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XP: Sleep hell...traveling s/o

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We both work but for the last two months my husband has been traveling across the country a couple days a week. Usually Tues-Fri. He normally doesn't have to travel this much for his job (he's in IT but they're doing a major update that he has to be there in person). Things go back to normal the end of this month.

Sleep wise DS has been awful. Crying himself to sleep (with me checking in on him periodically), resisting bedtime, resisting naps.....

I can tell he misses his dad a lot. I have an app that lets us video chat with DH but my service out where I live is terrible so it's really choppy.

Any advice from those who travel a lot or their s/o does?

Married: August 2008
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
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  • sjames2sjames2 member
    We video chat every night. It is sometimes choppy but DD just likes to show DH her toys and that we are reading books. If we can't video for any reason we voice chat with my phone on speaker. I take a picture of DD and send to DH and sometimes DH will send one of him for DD.
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  • wineandcakewineandcake member
    DH was working a 7 on 7 off schedule out of town for the first 15 months of DS' life. When it was just me and him at home he was miserable, he wouldn't sleep, needed to be held at all times and just not happy. When DH was home, he was a completely different baby - sleeping better, happy, would play, and fun to be around. As much as I tried to not let it effect the baby, I think my stress from being alone was rubbing off on him and that's why we had such a rough time together. We would try to FaceTime often, call dad at night to say hello, and get out of the house as much as possible.

    This is not related to your issue, but, We made the choice to have DH take a transfer to a new base in a small community so we could move there and be together daily. It seriously changed everything, DS is so much happier, I'm so much happier, and DH loves being able to come home and see him throughout the work day/be home for dinner and bed every night. I'm not stressed about being alone with the baby, animals, and having to do all the housework, it was the best choice we could have made for our family.
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  • SummerLove21SummerLove21 member

    When DH is gone, I am much stricter about a bedtime routine and we start at the exact same time every night.  We usually do bath, brush teeth, read whatever nighttime book we're on (currently "Goodnight Moon"), he turns off the light, and we rock/sway for five minutes before I put him in his crib.  I think it helps create a reliable environment in the face of the change of not having DH around.

    We also Skype as much as possible, but I don't really notice a difference between the days we do and don't. 

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  • sjames2sjames2 member
    @SummerLove21‌ DH calls the time he's away "Mommy's Bootcamp!" Because I also am very strict with bedtime and rules.
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