Has Dr ever gotten sex wrong?

LBeez13 · October 2014

SO I just had a friend tell me that at 16 weeks they were told girl and then later were told boy at 21 weeks. Is this really still common? I figured it would be super common back in the day but not recently as much. Has this happened to anyone recently??

Just curious.....I was told girl but am waiting for one more ultrasound to start buying stuff but I feel like my doctor has to be right even though he didn't get that good of a view during the ultrasound.

alexandria22489 · October 2014

I would assume it would be pretty common. 16 weeks can still be a bit early for a defnite answer. Fortunately they didn't find out at 40 weeks after everything was already purchased, that has happened twice to people in my family.

071115 · October 2014

16 weeks is early to determine I wouldn't listen if they told me that early!

LBeez13 · October 2014

Yeah I get that it happens and I am getting mostly neutral stuff so I don't really care either way..... but I thought this was a thing that happened mostly back in the day.

I've heard stories but no one I knew recently has ever had this happen until now.

LBeez13 · October 2014

@alexandria228489 2 people in your family!! Wow I guess I don't have enough friends and family with babies because I've only heard it from my parents generation.

@071115 Yes 16 weeks is early. I was told boy last time at 16 weeks and didn't trust it until later on either.

Whitfry · October 2014

This happened to a friend of mine. At her a/s she was told girl. She had a boy. Went on to have two other boys, too. I think that boys are often mistaken for girls because it's easy for genitals to be hidden and thought not to be there. You don't hear of it happening the other way around as much, though.

LBeez13 · October 2014

Yeah a lot of my newborn and 0-3 months is pretty neutral so I am reusing a lot. We also did the swing, pack n play, big ticket items, etc. all in neutral.

LBeez13 · October 2014

@happymamax2 I hadn't really heard of it going that way too often. My dad kept telling me with my last pregnancy that it was going to pop out and be a girl. I kept trying to tell him that I had seen the "stuff" plenty of times, I was sure it was a boy. I guess I shouldn't have been too sure! That is crazy. He did pop out a boy though so my dad was clearly wrong.

starsailorr26 · October 2014

I have an acquaintance who was told she was having a girl at her a/s. Her son is now about 8 years old.

LBeez13 · October 2014

@jessuhmarie my doctor didn't show us any parts so I am waiting for another ultrasound to feel really confident in saying, "It's a girl." I will be happy either way but not seeing any real identifying things on the US makes me not want to be completely sold one way or the other.

I always felt like it was a random person that this happened to but now that my friend told me her story, I am thinking this isn't as uncommon as I thought.

daizedoo · October 2014

I thought for sure I was having a girl, and the Harmony test came back 99.6% boy. My instinct was so strong that it was a girl, regardless of science and as ridiculous as this sounds, I'm waiting for that A/S visualization.

sweaver93 · October 2014

My cousin had multiple ultrasounds saying girl, and on her due date he came out all boy!

daizedoo · October 2014

MandJS said:

daizedoo said:

I thought for sure I was having a girl, and the Harmony test came back 99.6% boy. My instinct was so strong that it was a girl, regardless of science and as ridiculous as this sounds, I'm waiting for that A/S visualization.

I'd trust the Harmony test (DNA based) over the a/s visualization, honestly...

I know it's illogical...I can't get over the fact my intuition was wrong, that's what really bothers me. I thought mother's intuition was always right! @-)

GingerMommy315 · October 2014

I'm so afraid of this happening. I didn't even want a "guess" at my N/T scan. Unless they know for sure... I don't want to know!

Hopefully my anatomy scan will give an obvious answer. It will be a high definition U/S, so hopefully it's clear!

genmccarley · October 2014

One of my really close friends just had this happen to her. Her sons about a year and a half now, but at her 20 week scan they were told girl. She was loaded with a bunch of pink stuff after her shower and at 38 weeks she had a scan to check out an unrelated health issue & the tech revealed that it was a boy!!! She had a week of exchanging pink for blue (clothes; her big stuff was neutral as they plan to have more).

We are planning to find out sex but things like this makes team green super appealing!

starsailorr26 · October 2014

daizedoo said:

MandJS said:

daizedoo said:

I thought for sure I was having a girl, and the Harmony test came back 99.6% boy. My instinct was so strong that it was a girl, regardless of science and as ridiculous as this sounds, I'm waiting for that A/S visualization.

I'd trust the Harmony test (DNA based) over the a/s visualization, honestly...

I know it's illogical...I can't get over the fact my intuition was wrong, that's what really bothers me. I thought mother's intuition was always right! @-)

I was convinced I was going to have a boy the first time. So much so that when the sonographer told us it was a girl, I blurted out "Are you sure"? She wasn't amused and we have a daughter.

crunchymamaof2 · October 2014

I have a friend that was told she was having a boy and out popped a girl. It happens. I always ask for proof so to speak, instead of just having the tech say girl or boy.

LBeez13 · October 2014

I guess I was out of the loop. Sounds like it still happens pretty frequently. Just the first time I've known someone personally made me curious if this really does happen a lot.

My last intuition was a boy and it was right. I don't think I really had any intuition this time around.

JCWhitey · October 2014

I feel like everyone knows someone whose baby came out different from what they had been told. My cousin flat out refuses to ever find out because her best friend was supposed to have a girl and he came out a boy. They had everything customized with their girl name, tons of pink stuff (not that it's a huge deal), but they had a custom Baptismal gown made, too. Spent a ton of money on a bunch of things they never ended up uses.

We were Team Green last time but are finding out this time, but I don't plan to 100% accept it. Maybe if they show me in 3D and it's clear as day, but otherwise I'll only be convinced at the birth.

Mic512 · October 2014

We were told Girl by the Harmony / DNA test, but I feel the same way I did with DS (same cravings & everything). We were told that the Harmony test was 10% wrong when they say girl. I am waiting until the gender scan to put all my eggs in the team pink basket.

jpavenski · October 2014

Wow I can't believe how common this is either. My intuition the first time at least in the beggining said girl & I have a cute little boy sleeping upstairs! We were team green last time, very happy with all my neutral gear. We had my 18 week ultrasound today & the results are in an envelope waiting to be taken to the bakery tomorrow. But now I'm wondering how accurate they are, the tech was very quick when looking at that area.

JenLa21 · October 2014

Definitely still happens. But not to us since we're team green for the second time

no mistaking in the delivery room. I can't imagine having things personalized with baby's name, and having the opposite sex. That would really throw me for a loop. Not having a name picked out...

I never understand why people go nuts with pink strollers, and car seats, and everything else, just because baby #1 is a girl. Not that babies care, and it's really just a color. But all the frilly pink stuff, you're just not gonna want to use if you have a boy the next time around.

blinksmb · October 2014

harper3 said:

JenLa21 said:
Definitely still happens. But not to us since we're team green for the second time no mistaking in the delivery room. I can't imagine having things personalized with baby's name, and having the opposite sex. That would really throw me for a loop. Not having a name picked out...

I never understand why people go nuts with pink strollers, and car seats, and everything else, just because baby #1 is a girl. Not that babies care, and it's really just a color. But all the frilly pink stuff, you're just not gonna want to use if you have a boy the next time around.
I don't understand the pink thing either. We knew my first was a girl and still purchased all neutral baby gear. It's much more versatile if you have more children or decide to donate to someone else.

I never understood that either. At my last appointment my doctor said "in 4 weeks you'll see the sex on the ultrasound and finally be able to start buying stuff!" I must have looked like my brain was going to melt because she changed the subject real quick.

I especially don't get it because I sure as hell don't wear and live in a world of pink frills just because I'm lacking in penis. In my eyes it seems just as strange to do it to a baby.

crunchymamaof2 · October 2014

EmpireRecords24 said:

My co-worker was told boy at 16 weeks, 20 weeks, and then again at 32 weeks. When baby was born-- SURPRISE-- Team Pink! She was OVER. THE. MOON. (She has two little boys at home, and this is their last, so she'd been sort of wishing for a little girl.) So definitely still happens.

I don't think I'll believe them if they tell us it's a girl. We have two boys and odds aren't in my favor. I love squishy little boys and we just want another healthy baby, but I'd be super thrilled to have a little girl as this is our last child. I would go nuts with pink and bows as everything we have is neutral and I like pink damnit lol.

kmvisioli · October 2014

My cousin was told girl, then found out at her last u/s (after doing the nursery, having a totally pink baby shower, and stocking up on pink clothes) "oops, it's actually and definitely a boy." She was pretty upset because she has two boys already and she was so excited about the girl. Of course she got over that and adores her three boys now, though.

I feel like I won't be able to really believe the dr or tech, and wouldn't buy anything gender-specific until after the LO arrives anyway.

MalVough · October 2014

My co-worker was 100% ready for a girl. Pink everything.

Baby came out... BOY!

Her DH had to go home and switch out all of the baby gear. They also hadn't discussed boy names.

That was a little over a year ago. It happens.

052806 · October 2014

harper3 said:

Definitely still happens. But not to us since we're team green for the second time no mistaking in the delivery room. I can't imagine having things personalized with baby's name, and having the opposite sex. That would really throw me for a loop. Not having a name picked out... I never understand why people go nuts with pink strollers, and car seats, and everything else, just because baby #1 is a girl. Not that babies care, and it's really just a color. But all the frilly pink stuff, you're just not gonna want to use if you have a boy the next time around.
I don't understand the pink thing either. We knew my first was a girl and still purchased all neutral baby gear. It's much more versatile if you have more children or decide to donate to someone else.

All of our gear is neutral from our first two because we didn't know after #1 what the sex of #2 would be. I felt the same way as you guys do about the abundance of pink stuff and I still do to some extent. A pink school bus toy? Really? How is that representative of reality?

BUT now that I am having my third, and it is my last with no siblings to pass it on to... I am going for girly, and impractical just because I can. Pink carseat? Sure. Why not? I still stand firm on the toy thing though. School buses in nature are yellow, not pink... my daughter will play with appropriately colored toys, primary colors are all good.

jacqueleen1 · October 2014

16 weeks is still early to tell. If they say its a boy at that time its a larger chance they are right because you cant argue with a perfect penis shot. The best time to tell sex is at 20 weeks because everything should definitely be formed by then

LBeez13 · October 2014

@malvough The name thing would kill me because it takes us foreeeeevvver to decide on a name. Last time we passed my due date and we still didn't have a name picked out. IF this type of thing ever did happen to me we may have a baby with no name for a while.

jpavenski · October 2014

I totally agree with everyone on the pink stuff, I am not a fan of pink so don't get it for kids. Especially the toys, I found some stuff from when I was a kid in my parents attic, a blue & red baby carriage, green playpen, kitchen in real kitchen colors. Pink school bus is really silly!

chelip · October 2014

Yes! It happened to me in my first pregnancy i was told girl at 20 weeks and had another ultrasound at 36 weeks n turns out it was a boy! I had just had my baby shower too

lgenerelli · October 2014

It is more common for them to say girl and find out boy than vice versa. Until then trust your dr or ask for an additional blood test . Don't let people scare you with stories.

toimadness1 · October 2014

Well at 17 weeks 5 days we were told girl. Super excited cause we already have a son and both really want a daughter. Today at my 20 week ultrasound we got "well I'd start thinking about other names because I'm 100% it's a boy" from the ultrasound tech. Doctor looked at images and said she still would have thought girl but to trust the ultrasound tech cause that's their main job. Not very reassuring.

bdazzld · October 2014

jessuhmarie said:

JCWhitey said:

I feel like everyone knows someone whose baby came out different from what they had been told. My cousin flat out refuses to ever find out because her best friend was supposed to have a girl and he came out a boy. They had everything customized with their girl name, tons of pink stuff (not that it's a huge deal), but they had a custom Baptismal gown made, too. Spent a ton of money on a bunch of things they never ended up uses.

We were Team Green last time but are finding out this time, but I don't plan to 100% accept it. Maybe if they show me in 3D and it's clear as day, but otherwise I'll only be convinced at the birth.

So I have read too much in my paranoia that I was told wrong with my daughter and with this baby lol
Apparently, and again this is all stuff I've read on the internet from people claiming to be sonographers on message boards so definitely not law, 3d imaging is the least reliable in sex determination bc essentially the machine is just taking the 2d image and making it 3d if that makes sense? I don't think you're actually getting a picture of baby that is 100% like you would if you had a window into the womb. The machine/technology can image or not image things that are or are not there. I hope that makes sense

I definitely can skip things, they did a peek in 3D of her face yesterday and her whole nose was missing lol soooooo very easily could lose a small appendage.

toimadness1
-.- That's frustrating, I'm sorry!

FrecklesInside · October 2014

::still wondering when back in day is...::

BabySuleman · October 2014

I've heard it is quite common for mistakes to be made. DNA scans are not available where I live. So I am doing 2 scans. One that is paid for by the government, and the 3d scan that I will pay for. Hopefully both places will give me the same answers!

LBeez13 · October 2014

@toimadness1 That is crazy. I would probably not be convinced either way at this point! I would say okay lets just do team green because I've heard 2 different answers haha.

@frecklesinside My version of "back in the day" for this post was really meaning when our parents had us. My mom said her ultrasound was so unclear but she was still told girl. I just heard of it really happening more with our parents generation. I had never really known anyone around my age personally that it had happened to recently.

koshveily · October 2014

052806 said:
...School buses in nature are yellow, not pink...

Well, when they're born, they are a lighter shade of grey in order to camouflage with their surroundings. It's a defense mechanism.

koshveily · October 2014

FrecklesInside said:
::still wondering when back in the day is...::

According to Dane Cook, it was a Wednesday.

Biscotto · October 2014

We've been told my two different doctors that it's a girl (16 week ultrasound and 20 week ultrasound). At the 20 week ultrasound there were three definite lines. We have another ultrasound in two weeks, I think I'll believe it more then that it's a girl.

A close friend of my SIL was told throughout her pregnancy that her baby was a girl, and it turned out to a boy at birth. She's pregnant again and doesn't want to be told this time.

Another friend had an elective gender ultrasound around 17 weeks, told it was a girl. She decorated her nursery and started buying girl things. At an ultrasound around 27 weeks she found it was a boy.

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