Maybe this will make someone feel more hopeful? (BFP--not mine--mentioned)

Davie813 · October 2014

Because it's not doing anything like that for me.

Apparently my office neighbor is pregnant at 46--she may actually have turned 47--and I have to admit that while I'm kind of impressed, I'm not the eensiest, teensiest, weensiest, most microscopic bit happy for her.

Sad, jealous, and half-tempted to close my office door and cry are more where I am.

But this is exacerbated by the fact that, although we get along OK, she's definitely not on my "All-Time Favorite People" list. For those of you who don't know either of us, though, and are nicer than I am to start with--yay, it can be done? I'm pretty sure, for several reasons, that there wasn't any kind of fertility treatment involved either...

Not sure what the right emoji for this one is: ^:)^ ? >:P ? %-( ?

( ? Maybe the default:

Davie813 · October 2014

clgsquared said:

This is pretty much how I feel every time one of my students comes to me and says they are pregnant.
Hugs

Thanks! How old are your students?

Davie813 · October 2014

clgsquared said:

Davie813 said:

clgsquared said:

This is pretty much how I feel every time one of my students comes to me and says they are pregnant.
Hugs

Thanks! How old are your students?

15-18

Not quite as impressive in the biological sense, but more of an ouch factor in other ways! Hearing that must get old, all right.

tmorash · October 2014

@Davie813 Yeah, that's pretty much how I'd be feeling too. On CD2 I was sitting down being totally bummed about my BFN when I get a message that my cousin and his new wife (my age) are apparently expecting a baby now. I wrote back "exciting!!" but wow was I ever not excited. I mean, I'm happy for them on some level obviously, but...well, just impatient and sad for myself I guess.

Hugs to you.

kindershlitz · October 2014

Ugh. Sorry. Time to cut out early? It's 5 o'clock somewhere.

I recently learned the same info about someone (who is only 30 or so) I find particularly witchy and I understand the feeling.

siennamom · October 2014

Yep, that's how I feel too. It seems like everyone I work with is either pg, or has recently had a baby... Or maybe I just notice it more now that in TTC. Sux all around

Sorry @Davie813‌

lcwed · October 2014

I'm sorry. I would be bummed too. Don't stress about how you feel too much. Sometimes you just need a little whine with your wine.

edited because sometimes I talk too much.

emsmama15 · October 2014

Since I work in a hospital, there are about 250 women who work in our unit. To keep track of all the pregnancies, we have a "Baby Train" in our break room. Basically each pregnant mama gets a train car along the top of the room. Since I've been trying that damn thing just keeps getting LONGER AND LONGER AND LONGER! Seriously!?

While I can appreciate the "hopefulness" of a 46-47 year old getting pregnant, I'm sorry you're dealing with this, especially since she's not your fave.

URMySunshine77 · October 2014

I'm sorry, @Davie813. Your office mates sound really peachy. /:)

TAT2MAMI · October 2014

Big hugs to you @Davie813
It does sting a bit when I hear of a new pregnancy around me, regardless of how old they are!!

Davie813 · October 2014

clgsquared said:

Well it is impressive because wouldn't you know they all didn't know how it happened because they were all using protection :-?

Ah, yes. A whole other kind of miracle!

URMySunshine77 said:

I'm sorry, @Davie813. Your office mates sound really peachy. /:)

To be fair, they are in fact mostly quite nice. But I think I actually have grumbled about this one (the Office Gossip) in a non-TTC-related thread on here back in the day... If it were someone else, I really do think I'd be encouraged by her pregnancy. Since it's not, I really do hope someone else might be.

URMySunshine77 · October 2014

My MIL is visiting and showed me a beautiful Facebook picture of a family friend who is probably five months pregnant. I asked her how old she is, and she said 38. I almost burst out crying but had to collect myself.

Davie813 · October 2014

URMySunshine77 said:

My MIL is visiting and showed me a beautiful Facebook picture of a family friend who is probably five months pregnant. I asked her how old she is, and she said 38. I almost burst out crying but had to collect myself.

I'm sorry. Hugs! >:D<

URMySunshine77 · October 2014

@Davie813: After the fact I reminded myself that I don't know her journey. Maybe she has been TFAS for two years?

SillySally24 · October 2014

@Davie813 - sorry and hugs. I can relate as well. We have a youngish couple (well to me they're young) and hippie-dippie-ish (she is, he's just goofy) that come in, he's a patient. She comes to every appt with him, and decided to start knitting because they're getting ready to start trying for a baby. Following month they come in - she's knocked up. I can't be happy for them what-so-ever, because she annoys me too much...

verdongirl · October 2014

Oh... the women at my church are the same. You could blow on half of them and they'd be up the duff. (Did I just type that??) My best friend is 39 and had 3 in the last five years.

We were actually cool and doing the whole working-dinks-not-phased-by-cultural-pressure-etc thing... until both of our Moms died in the same year. And... I just started caving. You're not alone. Trust.

maybebaby3 · October 2014

I have a younger office mate (older 20s) with one child. She and husband "just can't decide" if they want to have another. Every other day I listen to the laundry list of reasons why they shouldn't have another (they're enjoying finally being able to sleep in, light at the end of the all-day childcare tunnel, she wipes her own rear-end, etc.) On the alternate days, I get to listen to her whine about really wanting to have another and needs advice on helping convince her husband to "give it a shot." Some days I want to crawl in a hole; while I haven't been on the TTC train as long as some ladies here, I really feel like I took my fertility for granted for the last 10+ years. I can't help but think I waited too late and am simply waiting for co-worker to announce a pregnancy to the office. More days than none, that would probably be just enough to send me off the hormonal deep end!!

tmorash · October 2014

@verdongirl Ha! I know what you mean. I've never felt much external cultural pressure to have a child, and for a long time was just carrying on thinking I'd decide later. I've never definitively plannned on a child-free life, but was taking it as it came. And now that I've decided I want kids (or at least one kid)? Well, turns out I'm a worrier...

@maybebaby3 I'm basically just waiting for my best friend to "lap" me, so to speak. She has one child already and told me last month that they'll start TTC #2 in November. I have this vision of her announcing her pregnancy, having a model 9 months, and giving birth to a perfect baby girl (they already have a son) while I'm still TTC. :-O

kelley72 · October 2014

Just hugs and to me it sounds completely normal to have negative/mixed feelings about someone (that we don't particularly care for) that is having a joyous occasion while we are not. Just vent here and then hopefully your can emotionally move on... best wishes

Davie813 · October 2014

URMySunshine77 said:

@Davie813: After the fact I reminded myself that I don't know her journey. Maybe she has been TFAS for two years?

Yes, it's always good to remember that we don't know what other people are going through, and not just when it comes to TTC. Hard to do though, sometimes...

C_Girlie · October 2014

@Davie813‌ we all need a group hug. I work in a nursing home so there's plenty of females working here. This morning I wasn't too happy. I'm extremely mad at DH. We bd on Sat., but I had a feeling I would o on Sunday or Monday. So both of those days I attempted to bd with DH, he denied me both days. Then last nite he wants to come sniffing around trying to bd. I flat out told him NO, and I told him he's always interested when I'm not fertile . It seams like every few cycles I have to tell him there about 2-3 fertile days each cycle. So even though Saturday is still a decent timing day I wanted to better my chances. This morning a very pg coworker who has also suffered with SIF like myself is pg with twins. She's younger than me and I can't help but to be extremely envious and jealous. She worked on my unit with me for an hour or so. Shortly after that two more very pg coworkers came into my unit. I feel like I'm being tortured with the pg ladies. I can't escape the madness. I just wanna go into the bathroom and cry, not that that would change the way I feel, this blows

tmorash · October 2014

That totally blows, @C_Girlie. I wish I had some advice or better words of encouragement, but hang in there and at least you got some good BDing done! Big hugs to you.

C_Girlie · October 2014

Thx @tmorash‌

Davie813 · October 2014

C_Girlie said:

@Davie813‌ we all need a group hug. I work in a nursing home so there's plenty of females working here. This morning I wasn't too happy. I'm extremely mad at DH. We bd on Sat., but I had a feeling I would o on Sunday or Monday. So both of those days I attempted to bd with DH, he denied me both days. Then last nite he wants to come sniffing around trying to bd. I flat out told him NO, and I told him he's always interested when I'm not fertile . It seams like every few cycles I have to tell him there about 2-3 fertile days each cycle. So even though Saturday is still a decent timing day I wanted to better my chances. This morning a very pg coworker who has also suffered with SIF like myself is pg with twins. She's younger than me and I can't help but to be extremely envious and jealous. She worked on my unit with me for an hour or so. Shortly after that two more very pg coworkers came into my unit. I feel like I'm being tortured with the pg ladies. I can't escape the madness. I just wanna go into the bathroom and cry, not that that would change the way I feel, this blows

Group hug! >:D< >:D< >:D<

I'm sorry about your coworkers, and about DH. Did he not understand about the timing? Or is it a performance anxiety thing?

C_Girlie · October 2014

His approach is all messed up. He's acting like I'm 30 and I have plenty of time on my side. He keeps saying "it will happen when the time is right don't stress it". Damnit I'm stressing I'm 38 & my eggs aren't getting any better. He makes excuses left and right. In the past it was we don't have the finances. Now it's were buying our first house and I can't have you out of work. So today I flat out asked him "so does this mean no to having another baby"? His response "we will have plenty of time to bone". My response "I'm trying to bone to create a human". I don't want to turn him off by talking about this all the time, but I need more clarity

Davie813 · October 2014

Ugh, I'm sorry. If it helps at all (which it probably doesn't) 38 seems young in my book! It's not so dire.

Still, I'm sorry your DH is being frustrating. I hope you guys can figure out what his reservations are and get it together! >:D<

emsmama15 · October 2014

Oh my god. Your husband reminds me of mine. He actually told me he'd prefer we have a baby born in a certain month and we should wait. Huh? I responded that I'm not of an age or a diagnosis that makes that a feasible idea. MEN!

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