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I want to hibernate

CandST2014CandST2014 member
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I'm sorry to do this, I just need to vent for a minute.

For the last few weeks, I've been feeling great. Been excited and hopeful as we have a plan to do another IUI in the next few weeks. I felt like I was coping with the loss well and was so excited for what is hopefully to come. Then came today. I came home from work, fell asleep for an hour, woke up and checked Facebook. First thing I see is a message from my best friend telling me her 12 week appt was great. Next, I see a coworker announce she's expecting. Then, I see some stupid post about the pregnant Duggar girl. This whole full moon lunar eclipse thing is throwing me for a loop. 


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  • jjbmstincojjbmstinco member
    Sorry that you are having a rough time. I hope it passes quickly. 

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    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
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  • MSU_Girl1202MSU_Girl1202 member
    Big ((hugs)) lady
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
    08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN  ,
    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d      
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
    2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
    6/21/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
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  • yellowcat10yellowcat10 member
    It all can blindside you sometimes.  I have decided to move to my couch with my cats.  I also avoid facebook like the plague.  There are a lot of bad days mixed in with the good, and hopefully you will have more good than bad.
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  • paintdadantapaintdadanta member
    Facebook can be a danger zone sometimes. I think I finally counted about 15 announcements in a two week period show up on mine so I decided to take a break for a few weeks. If it is always the same people though you can unfollow them so you don't get their updates but remain friends so you can check on them when you are in a good place. ((Hugs)) it's not stupid though many of us have been in the same place, you just have to hang on tight and you'll get through this one step at a time.
    Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.

    BFP #1 05/19/14, EDD 01/19/15, MMC 06/12/14 

     BFP #2 10/10/14, EDD 06/19/15

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  • CreechMommyCreechMommy member
    ((hugs)) so sorry.  I've been through that too, with lots of people close to me announcing pregnancies.  It's such a hard place to be.  There's no "right" way to deal with it.  For me, I have to distance myself from those people for now.  I am happy for them, but I can't deal with it for a while.  Do whatever you need to do.  

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    TTC since February 2014
    BFP #1 4-22-14  EDD 1-1-15
    8w u/s 5-22-14 Baby measuring 6w1d. Heartbeat detected
    Went to Dr. 5-30-14 due to bleeding. Prescribed progesterone
    Went to ER 6-1-14 2:30 AM - diagnosed with incomplete m/c
    6-6-14 natural m/c completed
    10-24-14 BFP #2 EDD 7-6-15 **Please** be our Rainbow 

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  • alm288alm288 member
    I'm sorry - been there too. Lots of announcements in the family. I'm happy for them, but honestly, don't want to hear about it. Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself (((Hugs)))
    TTC: Since July 2013
    BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
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  • uromysuromys member
    I'm sorry you were having a rough day. I hope today is a little better! (((Higs))) Take care!

    DH & I are both 28    Together: 12 years    Married: 09/24/2011

    BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012

    Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12

    BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20

    BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15

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  • CandST2014CandST2014 member
    Thank you, everyone! These feelings just came out of nowhere but as you all said, I'm sure it will pass. Hugs to you all!
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  • bunnybun4bunnybun4 member

    so sorry you are having a rough time...like pp's have said sometimes it is really healthy to take a break from FB...when I do it really helps with my anger towards other people.

    big ((hugs))

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    8/14- Surpise IF dx...low AMH (.24)- moving on to IVF

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  • Discouraged31Discouraged31 member
    I had to stop following dozens of people on facebook because it was too heartbreaking with all the u/s pics and announcements each day.. we also stopped watching a few of our fav tv shows because characters have been getting pregnant.. you can't avoid everything and everyone unfortunately, but you can prevent it as much as possible to make it easier ((hugs))
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  • CandST2014CandST2014 member
    ((((Hugs))) you all rock
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  • skategirl128skategirl128 member
    Big hugs! Facebook can be a tough place.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    I'm sorry.   Big Hugs.   I freaking hate Facebook sometimes and can't handle it.
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