I have a question about your experience with birthmother expenses. This stuff is getting crazy. I understand that keeping her and baby healthy and happy is very important- just not too sure where we should be drawing the line with what's "necessary" and what isn't? For example, our BM doesn't have a job or car, and lives with her mother and mother's boyfriend. Is it really up to us to find housing and provide a car for her? From a legal standpoint, AL says that we are allowed to pay for necessities in regards to the pregnancy. I guess I just don't know where to begin. Is there any advice you guys can give me? Is there anything you would flat out refuse to provide?
I guess I should add that this is a private adoption in AL, matched through a lawyer/facilitator.
trying for #1 since May 2012... we're adopting! bringing home baby boy in january 2015!