I am so upset and angry (BFP mentioned, not mine) AW

Re: I am so upset and angry (BFP mentioned, not mine) AW

• BlondeAmbition1 member

  October 2014

  There isn't much I could say that can make it make sense but I just want to commiserate with you. It's a really unfair situation and I'm sorry that it causes you pain.

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• martinisandmedicine member

  October 2014

  I'm sorry. It's so frustrating when this happens.

  
  

  
  

  TTC #1 since summer 2012 | Male Factor Infertility | IVF 2015
  

  "You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope. For you alone I think and plan."

  
  

  
  

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• theholmanherd member

  October 2014

  That's awful I'm so sorry.

  Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
  PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole

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• Hollowvic member

  October 2014

  I Know how incredibly frustrating it is. Nothing I say will make you less upset right now, I feel for ya. Hugs and wine for you. Seriously, do you have wine? Tonight sounds like a good night for it.

  
  

  TTC #1

  Me: AMA, DH: MFI

  Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis

  IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13 

  3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!

  ****All Welcome****

  

  
  

  
  

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• BandM14 member

  October 2014

  I'm so sorry, how incredibly frustrating. It's **so** unfair that we have to struggle so hard for something that comes so easily to many. I hope you have some wine tonight and process the news so that you can feel a little better tomorrow. HUGS to you!

  Me: 27 DH: 35

  TTC #1 Since July 2013

  Started RE Testing July 2014

  2 HSG tests: Right tube is blocked, possible endo.

  TSH elevated, started Synthroid 25 mg daily.

  October, 2014: Femara 5 mg + TI ---> 3 follies on blocked tube side ---> BFN

  November, 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI#1--2 follies (on the good side), 46 mil. motile sperm=BFN

  Nov-Dec 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #2 (1 follie, 76 mil. motile sperm) + Endometrin=BFN

  January, 2014: Femara + Ovidrel + IUI #3 (1 follie, 38 mil. motile sperm)=???

  New RE appt. scheduled for 1/14.

  
  

  3T January Siggy Challenge: New Years Resolutions

  Mine: Lose the weight I put on from booze and cookies over Christmas.

  
  

  
  

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• stace2524 member

  October 2014

  Ugh! So frustrating and so unfair! But great that you and your family are helping out to make her current child's life better. Hugs!

  ***pregnancy and loss mentioned***

  
  

  Me: 31 DH: 31

  Dx: unexplained IF

  TTC since March 2013 

  IUI#1 with OB: BFN (April 2014 - clomid 50mg)

  IUI#2 with OB: BFN (June 2014 - clomid 50mg)

  IUI#3 with OB: BFN (July 2014 - clomid 50mg)

  IUI#4 with RE: BFN (August 2014 - clomid 50mg, ovidrel 250mcg, Crinone 8%)

  IVF #1 with pICSI in November

  ER 11/13 - 14R, 13M, 11F

  ET 11/19 - 2 grade AA hatched blasts transferred

  Beta #1: 58 - BFP!!, Beta #2: 140, Beta #3: 347, Beta #4: 931

  First u/s 12/19 - baby measuring 6w4d with HR of 116

  Second u/s 12/29 - baby measuring only 7 weeks, no heart beat detected

  01/02/15 - misoprostol administered vaginally

  
  

  
  

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• MARISAV77 member

  October 2014

  As with the other ladies here-sending you hugs too. It made me mad reading your post, it's so unfair when people who shouldn't be having kids have them so easily while those who would be perfect parents have such a hard time becoming pregnant!

  Me: 37 DH: 37, married since Sept. 2013. "actively" TTC for a total of 13 months (after 7 months of TTC, took a 1 1/2 year hiatus due to work scheduling and wedding planning. Started up again after our wedding in Sept.) First evaluation by an RE November 2013

  
  

  HSG-normal

  OH-tiny polyp found, but RE assured me she doesn't think it's contributing to infertility and doesn't recommend me to remove it because it's so small.

  DH's SA-normal

  Hormones all within normal levels

  Ovarian Reserve-RE says "is great" she's not concerned about my egg quantity (which I was until I saw her and results came back good!) 

  
  

  04/2012 50mg Clomid=BFN (prescribed by OBGYN, not monitored)

  06/2012 50mg Clomid=BFN (prescribed by OBGYN, not monitored)

  11/2013 100mg Clomid, with HCG trigger=BFN (prescribed by RE, monitored with US (2 dominant follicles) and baseline bloodwork done)

  01/2014 100mg Clomid, with HCG trigger-(prescribed by RE, monitored with US-1 dominant follicle)=BFN

  06/2014 7.5mg Letrozole, HCG trigger (prescribed by RE, monitored with US-2 dominant follicles), IUI #1 on 7/3/14=BFN

  07/2014 7.5mg Letrozole, benched for IUI#2 this cycle, because I ovulated on my own before my follicular US. Progesterone suppositories=BFN Diagnosed with PCOS this month too. Testosterone levels high at 76. =( 

  08/2014 7.5mg Letrozole, HCG trigger with 19mm follicle. IUI#2 on 8/31 cancelled last minute due to family emergency. 

  09/2014 Taking a 3 month break starting this month. If not pregnant in 3 months, will start up again with medicated cycles and IUIs. Had all my labs and AFC re-evaluated this month also. RE says nothing much has changed since my eval last November, okay for me to take a little break.  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Shauntee member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  My DH snd I have witnessed something similar. It is so frustrating. I am sending you hugs.

  Me-33 DH-36.

  Married 11/10 TTC 11/10

  06/11- diagnosed with PCOS 

  7/11- D&C and benched for a year 

  9/12-4/13-6 rounds of 50 mg Clomid- no sucess 

  6/13- new doc

  7/13-4/14- 6 more rounds of Clomid. 50 mg and then stepped up to 100mg- no success 

  5/14-7/14- took break waiting for new insurance 

  7/14-new insurance= new doc- actually a RE!!!! 

  7/14-HSG and blood test good-PCOS confirmed by new doc 

  10/14 looking forward to 1st IUI w/ Menopur. Blood Test= Negative
  11/14- IUI #2 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
  1/15- IUI # 3 w/ Menopur- Blood Test= Negative
  2/15- Self Benched this cycle
  3/15/15-Suprise BFP on natural cycle!!!! EDD-11/16/15
  
  

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• emmej313 member

  October 2014

  I know how you feel.  My sister had a baby when she was 17 (she's 21 now).  Don't get me wrong, I love my nephew, but it always upsets me when she spends multiple days in a row out partying with my parents, my other sister and other family members watching him.  I try not be jealous, but it is hard.  If DH and I had a baby we would love and care for him/her so much, and watching parents that don't is infuriating.
  

  Me: 28 DH: 28

  Married: 6 years

   TTC since: Sept 2010

  Diagnosis: Stage 4 Endometriosis, Hashimoto's

  Treatment: Lupron (3/2010 – 9/2010 & 7/2013 – 2/2014)

  April 2013 - BFP – missed mc confirmed 5/08/2014. D&C 5/22/2014

  Sept/Oct 2014: IUI #1 (Gonal F + HCG) = BFN

  Oct/Nov 2014: Temporarily Benched due to multiple cysts on each ovary.

  Nov 27: IUI #2 (Gonal F + HCG) = BFP

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• dancerspose member

  October 2014

  How incredibly frustrating!  I'm so sorry.  DH's sister has 4 kids by 3 different guys (never been married).  IF is so unfair!

  Me: 31 (PCOS) possible right tube issues DH: 36 (SA normal) 

  Started dating in 2006, Married 2012 

  TTC since November 2013 

  First RE visit due to irregular periods: June 2014

  Lap/Hysto to remove polyps, cyst and tube blockage 11/6

  Cycle 1 (Dec. 2014) TI with Clomid, Trigger, & Progesterone CX due to no response

  Impatiently Waiting CD1 to try again with Fermara Back on the bench due to giant cyst,

  who know I'd ovulate on my own after a cancelled cycle and end up with a mega cyst

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• MoseyAnkles member

  October 2014

  I can relate, my best friend has bi-polar disorder and got pregnant twice by her bf (not planned). She then would leave the kids at home and drive out to the country and was picked up by the cops in an incoherent state. They promptly checked her into a hospital. It's so sad and I worry for those kids all the time. (She is out of the hospital and still cares for them).

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• yepitsme215 member

  October 2014

  Thanks everyone for your responses. I am so frustrated. I just feel like she has shit all over our family and still gets whatever she wants argh. 

  Me: 24 

  DH:25

  TTC for over a year with PCOS. We'll see what happens. 

  November 3 2014-finally going to see an RE!

  
  
  

  Favorite villain: Alex from A Clockwork Orange

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• yepitsme215 member

  October 2014

  I'm having a glass of red wine and a handful of chocolate chips (I didn't have any of the good stuff) thank you all for the support, it means a lot.

  Me: 24 

  DH:25

  TTC for over a year with PCOS. We'll see what happens. 

  November 3 2014-finally going to see an RE!

  
  
  

  Favorite villain: Alex from A Clockwork Orange

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• mshandlebar member

  October 2014

  I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It is unfair. But it is amazing that you are there for your sister's kid despite everything that is going on. You rock! So do chocolate chips and red wine!

  ****SIGGY WARNING****
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  TTC since May 2013
  Me: 31, blocked tube
  DH: 35, azoospermia
  IUI #1 (50 mg Clomid, Ovidrel) on 9/7/2014: BFN
  IUI #2 (100 mg Clomid, Ovidrel) on 10/3/2014: BFN
  IUI #3 (100 mg Clomid, Ovidrel, Estradiol) on 11/1/2014: BFN
  First RE appt. on 11/11/2014
  November 2014: Benched due to cyst
  IUI #4 (5 mg Letrozole, Follistim, Ovidrel, Crinone) on 12/26/2014: BFP!!!
  Beta 1 (1/9/2015): 292     Beta 2 (1/12/2015): 843
  
  
  

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• Ann612 member

  October 2014 edited October 2014

  Fertility doesn't seem to play fair, does it?  I'm so sorry.

  
  

  (and why is she having another kid when she can't take care of the first?!)

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• yepitsme215 member

  October 2014

  Ann612 said:

  Fertility doesn't seem to play fair, does it?  I'm so sorry.

  
  

  (why is she having another kid when she can't take care of the first?!)

  Yes! That is my thought exactly. Aside from that, she has anger problems, does drugs and is just all around immature. She smoked weed throughout her pregnancy with my niece, (at 16!) which resulted in early labor and brain development problems. I'm sure the second won't be much different. 

  Me: 24 

  DH:25

  TTC for over a year with PCOS. We'll see what happens. 

  November 3 2014-finally going to see an RE!

  
  
  

  Favorite villain: Alex from A Clockwork Orange

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• wannabeamother member

  October 2014

  HUGS! I'm sorry to hear what your family is going through but like @NariaDreaming‌ said hopefully some good will come of her being pregnant second time around. My sister is Bipolar and without trying or anything she got pregnant with her now husband. It's hard to understand how some people just get pregnant and I'm so envious of those lucky women.

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• mmmKayy member

  October 2014

  I'm so sorry, I know it's frustrating. I can relate too.. My SIL just turned 19 and has a 4 month old. Baby's father is MIA (not sure she even knows whose it is), she doesn't have a DL, never had a job, and lives with her parents. Knows absolutely NOTHING about being an adult, but was blessed with this sweet little baby. The baby is so precious, but I resent the situation so much that I can't stand to be around her. Which then makes me feel bad.

  :: Me: 30 ~ DH: 27 ::

     :: TTC since Oct 2013 ~ NTNP since Dec 2010 ::

  :: DX: PCOS Characteristics & MFI ::

  ~May 2014: 1st Consult with RE~

  ~SA #1/#2 (low on all #'s), HSG (found non-threatening uterine fibroid)~

  ~*1500mg Metformin Daily*~

  *June: Medicated Cycle #1: 5mg Letrozole + Trigger + TI + Progesterone = BFN* 

  *July: Medicated Cycle #2: 5mg Letrozole + Trigger + TI + Progesterone = BFN*

   *Aug: Medicated Cycle #3: 5mg Letrozole + Trigger + TI + Progesterone = BFN*

  *Sept: IUI #1: 5mg Letrozole + Follistim + Ovidrel + IUI + Progesterone = BFN*

  Possibly Looking at IVF.. RE Suggested DH See a Urologist Before Moving On With Treatments 

  *Currently on a Break*

  ~*All Welcome*~

   

   

   ::: 3T November Siggy Challenge: Animals Being Jerks:::

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• emmuffy member

  October 2014

  How frustrating. Your niece is lucky to hasve you

  Official diagnosis: Unexplained IF. I am 32. I have low ovarian reserve (low AMH), and poor egg quality. I've also been diagnosed with mild glandular developmental arrest (lining problems, detected with EFT).

  We are using open ID donor sperm. IUIs #1-7=BFN. IVF September 2014 antagonist protocol, 8R,5M,3F, 5 day transfer of 1 morula = BFN. IVF#2 planned for January 2015 (antagonist protocol + HGH).

   

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• SND1231 member

  October 2014

  I can soo relate!! My cousin (who is more like my sister) got pregnant when she was 18 and I helped her take care of the baby since she was a single mom.  She lived with me the first few months after her baby was born.  She then got pregnant with another persons baby (as she was engaged to another guy) and gave birth to another child at 20.  Now she is "trying" to get pregnant with her third baby at 22 and knowing her luck she will get KU in no time! It drives me insane!! I love my cousin and I am happy for her... But I fully admit it.... I AM JEALOUS!
  

  Married: 12/15/2012    TTC: 08/2014
  Husband: 26 SA: normal
  Me: 23 Low AMH and damaged ovaries due to chemotherapy.
  No AF or O in 3 years. HSG showed a slight T shaped uterus.
  
  High Risk OB 9/29- got the ok to get pregnant.
  RE Appt:  10/28/ U/S showed follicles, but also small damaged ovaries.
  B/W results CD0: all normal except low AMH at 1.3
  Cycle 1-November (TI)- Femera 2.5mg, 2mg Estradoil, and Trigger=BFN
  Cycle 2-December (TI)- Femera 2.5 mg ,4mg Estradoil, and Trigger= No O
  Cycle 3-January (TI)- Femera 5 mg, 2mg Estradoil, and Trigger=
  
  
  

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