Too Soon?

jnnfrrose6 · October 2014

Ok ladies, who's already thinking about the next baby? Too soon? If we go for #3, we'd still wait until DD turned 1, but we're definitely already talking about it. Are there others out there who have started planning for another?

ChrisB · October 2014

We quickly dismissed having another after all the problems I had after Spencer was born. Now, I am thinking it would be nice to have another little babe. I am no where near wanting one right away, but with the big 4-0 lurking around the corner, we have some serious decisions to make.

bullybutt · October 2014

I'll be 34 next week and for a lot of people that seems ancient. I have very easy pregnancies and am very fertile. I would like more children but I'm not sure of the dynamics between 3 or 4 kids. 4 would be my absolute max. I love babies, especially mine. I want to make sure that DS is in school before trying for another one though. So at least a couple more years down the road.

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reg202 · October 2014

I would love to have another asap but financially that isn't wise for us so we are waiting another year or so before we start TTC again.

jensavicci · October 2014

I've had thoughts. I've lurked the trying to get pregnant boards and babies on the brain. But, I'm also being realistic and know that at this time, financially, we should not try again.

littlemissmarla · October 2014

2 years and then we will hit up IVF again, the bright side of IVF is I know it will take 3 months so I'm planning for another summer baby.

shamyfowler · October 2014

My original plan was 2 and that's it. DD1 was a really fussy, high maintenance baby. And I'm sure a lot of that was FTM uncertainty. Plus DD1 was born c/s. DD2 has been a dream baby, completely opposite of DD1. And I had her VBAC and it was the most wonderful thing to experience. So I have been kind of thinking of another one, and I think mainly it's just to experience the whole birth process again because I feel a little cheated with my c/s. I have such easy pregnancies and feel great the whole time. So maybe I'm just missing the being pregnant more than anything? But I kind of want another one!

TugboatSheila · October 2014

We definitely want another but as of right now want to wait until F is 3 wish to start trying.

argonne · October 2014

I am done. However, when DH and I were discussing BC options, he poo-poo'd permanent options (vasectomy or tubal ligation/essure). Apparently, he wants to hold out another 3 years or so to see if we want another. I'm 34 now and I really don't want to be having another baby around 38. Not that there's anything wrong with having a baby at that age, it's just not what I see for myself and my family. Plus, I really only ever wanted 2.

After I had DS, I was itching to try again very soon after, but DH wasn't on board. Now I feel like the roles have reversed.

honeybee434 · October 2014

I think we will start trying this summer unless we have a change of heart between now and then. I would like to wait for the 1 year mark since that's what the general rec is after c section. I like the idea of them being 2 years apart in school vs 3 for some reason, and with a June birthday that doesn't give me a huge time frame if we shoot for that mark.

hrgwu2006 · October 2014

We haven't decided. Never really knew how many we wanted to begin with. We just had our first and would like to see how that goes. We did discuss having about 4 years in between so my IUD was just put in. My pets are my kids too, and right now I feel like I have no time for them because of the new LO. Worried about having another and neglecting our current kiddo. Kuddos to you all who are currently doing that. Super moms!

abundancenow · October 2014

It seems too soon for me to consider another and I'm probably done. It really took over two years after ds to consider another and then my mom died, so it wasn't a good time. It took me really a year to physically feel normal after being pregnant with ds, plus working full time, I felt spread too thin. I've always been surprised by ladies who feel prepared for another months after having a baby.

cookiemomma14 · October 2014

We've talked about it. But I think we'd have to DTD first for that to happen.

shortstack930 · October 2014

We definitely want to wait until DD is a year old before trying again since I had a c section and we just bought a house so we need time to move and adjust to living in another state. We will probably have at least 2 more.

Prncesta · October 2014

We've already discussed having another one. I'm 31 and want to be done by 35 (if possible) we want 3, so when DD is 1 well start trying again...

nolemomma14 · October 2014

Financially we can't have another one right now, but we're both okay with that. DS is a great baby so we are fine with just him for now. In the next couple of years DH will be taking over the family company when his dad retires, and we will be better off financially. The plan is to start TTC when DS is around 18 months. We would like to have 3 or 4, but we will see how it goes with our first one, and then with two!

Monicalynnsd · October 2014

I just turned 39 and this is my first, my husband has always wanted more than one, and I wanted to see how one went before I decided if I want another. The first month was much harder than I thought it would be, I had a fussy high maintenance baby, but now she has blossomed into this sweet, alert, happy baby, so I'll definitely have another! We're not using bc, because we figure if I got pregnant again it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world, and since I'm breast feeding exclusively it probably won't happen! Ideally we will step it up and really start trying around 6 months. I HATED being pregnant, but I bounced back really quickly, so I kind of want to hurry up and get it over with again! Plus my clock is majorly ticking!!

jrinehart0 · October 2014

My first trimester was absolutely miserable, and I said I would never do it again. Everyone says you forget, and I didn't believe them. Well, by the third trimester I forgot! We have a very easy baby, so I am ready to have another now. But, my husband would like to wait. Financially, waiting is the right decision. We will probably talk about it again next summer.

Csltdk · October 2014

I have 9 frosties left over but after the labor I had the drs strongly advise me to not get pregnant again. Somedays it makes me want to cry, and other days I'm like thank god I'm only having 1

But mostly I'm sad about it

AnotherPreggo · October 2014

*IF* we try for more, it won't be until DS is a year old. Too nervous about losing my milk supply with morning sickness, and we heavily rely on it because of his food intolerances.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

The absolute earliest I'd want another is when DS2 is about 2 1/2 but closer to 3 would be preferable. And hopefully potty-trained.

I'm not sure I want to tempt fate, though. DS1 was a hard newborn and DS2 is SO easy. I'm afraid #3 might be the most difficult of them all. I know in the grand scheme of life it's a short period of time but I do value my sanity...

mamaloaf · October 2014

As long as my lady-parts agree, we aren't done. I'd like to have at least one more, but I'm not ready to be pregnant again just yet.

That being said, I am not going back on birth control and DH hates condoms, so I'm one glass of wine away from a second baby...

ADC1979 · October 2014

cookiemomma14 said:

We've talked about it. But I think we'd have to DTD first for that to happen.

So much truth in this!

We want to have one more, but it's going to be a while. I just am not sure when to start trying, since it took so long for LO. But I had a c-section so we have to wait to make sure that's all healed, anyhow.

darkangel42 · October 2014

I wanted another in the early days after DD2 but I'm fairly sure that was my hormones talking since I'm now back to not wanting any more (not a firm 'do not want', I'd be thrilled if it did happen again for us).

Unfortunately, DH is now certain he wants another. I would probably do it, assuming we didn't have issues again but we're several years apart on when we would want that to happen.

mdaniels4813 · October 2014

Our original plan was three years in between each child we had, with a total of probably 4 kids, but we decided that might only be the rule this first time around. We want another and I want to have kids closer in age, but because we are both working on our degrees and I had a c-section, we will wait the three years this time because we should be done with our degrees then and actually be making good money.

However, we might have them closer together from then on, which was a nice decision that my husband agreed to.

missilini · October 2014

I'm definitely ready. I had a super easy pregnancy and DD is an awesome baby and so easy. We have 2 frosties left. My RE and OB said I only have to wait 6 months. I want to try again in January but DH wants to wait until spring. We all know who will win this fight though.

dobbyisfree · October 2014

Waiting at least a year, probably 18 months. After how hard the end of my pregnancy was, and how Im still seeing Docs about my blood pressure, DH wants to be one and done... but as long.as it doesnt risk my health, I would like 2 more. I always wanted a big family... so we will see!

Pinksundrops · October 2014

We're already trying! Or rather not preventing since I'm breastfeeding we realize it likely won't happen for awhile. I have baby fever so bad already and he's still so little! I can't believe I had two way back when who are now 12 and 15, waited to even think about having another, and now am considering having as many as we can before we can't have any anymore!

NugsMom · October 2014

We have to wait at least a year because of my c/s, and the midwife said yesterday they prefer kids to be at least 18 months apart if I want to try a VBAC. That being said, we will probably try again when DS is 2 or so. We want to buy a house and settle down some between now and then. We are feeling cramped in our current house.

SuperTinkerham · October 2014

We are already not preventing and I would love it to happen naturally. I'm 35, had 3 rounds of IVF (1fresh, 2 FET) to get Milo after 5 years of trying. I desperately want another. I loved pregnancy. This kid is even more awesome than I could've anticipated. If I'm not pg in a year I'm going to push to adopt sibs from foster care.

darkangel42 · October 2014

Those of you who had easy pregnancies, I glare at you all (playfully, of course!).

Belovedvirgo0209 · October 2014

We have a now 2yr old and we got pregnant with her little sister 3 weeks after her first birthday so they are 21 months apart and we are planning to start trying for #3 on DD#2 first Birthday so hopefully all the kids will be about 2 yrs apart.

1982Babies · October 2014

I was originally thinking 2 years apart, but now I am thinking 3. If I go 3, that means I will be about 35 when I deliver. I'm okay with that.

Of course, we'll see what DH says. Right now, he gets her at fussy time.

jcartz · October 2014

We are done. I also said that after DD1, and it took me 4 years to be ready to try... But for realz, we are two & through.

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