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August 2014 Moms
tamarar5
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We need a DH vent!
tamarar5
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Re: We need a DH vent!
Edit: wtf mobile?! What's with the randomly weird words showing up in every post!
DH has generally been an ass to me since he went back to work. You get more sleep than me, and you don't have LO screaming at you/ attached to you half the day. When you are awake make an effort to help and make an effort to not be a dick about everything.
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And you act like I'm pyscjo for wanting help. Im sorry I've worked the past 4 days and work tomorrow and will be up at 4:45am. I'd like to go to sleep before the sun comes back up please and thanks.
And of.course LO is super fussy and wants held.
I loved that show. I wanted Topanga's hair. Thanks for making me feel better.
son#1 born 6/2010
son#2 born 4/2012
son#3 born 7/2014
I feel like I'm on an episode of Sister Wives. Good to know all men are the same.
First, the night. DH decides last minute to attend the going away party for a bartender he is friends with in the city. No problem there, I can handle LO by myself for a few extra hours. We go through bedtime routines, go to sleep.
I get a call at 2 am - DH missed the train and there's not another one til 3 am, he's pissed and he doesn't have his keys. I promise I'll have my phone on so I can let him in when he gets home at 4.
I get a call at 4 am - he fell asleep on the train and is at some other station and there are no cabs. Then his phone dies. Oy. Of course his call has woken LO. So I'm nursing at 4.20, when a cab pulls up and I have to toss DH his keys out the window. He comes in furious (why? at who? no one made you miss the train or fall asleep and then he passeso ut).
I stay awake to work out and then LO is up again for the day at 6.15. At 9, we need to bring my car in for a scheduled appointment to fix the brakes. DH was supposed to do this with his mom, so DS and I could stay home... But now he tells me he's too tired. So I leave the baby with him (that got him awake!) and meet up with MIL to drop the car off and she drops me back at the apartment.
Now DH is calmer, DS is on his lap, but he's fussy and clearly due for his late morning nap - he takes his best nap in the 11-2 range. But DH is talking to him, jiggling him, singing silly songs, keeping him awake, and declaring how great it is to have time with his son. That's great, but you also need to pay attention to the baby's cues!!! And if I say "he's fussy because he's tired!!" I get told that I'm bossing him around. So I am in the living room and he can deal with the baby when the baby goes into a meltdown from missing his nap.
End of rant. Sorry this is very uncharacteristic for me to vent.
So my 6 weeks of paid maternity completed in the middle of September and I am using up my PTO till I go back to work at the end of this month. The other week DH started asking me to call benefits to find out if I was getting paid. I said okay, but mommyhood prevailed, I was busy/occupied/sleeping and forgot to call during business hours.
We get paid last friday and apparently I did not get a check so DH calls me fussing that I didn't get paid and I need to call benefits. I call them, they say they don't deal with PTO and I need to call HR. I call HR and leave a message for my HR guy (remember, it's about 3pm on a friday). Didn't hear back from HR. DH fusses at me more about not having a paycheck and tells me, " Oh well it's a tax free weekend and I was going to buy you that new fridge with the freezer on the bottom, french doors, and a water/ice dispenser, but you didn't get a paycheck so we'll have to wait to get one."
We have some money saved, so we're not destitute without me getting a check. I understand not wanting to spend money that you don't have...but we have the freggin money for a new fridge. If he would have said something about a new fridge earlier, I would have called earlier. It's called INCENTIVE. Also, he KNOWS that I would be going at least 1 pay period without a check b/c I didn't have enough PTO to cover the whole FMLA period. Why is he surprised?
After all his fussing and hanging it over my head he says "Well, we'll wait to get one anyways until we get this porch done." We're putting a new porch on the house....or we will be, we haven't started ANY that process yet either.
GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT DH. Stop jerking me around. When that fridge dies on us and we loose a bunch of our food and any breastmilk I have stored up in the freezer, I'm gonna lose my shiz.
Ugh.