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Emotional disaster after scare (all is ok)

IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
in April 2015 Moms
Hey ladies. I want to preface this by saying that I am so fortunate that-- so far-- everything is going well with this pregnancy. I know that is not the case with everyone, and I don't take my fortune for granted.

I am 11 weeks and had some light spotting at the end of last week. Called my doc  and went in for an ultrasound today just to confirm everything was on track. For what felt like hours (probably seconds) my doctor was stone-faced as no image of baby appeared on the screen and the heartbeat line was flat. The feeling that hit me was utter sadness, unlike anything I've yet felt. After what felt like an eternity the little one appeared, was moving around, and the heartbeat was picked up. Phew!

Since I'm a negative blood type they decided to give me the Rhogam shot which is not normally administered until 28 wks. The doc also said I might have a fibroid.

I should be elated after getting the all clear, but I can't seem to shake that initial feeling of devastation that hit me in the doc's office. And of course now I'm running worst-case Rhogam/fibroid scenarios through my head.

Does anyone have any strategies for dealing with these haywire emotions? I'm normally pretty even keeled and but am a total basket case despite good news.
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  • kbehelrkbehelr member
    I had a trip to the er this weekend due to bleeding and today the doc could not find a heartbeat. Luckily he immediately got me and US and all is ok. It's been a rough couple of days. I try to focus on what I can do for my baby. Drink plenty of water, eat healthy and get plenty of rest. Chick flicks also help!! Stressing is not good so I find the positives to focus on. We all have a choice-dwell on the negatives or focus on the positives. Best wishes to you for a healthy pregnancy.
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  • bmblebeabmblebea member
    We had a loss before this pregnancy so I get super nervous about everything. I try to remember that right now I am pregnant and there is nothing but that. I can't do anything about tomorrow or two weeks from now and worrying only takes the joy from right now and makes the baby stressed. I don't know if it will help but thinking about that always makes me feel better. I also rub my belly a lot and send happy healthy healing thoughts in there. Hope you are able to find some strategies to help!
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    This all helps so much- thank you! I need to try and be more present in the moment rather than stressing about the future. Plus, ice cream (and kale).
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  • fartsandcraftsfartsandcrafts member
    edited October 2014
    This slumber party is for you. My anxiety is through the roof before ultrasounds and I can't imagine not seeing/hearing anything for several moments. Hang in there. This shit is emotional. Lots of blankets, hot tea, and belly love helps me.

    (The only thing I don't like about this photo is the cat.. hoping you don't mind them.)
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    Hahaha! @fartsandcrafts that pic is amazing! Those moments were AGONY. Thanks for the much needed giggle.
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  • kariemomokariemomo member
    I feel ya sister! At around 8 weeks I had a lot of brown discharge and went to clinic to get checked out. I ended having blood work to check my levels and the last ones dropped. So they called and told me I would miscarry in a few days. I was devastated, but got a second opinion from an OB and not family practice and they said everything was perfect. I have my next appointment tomorrow but feel stressed that something is wrong. I'm sure I won't sleep much tonight, but you just have to hang in there, and trust what the doctor is saying. I know it's hard, I keep second guessing her and my husband tells me that she wouldn't have told me that if something was wrong. If you pray, say a prayer for strength, if you don't talk to the universe and ask for strength. I pray aloud and in my car when I'm driving home and it always calms me down. Maybe just talking aloud even to yourself will help and calm you.

    Or eat a whole thing of Ben and Jerry's ice cream. That always does the trick...for me a bag of lays kettle cooked sharp cheddar chips and I mean the WHOLE bag!
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  • IfeellikeamammalIfeellikeamammal member
    Ugh- hang in there @kariemomo . That is scary! Sending you lots of positive thoughts for continuing good news tomorrow. Stocking up on Ben & Jerry's manana...mmm....Phish Food...
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  • Hummingbirdbaby3Hummingbirdbaby3 member
    I'm sorry about that! I was scared at our first u/s when tech couldn't find baby and told us too soon. I was hysterical. It's an awful feeling. You have gotten good advice. It's important to live in the moment and take it day by day.
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