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2nd baby....Shower?

baby2fochlerbaby2fochler member
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We are pregnant with our second baby and just wondering what people thoughts are about having a shower for the second baby? My mother says that you don't have a second shower and we really don't need anything besides diapers :) I just think that a shower is a way to celebrate another phase of life and another baby...
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Re: 2nd baby....Shower?

  • tamarar5tamarar5 member
    You'll find on the bump, most people STRONGLY disapprove of having a second (or subsequent) baby shower. There are people who will approve if the second baby is of the other sex, but mostly it's frowned on.

    Personally, I think that's silly. If you're having your 2+ baby, and someone wants to throw a shower, why not. But it's ALWAYS poor manners to throw your own shower, or to ask someone to do it. ;)
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  • bookworm982bookworm982 member
    The decision isn't yours unless someone offers to their a shower. I didn't have one for my second and won't for this baby either. That said, I would have loved a small meet the baby get together after #2 was born, and that is what I'd suggest if anyone offers to throw you a shower. In my thinking, showers are for first time moms and maybe for moms who have had a big gap between kids and given away everything already.
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  • baby2fochlerbaby2fochler member

    In no way am I asking someone to throw a shower for us (I didn't ask for the first one either, the whole being the center of attention is just not my thing), but my mother has asked but then said she didn't know if she should because its the second baby. We didn't find out what we were having with the first and we wont with the second... what I said to my mother, what about a sip and see for after the baby is born that way we will know what we have


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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    It's poor etiquette to have a second shower.  A shower is to welcome a new mom to motherhood not to welcome each baby.  People will most likely buy you stuff without feeling obligated.  

    A sip and see after the baby is fine.  
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  • FemShepFemShep member
    Nope. Nope nope nope nope. A shower isn't to celebrate a new baby's life; that would be a meet the baby party held after birth so that the guest of honor can actually attend. :) A shower's purpose is to welcome a new mom to motherhood by helping to provide her with essentials she'll need. If you will have 2U2, you are neither a new mom, and you really shouldn't be needing much else. (And yes, showers are always gift-giving events-they are named for SHOWERing someone with gifts.) If you really want to celebrate the new LO, have a meet the baby party. Don't have a shower, even if someone offers. If people want to buy you gifts for the new baby, they don't need a shower to do so.
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  • jesselayne8jesselayne8 member
    I had a sprinkle for baby #2. If someone wants to through you one, I think it's rude to refuse.


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