hey all, i have not posted in a long time. things have been going great with my baby (now 8 months old) and BD has been pretty drama-free. the only issue i am having, and have had in the past, and will likely have for eternity, is BD's drinking. as of now, he visits LO once during the week for an hour, and once on sundays for 2 hours, in my home while i'm there. he doesn't take her anywhere, but now that she's almost a year old, he's been talking about overnights. not gonna happen, but will cross that bridge later.
my issue is, about every other sunday, he comes over for his visits reeking like alcohol, maybe he did not drink that day. but drank the entire bar the night before. probably still legally drunk from the night before. i am "supervising" these visits, documenting when this happens. the baby is not in danger, but its driving me out of my mind. so sunday, after his booze-reeking visit, i sent him a passive aggressive text message asking him to please either come over sober or he will no longer be able to come over at all. (we don't have any CO, just whatever visitation i allow him since we have never been to court. it's within my current rights to deny all visitation.) i don't want LO to 1. be in danger, obviously, 2. be exposed to that kind of lifestyle/state of mind.
does anyone have advice about this??? like i said, he isn't taking her anywhere or endangering her, but i can't let it continue. would it be too harsh to take away these visits??? i am depressed and exhausted that i have to deal with this. (thanks for reading my vent.)