birthday problem

Sexy5suga · October 2014

DS's birthday is Oct 8th and i am so worried that I may give birth on his birthday. He's turning 8 and it's hard for him to always hear new baby everything so I was hoping to make his birthday special this year. I didn't expect to be over due and this close to his birthday. At first I was so anxious about getting her out but now I'm praying that she stays in and comes later. I guess it's important to me since i wouldn't want to share my birthday with a sibling.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

I have a friend who shares a birthday with her sister. It's cool.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

Saragoeswest said:
I have a friend who shares a birthday with her sister. It's cool.

Are they close in age or far apart?

Saragoeswest · October 2014

Sexy5suga said:

Saragoeswest said:
I have a friend who shares a birthday with her sister. It's cool.
Are they close in age or far apart?

Three years apart.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

This is one of those things that isn't worth worrying about because you have no control over it. Even if they share a birthday, that's completely out of your control, and perhaps I'm crazy for saying this, but birthdays really lose their huge "OMG IT'S MY SPECIAL DAY!!!" significance at some point, and in the grand scheme of how many years we are on earth, that happens earlier rather than later. It would not be the end of the world.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

LO will be the first baby girl on my side and the first grandchild on DH side so everyone is so excited. I did have a talk with him to let him know that I love him endlessly and he is not being replaced.

Starfish17 · October 2014

I can understand how you're feeling. DD's birthday was at the end of September, and I really didn't want this baby to come early on her birthday, (or really even in September). I feel like I wanted them both to have their special birthday month. Being due in the middle of October, I figured I was pretty safe, but still was nervous. This baby though is due the day after my birthday, and everyone keeps saying that they hope she doesn't share the same day as me. I don't personally care if we share, but I can see their point. Even though birthdays at some point do lose some of the "specialness, all about me day," it's nice when they can have separate days when they are younger, and especially if it sounds like he may be having some adjustment issues.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

golfingdarwinfish said:
This is one of those things that isn't worth worrying about because you have no control over it. Even if they share a birthday, that's completely out of your control, and perhaps I'm crazy for saying this, but birthdays really lose their huge "OMG IT'S MY SPECIAL DAY!!!" significance at some point, and in the grand scheme of how many years we are on earth, that happens earlier rather than later. It would not be the end of the world.

I agree it will lose significance in a few years, but maybe because it will be the first one that i am taking it this hard.

golfingdarwinfish · October 2014

Sexy5suga said:

This is one of those things that isn't worth worrying about because you have no control over it. Even if they share a birthday, that's completely out of your control, and perhaps I'm crazy for saying this, but birthdays really lose their huge "OMG IT'S MY SPECIAL DAY!!!" significance at some point, and in the grand scheme of how many years we are on earth, that happens earlier rather than later. It would not be the end of the world.
I agree it will lose significance in a few years, but maybe because it will be the first one that i am taking it this hard.

Understandable. It may be a bit more work on your part when they're younger to make sure there are two different themes and whatnot, but at least 8 years is a pretty decent age difference!

persephonerose · October 2014

You are probably taking it harder than he is. I would make sure you aren't projecting your feelings onto him. Regardless of sharing a birthday with a sibling, you can always make sure he has special day all to himself.

I am having twins and I know at some point they will probably want their own parties but I am not stressing about it. Part of having siblings is having share things like toys, parent's time/attention, and special events like Christmas. How you deal with it will set the tone for him.

Saragoeswest · October 2014

I don't completely understand how you can be taking it hard when it hasn't even happened.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

Starfish17 said:
I can understand how you're feeling. DD's birthday was at the end of September, and I really didn't want this baby to come early on her birthday, (or really even in September). I feel like I wanted them both to have their special birthday month. Being due in the middle of October, I figured I was pretty safe, but still was nervous. This baby though is due the day after my birthday, and everyone keeps saying that they hope she doesn't share the same day as me. I don't personally care if we share, but I can see their point. Even though birthdays at some point do lose some of the "specialness, all about me day," it's nice when they can have separate days when they are younger, and especially if it sounds like he may be having some adjustment issues.

I knew I wouldn't escape the same month but I was hoping to dodge the same day. I am going to keep hoping she passes it by.

Sexy5suga · October 2014

Saragoeswest said:
I don't completely understand how you can be taking it hard when it hasn't even happened.

It's just a feeling I'm having.

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