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Informing the family

emilyann2123emilyann2123 member
in May 2015 Moms
how did you go about telling your family you were pregnant and was it a shock to anyone's family.it seems that most of you here are married or engaged.i am 21 and the father of my child is 32 and i am terrified that my father will try to kill him.i am well aware that i am a grown woman and i am excited for this baby but i know telling them will cause stress that is bad for me and the baby.i live with my parents for now after i got really sick and had to move back in for a bit.any advice would be wonderful.
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  • blackbird818blackbird818 member
    My situation is not your situation; I'm sure our families will be shocked (in a good way) when we tell them on Saturday bc we've been struggling with IF for two years and suffered a mc previously.

     I think the only thing you can do at this point is be upfront & honest with your parents. In you situation, it might be better for you to tell them by yourself. Since you live with them, they are going to figure it out sooner or later; it's better to tell them now. I would expect them to be upset initially, but I'm sure they will come around in time.

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    My brother and my mother already knew. We had a family reunion and I knew my dad would pray before we all ate (he's the preacher of the family) before he prayed i gave him a shirt that said "The Grandfather" like the godfather in front of everyone. Everyone including my dad cried and were so excited.

    But like you said, I'm married so it was all good reactions!

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  • mrshall1027mrshall1027 member
    I can see how you would be nervous to tell them, but I agree with PP and think you should tell them sooner than later.  It sounds like you may need/want their support and even if they are upset in the beginning, I am sure they will come around for you.  Good luck!
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  • Gabriel1217Gabriel1217 member
    So I'm single. My family never met the dad, the dad is not going to be in the picture. I am not looking forward to telling my family. They will be disapointed, but they will come around. I'm waiting till January and banking on sweaters to help me out there. So I get where you are coming from with the nerves and stuff
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  • lysser1218lysser1218 member
    I am kind of in a similar boat. I am 24 (almost 25) and I am not married, live at home still, but I have a good job.

    My boyfriend, who is 27, and I have been together for 8 years. He was not happy at all when I told him and we fought for a week on it. Finally he is okay, not great though lol. Anyways a few days after I found out I just blurted it out to my mother when we were alone. I couldn't hold it in anymore I thought I was going to explode. I feel much better she knows and I can be excited now. My step dad still has no idea and we both dread telling him. She was upset for like 10 minutes but got over it quickly.

    My sister accidentally saw my positive pregnancy test picture in my phone and she was worse than my mother. She lectured me and originally told me to "get rid" of it ... Which I immediately had choice words for her lol. She is finally excited but still voices her concerns.

    As for the rest of my family, we just had a baptism and I felt like I was betraying them not sharing but I'm not ready. My boyfriends family has noooo idea. I don't want to tell them because I know that they want be happy at all. I plan to hold it in until thanksgiving or Christmas if I can.

    In all you should tell at least one person, but I don't think you need to spread to word if you aren't comfortable yet. It helps to get someone on your side. Just remember it is what you want that matters not anyone else.
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  • emilyann2123emilyann2123 member
    Pintobean39 said:

    Capitalization is your friend.


    My family is excited but I'm 40 and it's my husbands first. I did get preg at 18 and was unmarried. My mom freaked at first but she came around. She was so supportive the whole pregnancy, she actually almost beat us to the hospital when I was in labor.

    i am channeling e.e. cummings. i don't care for capitalization unless absolutely necessary because it looks odd to me and that had nothing to do with my post but thanks for the advice. (:
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  • emilyann2123emilyann2123 member
    we are going to tell them very soon because i have to get my Medicaid and everything in order so i can start seeing a doctor.i am excited for this baby and i believe my family will be too.i am pretty much the other parent to my ex girlfriend's son and my parents have accepted my mixed child as one of their own which shocked me but i am proud of how far they have come.
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