very similar and really can vary based on the actual local church you are in. I have actually studied the differences(a long time ago). I think the most general and simple difference is that in Catholicism the Pope represents Christ on earth and has the power to save, there is a strong emphasis on earning one's place in heaven. Whereas in Protestant fairh, we believe there is no representative needed, we can pray and connect with Christ himself, based on our faith and His grace. We don't need to earn anything, but we chose to live in such a way that reflects our beliefs, and gratitude.
Does that make sense? I'm mobile so forgive the typos I'm sure I missed.
@Pinknights I understand! My grandmother(Catholic) was convinced we were in a cult and wouldn't let us in her house for a while!
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
So far, she hasn't asked us to do anything other than join her in praying to the nun, and inform us that she is asking everyone else she knows to as well. She did send a little card(like a baseball card?) with a picture of the woman and her information on it. No piece of hair or other relic though(that would have certainly made it much more weird!).
After my first post I though back thru the times I had felt like she was making digs, and have realized it was probably more my own sensitivity rather than her intentions to be pushy. Dh has never felt offended, his family has peacefully gotten along in spite of the differences of opinions. My family, had lots of drama when we left the catholic faith and so I tend to cringe at anything that reminds me of it.
The only reason we don't see her more is that she HATES Maine, and New Jersey is a long road trip with a baby. We go to famy events, but would rather spend our vacations elsewhere.
Does that help?
Regardless of the faith differences, as a parent, its hard to hear someone wanting to "cure" your child from something that doesn't have a cure yet. I think that is part of what doesn't sit well. It's an awkward test of faith- if it doesn't work, was it my fault for not believing it could?
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**