Hot Topic: Teens & Sex

Re: Hot Topic: Teens & Sex

• MissDemeanor member

  October 2014

  @Avswolf‌ If you have a spare minute, maybe you could give the highlights of this article, and what the school "expected" you to do with it? We're you given notice ahead of time?

  

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• shellbell3845 member

  October 2014

  I think sex must be talked about in school. There are too many parents who aren't having that talk at home. My dh's parents didn't. And I bet we can guess what kind of sex ed he got from his Catholic school education. I believe schools should present sex ed that includes abstinence but also methods of birth control, the emotional aspect of sex, the correct names of sex organs, and what to do/how to handle/where to go if you need help (pregnancy, rape, std, etc).

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• kella0708 member

  October 2014

  How F14 feels about school getting involved with this issue?
  
  I think schools should absolutely be involved in sex education. The hospital system I work for has school based health centers and programs dedicated to providing accurate, balanced, sex education. Parents in our community see this as a valuable supplement to their discussions with their children at home.
  
  The education provided is age appropriate and helps students to reduce their risk of unwanted pregnancies and STIs in additional to teaching how to delay the onset of intimate relationships, enhance their relationships, and develop decision making and negotiating skills.
  
  Our school based health programs also provide all types of contraception including insertion of IUDs. These can obtained with or without parental consent.
  
  How do you feel about teens having sex, and do you think there's an appropriate age?
  
  Teens and - believe it or not - preteens are going to have sex regardless of what adults think is appropriate. It's irresponsible to not give them the tools they need to do it in the safest way possible.
  
  It's a long way off, but how do you plan to discuss this with your kids?
  
  I don't think I will ever sit down with my kids and have "the talk." I never did with my parents. Conversations around sex happened naturally because my parents were very open and non judgemental when it came to the topic. Obviously not every child has that luxury and that is why it is so important to have external resources besides ones parents or caregivers when it comes to sex.

  
   

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• sdlaura member

  October 2014

  I agree with some of the PPs - I plan to be open and honest about sex with my kids and give them facts about it, and I also think that in school science and physical education classes, there should be a sex ed component that is based on facts, not fear-mongering.  I got information about sex from both school and my parents and while I probably didn't wait as long as I should have, at least I had enough information to be safe about it.

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• MissDemeanor member

  October 2014

  I have teen nieces and I'm terrified of what's really going on with kids their ages. I mean like 12,13,14. I watched a documentary about this call Sexting, and these girls were giving bj's like high fives. Thinking it was NBD, and they "had" to. I think this could be terribly emotionally damaging and effect their future relationships. Even attitudes about sex, because it seems like a lot of this sexual activity is a one way street.

  
  

  Personally, I think I was too young, and it did effect me. A lot of "sex=love" type stuff, so if he says he loves me, an we're having sex, we're going to get married, etc. I do believe he loved me, and we were in a committed relationship. But when he unexpectedly dumped me, I was beyond devastated. It took me years to recover. I wonder if the physical aspects hadn't been there, if I would have been less confused, damaged, etc. it just don't know...

  

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