Nudity around kids-how old is too old

Plantmommy · October 2014

How old should a kid be when they stop seeing their mom nude? Is it different for a son or daughter?

JNerd · October 2014

DS had a conversation with me the other day while on the potty '[ds] have a penis. Daddy have big penis. [ds] have little penis. Mommy doesn't have a penis.'
I think right now it's okay as he is learning boys and girls are different.
I don't want to teach him shame, or let him think bodies aren't natural.
As for when we will stop, I'm not sure.

klondikebar · October 2014

I don't think there is a specific age. It's fine as long as everyone is comfortable IMO. When one party begins to feel uncomfortable with the situation, it's probably time to cover up.

allrightmeow · October 2014

I think it depends on comfort levels more than anything else. I grew up with all girls and we are all pretty comfortable in varying states of undress around each other still. Our kids range in age 9-3 months. Everyone is cool with it so far. I casually said something to DS 9 about it and he was eh.

ChuggingWater · October 2014

Our oldest is 7, and he might occasionally walk in on me changing, but,by and large, we try to be very cognizant of it.

tattooedtragedy · October 2014

I think we stopped when DD1 was around 5 and mostly because DH wasn't comfortable with it

ladybird765 · October 2014

DS, who's currently 2.5, will probably stop seeing me nude round 4-5. He and his dad can see each other longer though. That is only for full (especially bottom parts) nudity- he can see me in bra and underwear after that. (As long as the underwear's not a thong so it covers my butt.) I will probably make sure dd (8 months) isn't seeing her dad or brother nude by 4-5 yrs old as well. However, DD and I will be seeing each other nude until she leaves for college.

ready-or-not · October 2014

I think its different for every family. I haven't seen my oldest (13) completely nude for 2 years or more. Once she started devolping she became pretty modest. My 6 yo girl & 2 yo boy still shower or bath together most nights, unless the 6 yo asks to shower alone (mostly bc little bro is on her nerves). MS is running around the house naked about 85% of the time so theres no shame in his game! They also still shower with me if we're pressed for time.

MH is pretty discreet with his nakedness bc of the girls, starting at about 3 or 4. My oldest has reached the "OMG MY EYES!!!" stage if she walks in & see me naked lol

wesleycrusher · October 2014

threelittlewheels said:

ladybird765 said:

DS, who's currently 2.5, will probably stop seeing me nude round 4-5. He and his dad can see each other longer though. That is only for full (especially bottom parts) nudity- he can see me in bra and underwear after that. (As long as the underwear's not a thong so it covers my butt.) I will probably make sure dd (8 months) isn't seeing her dad or brother nude by 4-5 yrs old as well. However, DD and I will be seeing each other nude until she leaves for college.

Maybe it is my own issues, but something about this, maybe the specificity like Hawkard said, made me slightly uncomfortable.

The wording is weird. I think it's the fact that you're assuming that she'll want you to see her nude. I don't think you can just assume your DD will be comfortable with that, even if you are ok with her seeing you. FWIW, I've always seen my mom nude, she doesn't care, but when I was a teen there were a few years in there where I was more modest. ETA: and my mom respected that.

Maebb · October 2014

DS just learned the word for "nipple," and he pointed to DH's and said, "Daddy's nipple." Then he said, "I wanna see Mommy's nipple." I showed him, but I felt weird about it. He's 22 months. He's asked a few times again, but I said no because I think it's weird. I've still changed in front of him or walked around in my bra and underwear because he doesn't seem to notice or care, but I am not going to show him my boob when he asks to see it.

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Maebb · October 2014

aditigirl said:

Maebb said:
DS just learned the word for "nipple," and he pointed to DH's and said, "Daddy's nipple." Then he said, "I wanna see Mommy's nipple." I showed him, but I felt weird about it. He's 22 months. He's asked a few times again, but I said no because I think it's weird. I've still changed in front of him or walked around in my bra and underwear because he doesn't seem to notice or care, but I am not going to show him my boob when he asks to see it.
I mean, don't show him if you don't want to show him. But I feel like you're sexualizing something that's not sexual. He's asking out of curiosity; that's normal. I think ypu have to be careful making body parts off limits so young, you don't want to teach him that it's "bad" or "dirty". It's a nipple. We all have em.

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Yeah, I don't think he thinks of it in a sexual way. He also takes off my shoes to see my feet, and I think it's no different to him. It just made me feel weird.

Like I said, I still change in front of him, and I will likely nurse in front of him in January. I just don't want him to get the idea that he can walk up to a girl (or anyone) and ask to see a body part and that they're obligated to show him.

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taggiecb · October 2014

DS1 is 10, and he is starting to not want to see us naked. He makes a point to make sure no one is in the bathroom when he goes in etc. He does not, on the other hand, have any issues with us seeing him naked. We had to implement a no naked kids down stairs rule, because all three of them would walk around in the buff all day every day.

NNGnome · October 2014

I willl probably just wing it. DS1 is becoming aware of body differences, and will often point to my boobs and say mummy has boobies to feed Ds2, and He and daddy don't have boobies. I find if cute. I plan to pretty open and change in front of the boys for a while yet, it will probably change when they get more aware/shy about their bodies, I would guess around 5-10ish, I think it really depends on the kid, but I think right now I am fine with the boys being curious, at this age one body part is no different from the other.

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SuperTreesa · October 2014

DD1 is 4 and asks ALL the questions. Seriously, we even had to buy the Its Not The Stork book because her questions were nonstop. MH tries to keep the girls out when he showers because he is uncomfortable. I'm not worried. I was raised in a house with all girls and my mom didn't have an major modesty around us either.

FrickandFrack · October 2014

I change in front of the boys still. I don't make it weird, I just change and keep on doing what I'm doing .

carrotcake06 · October 2014

When I was growing up, it was just my mom, sister and I and being naked was nbd. Now that I'm the only girl in a house full of boys - I don't know.

My oldest is 4.5 and I still change and shower in front of him. I'm going to do what I normally do with new parenting frontiers - if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Once it "breaks", then I'll reassess. But for right now, it's working okay.

Meeshe · October 2014

Around age 5, I encouraged my husband to try to be more discreet. I don't want it to be a huge deal if she walks in and he's in the shower for example, but I would like him to wear a towel coming out if she's in there for example. Working on encouraging her to knock, etc. She can be around me naked as long as she's not uncomfortable. I don't actively seek it out but if I'm changing and my mom or sister are around, so be it. My son is not yet 4, I assume the same will be true. Around 5 I will try to limit being naked in front of him.

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