Positive C/S Article

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

I had a positive(scheduled) c-section experience and DH showed me this article a few minutes ago. https://jezebel.com/an-unnatural-birth-in-praise-of-the-caesarean-section-1644334373

kashock-2 · October 2014

I bawled my eyes out when we started talking about c-sections at 38 weeks when it became clear that LO was going to stay breech for good. We'd been preparing emotionally/physically/mentally for a "natural" water birth. The morning of the scheduled c-section I even underwent an external cephalic version attempt in a last ditch effort to turn the baby (sans epidural- not an enjoyable experience). As I recovered after surgery, it really struck me how in the end, it really mattered SO LITTLE how she got here. I was afraid I would "grieve" for the birth experience I lost, but thankfully that wasn't the case. It's nice to read something positive about c-sections.

Elaina22 · October 2014

Thanks for sharing, @SoSayWeAll‌! I had a csection due to breech position and I'll admit, I was very heart broken at first feeling that I would be missing out on something. I moped for days and even had someone tell me I was taking the easy way out. Then I got over it, and now looking back it was perfect and I feel like I missed nothing. I left the hospital with a beautifully healthy baby girl that I waited a long time for and that is all that matters. I have no thoughts of sadness or disappointment towards that day.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

My LO was also breech but external version was unfavorable(40 weeks, big baby, anterior placenta) I was surprised at how not horrible it was. I can relate to being annoyed people reacting with pity when I tell them I had a c/s or if they tell me I took the easy way out(I guess I should have attempted a breech delivery...?)

mustangchick6504 · October 2014

I had an unplanned csection after pushing for three hours. I'm still a bit bitter about my experience mostly because of my recovery ( or lack there of). I was still taking the maximum dose of tylenol 6 weeks later and my incision is still sore 8 weeks out. I feel like if I would have had a natural birth I would have been able to enjoy my little guy more early on.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

@mustangchick6504‌ I am sorry to hear you've had a rough recovery. I can't imagine going through that. I hope with time you will be pain free.

ungraceful13 · October 2014

I had an emergency c-section after DS's feet fell out when my water broke. As I was aiming for an unmedicated birth and had a doula many people have asked me if I was disappointed in my c-section and honestly I am just thankful he was ok. My recovery was much better than I thought minus not being able to pick up DD. All in all it's good to see something not bashing c-sections.

tamarar5 · October 2014

I had an unplanned c section after 18 hours of labor and 3 hours of off and on pushing, all which ended with a placental abruption. It was exhausting. And I hate it when people now apologize when I say that I had a c. I had a healthy, living baby!!!! When is that ever a bad thing? If I hadn't had a c section, she would have died.

I'm actually looking forward to having that scheduled date if we ever have another baby. Yes, I'd like to try a vbac, but because of the c, my ob said they would be less likely to let me go overdue.

Edit: Gah!!! Why does this phone not like the words AN?!?!

herecomesthesun · October 2014

Thank you for sharing that. I definitely struggle with my feelings on my c-section.

MrsLeahBentley · October 2014

DS was born via CS after 14 hours of labor, my cervix started to swell too much, and I started to spike I fever. I had told DH from the beginning I was going to be open to whatever happens and he should too, because you just can't really plan on what LO is going to to. I remember him tearing up because he was so scared something bad was going to happen, but I'm sure it would have been much worse if I had tried to hold out for a natural birth. Plus, DS was almost 9.5 lbs, so I'm glad I didn't have to worry about how he would have wrecked my lady bits, lol. Every woman has a different experience and that article was seriously the best.

jenniferurs · October 2014

I feel like I'm the opposite. I had no desire to labor and birth vaginally and was not at all disappointed when LO was breech. But I had a terrible recovery and therefore hated my c-section, despite never feeling the need to grieve for any experience lost.

smcsharry15 · October 2014

I had a CS with DS1 because of his heart problem (WPW/SVT) - doctor was afraid labor would stress his heart too much.

Fast forward to DS2.... I chose to have a RCS, my first was super easy. I heard every "oh I'm sorry" variation in the book. We had also decided that I would be getting my tubes tied (I got a lot of grief for that also).

Fast forward to the day of the surgery... And it turns out my uterus had not healed well from my first CS and I had one of the biggest windows my doctor had ever seen. I was told there's no doubt that if I had tried a VBAC that my uterus would have ruptured. I was also told that it was good that I had already decided to tie my tubes because my doctor would have strongly advised me against having more children due to the weakness/integrity of my uterus.

I'm a Christian, and so are the majority of women who were giving me a hard time about my decisions. Now, I just tell them that obviously God had a plan, so STFU about it already.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

@jenniferurs Everyone's experience is different. I am sorry you had a bad recovery

Hopefully you are starting to feel better now and continue to heal as time goes on.

Dawn5481 · October 2014

I felt ok going into my csection. I knew from day 1 I was going to have to have one due to a previous uterine surgery. And my recovery went well. My guilt came after when I found out the surgeon cut LO's face with the scalpel getting her out. I get that shit happens, but it was literally a centimeter from her eye. Her face has healed amazingly well, but had she gone blind, I would have blamed myself for having to have put her in that situation.

SoSayWeAll · October 2014

@Dawn5481 How scary! I was warned about that as a risk by my doctor and it kind of freaked me out. I am glad she's healed well.

Dawn5481 · October 2014

@SoSayWeAll‌ I'm glad you were warned. I wasn't. Side note: It's really hard to punch out a doctor when you can't move the lower half of your body.

AyannaPC · October 2014

I had an awesome pregnancy. I really didn't expect a csection. I labored for 11 hours even though she began to show decels early in the labor process and they did tell me I may have to have a c section. I didn't pay much attention to them. I am terribly afraid of death and any surgeries, anything invasive! When they finally couldn't wait any longer and started wheeling me to the OR, I screamed bloody murder! I had to be sedated it was just too much for me to handle. I felt cheated and as if I missed something. My fiancé was so worried about me he didn't get those first baby pics I wanted and the recovery was brutal. I was swollen for days, hunched over for days. Now that I've recovered, I'm so over it! It was best for baby girl.

Btw I'm new here is there a list of acronyms somewhere because I'm lost on some of those!

rockyrollgirl · October 2014

I used to feel the need to justify my kid's birth story and I know now it was based more so on guilt then anyone actually judging me.

My surgery and recovery went smoothly, my kids were in great hands and I do not regret it one bit.

For those people that are actually snotty about it:
Scheduled or emergency, it is really your and your family's own business. Nobody elses. Keep conversations with those people short.

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