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On The Playground (opinons needed)

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We were at the park last week and as we were leaving DD told me that there was a girl who was wanting to push all four swings.  DD tried to get on and the girl told her she was using all the swings and to go on the baby swings.  DD told the girl she couldn't reach the baby swings and sat down on one of the big kid swings, the girl didn't say another word and DD was able to swing.  I told her she handled it well and left it at that.  But it got me thinking, how should you handle it if your LO comes up to you and tells you what is going on?  Like do you encourage them to try to handle it first and if the other kid doesn't comply, then say something to the child? 
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Re: On The Playground (opinons needed)

  • AndrewsgalAndrewsgal member
    Yep I always try to give them the tools to handle it first and then step in if needed. SoundS like she did a great job on her own.
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    I usually ask "What do you think you should do?"  Then, I can help him come up with a plan.  I don't usually step in unless it escalates.

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    spring_time said:
    I usually ask "What do you think you should do?"  Then, I can help him come up with a plan.  I don't usually step in unless it escalates.
    So let's say LO decides he/she just wants to play on something else until the other child leaves, is that an acceptable plan?  As opposed to confronting or ignoring?  Obviously you wouldn't make your child do something they are uncomfortable with, but if your LO said, "I'll go back later" would you offer other ideas?  Or just say, 'sounds good!'
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    sschwege said:


    spring_time said:

    I usually ask "What do you think you should do?"  Then, I can help him come up with a plan.  I don't usually step in unless it escalates.

    So let's say LO decides he/she just wants to play on something else until the other child leaves, is that an acceptable plan?  As opposed to confronting or ignoring?  Obviously you wouldn't make your child do something they are uncomfortable with, but if your LO said, "I'll go back later" would you offer other ideas?  Or just say, 'sounds good!'


    Yes totally acceptable. I have walked away from situations I am sure we all have.
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    edited October 2014
    sschwege said:
    spring_time said:
    I usually ask "What do you think you should do?"  Then, I can help him come up with a plan.  I don't usually step in unless it escalates.
    So let's say LO decides he/she just wants to play on something else until the other child leaves, is that an acceptable plan?  As opposed to confronting or ignoring?  Obviously you wouldn't make your child do something they are uncomfortable with, but if your LO said, "I'll go back later" would you offer other ideas?  Or just say, 'sounds good!'
    I would just say "sounds good" and move on.  It is a perfectly acceptable response.  If his answer is he will ask her again to play, I might lead him through a scenario of "What if..." and give suggestions.

    I think the most important thing is that the solution comes from the kid rather than directed by the parent.

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