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March 2015 Moms
claireanne89
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My doctor confuses sex and gender
claireanne89
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Should I correct him? This is really common in my obgyn office. They have called my next ultrasound a gender scan several times. They seem to believe there is no difference and they are medical professionals so I feel wierd correcting them. :-/
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Re: My doctor confuses sex and gender
J/K. I do a subtle correction, usually repeating the question back in sentence form but correctly stating sex.
B born 7/15/13, C born 3/2/15, #3 on the way May '17
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Yes I have always thought that too. Haha. Maybe the though of your unborn child having sex one day? Freaks people out.
Interestingly, no one has asked me the gender...or sex. Everyone has asked if we know what we are having, is it a boy or girl, or have we seen a penis. The doctor asked if I wanted to see the baby's genetalia (sp).
The bump (and the knot) are notorious for giving bad info.
Also, you could also raise a genderless child, like @BattyMomma . I agree with Mel's call out and think her input would be valuable here...
For various reasons I have been laying low to avoid confusion and association with certain unsavory individuals, but I am here.
At any rate, the statement above is the one I agree with most. Most of you know I am raising my child Ash without a defined gender until they are able to express a preference in any direction (none at all is fine as well). While this particular issue is not my own, it is something I have thought about quite a lot.
We can talk about biology, if that is what you wish to tell people about after your anatomy scan, for we are discussing anatomy. You can use the words that are appropriate for describing sex organs; penis and vagina.
As our society is still rather confused about all of the ways a human can develop, physically and emotionally, this is the point at which we run into grey zones as a people. Even with the words male and female, which were once strictly in reference to anatomy, we cross into the realm of one's identity rather than their physical bodies. Once we describe those organs, we give our child a piece of their identity whether they like it or not. This is one of the many reasons I have made this choice regarding my child. It may seem extreme to some, but as others have said, if you aren't a part of the solution, you are a part of the problem. I would like my child to be an individual who hasn't made their gender known yet, as the poster above said plainly and eloquently. I hope that my insight was useful to someone.