What to expect after D&C living child

ChanelA · October 2014

My D&C is scheduled for Tuesday at am... I'm a full time student and I also have a 5 year old. My husband is a firefighter and works the next day (overnight shift) My question is should I be able to return to school the next day? Should I have DD stay with my mother for the day of the procedure and the day after?

KingLED · October 2014

I don't have kids, so I can't really speak to that part, but physically you should rest. So if school isn't physically demanding at all and you're just sitting in class (and not walking too far to get there) then i don't think physically it would be a problem. However, emotionally you might not be ready.

Just take care of yourself and do what you need to do to rest up and heal. Don't try to push yourself in to doing too much too quickly.

AllyDogg · October 2014

I have had a previous d&c for diagnostic reasons, and I was able to go home the same day (about 8 hours later). They say to do light activity as the cervix needs time to close, but I think, if you're well emotionally, you would physically be able to attend your classes. If it was me, I would take the next day to relax and have someone watch DD.

FigureSkater8 · October 2014

I have a 22 month old. You will probably need childcare day-of...as you and your husband (or whoever is with you) will not want to be chasing a child around the hospital. The day after my D&C I was home alone with my 22 month old for the next few days (husband had a work trip) and it was ok. I wanted to be in bed in the morning on the day after but by the afternoon I was playing with him and walking around the house. So it's do-able. My D&C was extremely smooth and I basically had no pain afterward, just bleeding.

As far as school- I'd say you're probably physically able to go if you need to the next day...but emotionally you may not want to.

GingerPop79 · October 2014

I would say physically you should be able to go to school, but you might find staying home and resting is good for you emotionally.

ctk181 · October 2014

I agree with all previous posters. Physically I was fine the next day but emotionally it was rough, so I did take the next day off work. If I were you I would plan to take the day after off from school because your mind just won't be with school work. I think you will be fine to care for your other child though.

ChanelA · October 2014

Thank you ladies for the responses. Eventhough it's midterm week I'm taking the next few days off. Not sure how I'll be able to focus... DD will be home with me tomorrow since DH is off. Wednesday she has to be taken and picked up from gymnastics so I'm just going to have a family member do that for me.

maybebride · October 2014

I just wanted to say I'm glad you are taking a couple of days. Mine was on a Friday and I was glad to have the weekend and I still even took Monday off also. I drove later in the day the day after (after the 24-hour time frame had passed and I was able to take care of DS fine day of and the day after, but I basically rested a lot.

AllyDogg · October 2014

@ChanelA‌ - I had midterms last week, and I took the time off as well. I am a suppose to make then up this week, but I'm not sure I am emotionally ready. Take your time and relax.

nikiswimr · October 2014

@ChanelA‌ I hope you're doing ok after your D&C. Thinking of you

ChanelA · October 2014

Thank you ladies... My D&C was pretty traumatic. I did it at my doctors office and it was just a horrible experience. There was one point that drove me to happy tears. While they were putting me to sleep they were playing my wedding song. The doctor said think of a happy place and it took me back to my first dance on the beach. For two second I felt peaceful. Otherwise the procedure itself wasn't horrible but the over experience was. I am having pretty bad crampy but feeling better. Sometimes I don't feel sad enough other times even a commercial makes me cry. We decided to wait another year before trying again, that's rough on my heart but I understand my husband. I hope you are all doing well!

nikiswimr · October 2014

I'm sorry it's been so tough. I'm getting ready to go through the same thing. I feel your pain. I hope you continue to heal mentally and physically.

maybebride · October 2014

I've had the same ups and downs with emotions. I partially think having another child in the house makes that happen. I can't let myself be sad and wallow all the time with a toddler running around. I don't want him affected like that (though, sometimes it just hits anyway).

I'm glad you got to have that happy place as you went under. Take care of yourself now and be sure to let yourself feel however you need. My husband is very on the fence about ever trying again, so I understand, but it is good to give yourselves time to heal.

ChanelA · October 2014

maybebride said:
I've had the same ups and downs with emotions. I partially think having another child in the house makes that happen. I can't let myself be sad and wallow all the time with a toddler running around. I don't want him affected like that (though, sometimes it just hits anyway).

I'm glad you got to have that happy place as you went under. Take care of yourself now and be sure to let yourself feel however you need. My husband is very on the fence about ever trying again, so I understand, but it is good to give yourselves time to heal.

My daughter has been my saving grace, I know she knows something's up. She has been extra loving and that's been so comforting for me. I took three days off from school, not sure it was the best thing to do because it give new me a lot of alone time. I also know I would never focus in school.

My husband at first said that if trying ASAP was going to make me feel better that's what we would do but he has changed his mind. I understand him the last month has definitely taken a toll on our relationship. As hard as it is we will be waiting till august to try again.

Thank you for the support, tons of blessings and love your way! ((Hugs))

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